Post by UnderProtest on Dec 2, 2015 12:44:54 GMT -5
Run far away! They should be coming to your husband with their tail between their legs, not asking him to take a pay cut to fix the problems they created. I hope he can get promoted at his current job because there would be no way in hell I would go back to that place.
Your description of where you live is so spot on. I'm glad your H went right to his current boss to tell him what's up.
I'm also super pissed at myself! I drove through town this morning on my way west with our move. I should have arranged to have breakfast with you! I stopped at Headframe and bought 2 bottles as Christmas gifts.
Post by compassrose on Dec 2, 2015 18:40:09 GMT -5
I really hope his current company comes back with something good. Then not only does he get reassured he did the right thing with shitpig company but he gets an improvement at current company, too.
Maybe, your H is just waiting to put the smack down on them. Get their hopes up they are getting a Savior for cheap and then he says, "ha, I was just fucking with you like you did me. How does it feel bitches?"
Maybe, your H is just waiting to put the smack down on them. Get their hopes up they are getting a Savior for cheap and then he says, "ha, I was just fucking with you like you did me. How does it feel bitches?"
H is too nice. Damnit. He hates confrontation and will not burn bridges if it could save his life.
They are meeting tomorrow at 10:30
That's not "too nice" -- it's more along the lines of foolish and unprofessional. Pursuing this, particularly if he has no sincere interest, could burn bridges at his current employer and also with anyone who has a connection with the other bank.
Maybe, your H is just waiting to put the smack down on them. Get their hopes up they are getting a Savior for cheap and then he says, "ha, I was just fucking with you like you did me. How does it feel bitches?"
H is too nice. Damnit. He hates confrontation and will not burn bridges if it could save his life.
I think the risk is that he's told his current company he's talked to them, and indicated he wants some assurance from current company, yet keeps talking to old company. It feels weird, like he's playing current company (or could be perceived as such by current employer).
He needs to just say "for personal & professional reasons, I decline to pursue this opportunity further" and wipe his hands and move on.
Show him this thread and the advice and comments from a lot of smart ladies.
Every one of whom is saying "stop talking to them. They've already shown themselves to be unprofessional and unwilling to pay/value you to get you back. Tell them no and move on."
I seriously hope that his current company comes back with something pronto. Otherwise I fear for your H's life since you will kill him if he jumps ship for the douche canoe company.
This totally strikes me as hero complex, ego stroking, and/or eating up the drama of it. Probably a combination of the three. I'd be SO angry if my husband was acting like this.
Ugh. I can't believe he's falling for this BS. I hope he just wants all of his options in hand before he chooses and that current company can entice him to stay.
You know what. You are absolutely right, and then he complains about it "WHY AM I THE ONE THAT EVERYONE CONTACTS TO BAIL THEM OUT"
I recognize the behavior because my H does the same thing, only it's usually acting as hero for his employers. I'm way more jaded and learned to look out for #1 because no one else will.
Now I have "Billy, don't be a Hero" stuck in my head. When I worked, I used to think of myself as a corporate prostitute, prostituting my brain to the highest bidder that wouldn't cause it to explode. Clearly, I am in the look out for #1 camp.
Sorry you are having to deal with your DH being indecisive. Can he have the weekend to think about it, without all the noise?