If you share custody..

[jenstar]

How far apart do you and your ex live? And how old are your kids? What is the arrangement you have?

[sweetchix]

We live about 10 miles apart. We share 50/50 custody and have a 2/2/3 schedule. It works out nicely because this way we share the responsibilities of taking them to any extracurricular activities (i.e. Gymnastics, Girl Scouts...) since our days alternate weekly. DDs are 6 & 8 (9 at the end of the month). I thought him taking them to school might become an issue but it hasn't yet.

[cuddlyevil]

We live 30 minutes apart. Kids are 10, 6, and 4. They see him on his days off and I have them the rest of the time.

[poptart84]

We live 2.5 hours apart (his choice to move the extra 1.5) away. He has his son every weekend( his choice) unless I have a family function then he stays home, plus he takes him for breaks from school. My son is 7. Our arrangement because of distance and change of where he goes to school was verbally he wants every weekend but divorce decree says three wknds a month.

[doriswe]

We're less than 2 miles apart. DS is 11. He is with his dad every Thursday (overnight) and every other weekend (Friday after school until Sunday at 4 PM).

[1confused1]

He lives about 30 minutes away.

He has them every other weekend, Saturday 10am to Sunday 6pm.

[katiecj6]

My ex lives 2.5 hours away. Our CO says that he gets DS every other weekend, every other holiday and 2 weeks in the summer.

We meet about halfway for pick up and drop off.

Reality is that he takes DS about once a month, and I have him the rest of the time.

DS is 6.

[jenstar]

Thanks for the responses I am trying to figure out what is feasible in my situation, we're 5 minutes apart atm and I'm not sure I want to stay where I am but DS is 3 and I'm conscious that he'll be starting school in a couple of years so I would like to have a better idea of what I'm doing before then. Xh currently takes him most weekends, because that's what suits him, but our agreement says that I have full custody because he apparently can't commit to anything..
I feel like 30 minutes is probably doable. I just wish I knew what was right for my DS

[prettyinpearls]

We're 2.5 hours apart (XH's doing). He (or his wife/mom/MIL) picks up DS1 from after-school care on Friday and I drive an hour to meet him part-way on Sunday. This is how we negotiated transportation when I moved 30 minutes away and then XH decided to move another 2 hours way in the opposite direction. I'm so thankful I had a specific location listed in the judgment, because I knew XH would be moving all over the state and I wasn't about to follow him all over the place.

Anyway, I digress.

DS1 goes to XH's every other weekend and we alternate holidays. He's (almost) 6 years old and we've been doing it this way since he was 8 months old. XH does have Wednesday evening visitation, but he's never utilized it, not even when we lived 15 minutes apart in the beginning of our split.

[jojoandleo]

prettyinpearls-your sig pic is sooo cute! I can't believe how big your boys are!

[prettyinpearls]

Dec 8, 2015 10:01:49 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

prettyinpearls -your sig pic is sooo cute! I can't believe how big your boys are!

Thanks!! And because I'm a shameless AW when it comes to the boys, here's another one:

DS1 will be 6 on NYE and DS2 is 2 already!

[cm09]

xh and I are 10 minutes apart. Kids are 5 & 3. currently he has expanded standard - 1st, 3rd, 5th weekends with Thursdays on his off-weeks. Next summer he'll also add in Wednesdays on his off-weeks. So pretty close to 50/50 but not quite.

[sacattack]

We live about 10 minutes apart in the same town.

I got divorced when my kids were 1 & 3. Initially we started out with him having them Tuesday night and then every other weekend from Saturday morning till Sunday night. This worked for us for 2 reasons - I didn't not want to see my kids and this way I saw them everyday and most importantly there was no way he could care for them for longer streches. He hadn't at that point been very involved in their care, so this worked out well. As they got older he slowly got more time with them, first it was Friday night pick up then Monday morning school drop off. They are 6 & 8 now and this has worked well for us the past 5 years.

[sessy]

My ex lives 30 miles away but with traffic where we live it can take 2.5 hours.

My twins are 6 and he gets them every other weekend.