I'm getting quite antsy that things aren't being done. My mum and dad, who offered to turn their office into a nursery, have made virtually no progress on it. I don't have high standards for it at all, because it's a temporary solution, but I really need somewhere to put the change table and dresser, which won't fit in our guest room. I don't need it repainted or decorated or anything, but they need to go through all their stuff and figure out what's being kept, tossed, put in storage, and I can't help with any of that because it's not my stuff. It's frustrating because I don't want to nag them when they are kind enough to do this, but I'd really like to get it finished so I can relax.
This is going to be a long week. Dd's dad is back in the hospital. He had a valve replaced the week before thanksgiving and now has pneumonia on top of a crap heart, copd and severe anemia. I am seriously worried he will die before the baby is born. Dw will be devastated. The man is a god to her. Also the days creeping up to dd's birth gestation is pretty much pushing us over the edge. PTSD is in full force. Tomorrow would have been when I got sick. We are just a mess.
Oh and I have a huge project due on Wednesday that I am so not even close to being done with.
ivy, I really have zero plans other than to go out and see how I feel. When I initially got into running, I just went out and did a walk/run combo for a mile or so at first. So that's my plan for the first time. And I'll see how it goes. Are you still running? If so it may not be too bad when you start back up post baby.
boiler717, I'm sorry about the potential impending csection. You are so close, I hope it all works out as closely to what your hoping as possible!
Nursing is going well. He nurses great and was up to just over 11 lbs last week at his 1 month weight check. That's a 3lb weight gain since birth! And sleep...I'm getting it. lol 98% of the time Z will only sleep on my chest, so that has been a challenge. He's sleeps great, but laying him down and getting him to stay asleep is rough. I just keep telling myself it won't always be like this and that gets me through the rough nights.
ivy , I really have zero plans other than to go out and see how I feel. When I initially got into running, I just went out and did a walk/run combo for a mile or so at first. So that's my plan for the first time. And I'll see how it goes. Are you still running? If so it may not be too bad when you start back up post baby.
LOL. No. I haven't run since before I started stimming. For the last several weeks, I haven't been able to walk without pain. I literally cannot imagine how I used to be able to move my body. I'll live vicariously through your runs for the next few months!
ivy , I really have zero plans other than to go out and see how I feel. When I initially got into running, I just went out and did a walk/run combo for a mile or so at first. So that's my plan for the first time. And I'll see how it goes. Are you still running? If so it may not be too bad when you start back up post baby.
LOL. No. I haven't run since before I started stimming. For the last several weeks, I haven't been able to walk without pain. I literally cannot imagine how I used to be able to move my body. I'll live vicariously through your runs for the next few months!
What kind of pain do you get? I'm still struggling with RLP when I exercise. It's frustrating to me because I feel great otherwise.
Post by cactuscookie on Dec 7, 2015 14:35:47 GMT -5
It's a good thing my blood pressure was checked before I spent 35 minutes in the exam room waiting for the doctor, because I get so very, very angry sitting there so long for an appointment that lasts literally less than two minutes.
Baby was transverse at my appointment. (Doctor: This is the head over here, can you feel how it's rounded? Uh...no, everything feels pretty much the same to me.) I don't think she normally is though. Usually I feel hiccups really low by my pelvis; last night was the first time in weeks I felt them higher.
I'm going to a different doctor next time. It doesn't matter much, as the doctor that delivers the baby will be whoever is on call at the time, but at least this way I'll have met all three. The receptionist also said this other one is more supportive of natural births, which sounds like a good fit for me.
No weight gain since my appointment two weeks ago, although my belly has definitely grown. I'm a little surprised, because I ate many servings of cookies, pie, and cheesecake over Thanksgiving weekend. On the other hand, I can't overeat right now. There simply isn't room.
LOL. No. I haven't run since before I started stimming. For the last several weeks, I haven't been able to walk without pain. I literally cannot imagine how I used to be able to move my body. I'll live vicariously through your runs for the next few months!
What kind of pain do you get? I'm still struggling with RLP when I exercise. It's frustrating to me because I feel great otherwise.
I'm dealing with lower back, hip, and tailbone pain. RLP too if I've pushed it too hard. It's like with everything moving around, it all got out of alignment. Have you tried a support belt? It helps when I wear one.
It's a good thing my blood pressure was checked before I spent 35 minutes in the exam room waiting for the doctor, because I get so very, very angry sitting there so long for an appointment that lasts literally less than two minutes.
This makes me nuts and it happens at every appointment. I love my OB but the wait time for a 2 minute appointment is insanity.
To off set my pity party in my previous post. I have two pieces of good news. 1) this is stupid but I needed some positives today. My dd has swimming lessons on Mondays today was the last lesson of the session. I really didn't want to schlep across town at 5 pm and deal with the crazy rushed night it always is. But my kid loves it and would be very upset if she skipped. But I got a email saying something broke at the pool and lessons are cancelled. So yeah for a chill afternoon and evening!!!
2). After 3 conversations with hr, two conversations with two different union reps, and 7 emails to the union president I finally understand my parental leave and sick days and I will be able to use 5 sick days when the baby is born and 15 days later in the year as my parental leave when my dw goes back to work. It is actually more time than I thought I could take. They make it so freaking confusing. It is maddening but I think it is finally figured out. Part of it is that I never understand my actual paid leave. I rarely use my time so it is confusing. I get 10 sick days per year for me, 5 for family sick days, 4 personal leave days and 2 personal days. But it is very confusing of when to use what add that this is a new contract with a new parental leave policy that used to be paternity leave and it is one big cluster. Oh and I am fully aware that I get really good leave time. Long story short I got what I wanted. It only took a huge fight.
What kind of pain do you get? I'm still struggling with RLP when I exercise. It's frustrating to me because I feel great otherwise.
I'm dealing with lower back, hip, and tailbone pain. RLP too if I've pushed it too hard. It's like with everything moving around, it all got out of alignment. Have you tried a support belt? It helps when I wear one.
I do wear a support belt when I go for walks or "runs" (what passes for running these days), or if I'm doing a lot of chores or cooking. It doesn't seem all that comfortable or helpful while I'm wearing it, but a couple weeks ago when I forgot it while running, I ended up with BH, back aches, and cramping all evening, which freaked me out.
I'm just about to call it quits on running, but I have a few more things I want to try first, basically lengthening the walking intervals and shortening the running intervals. I'm just annoyed because my heartrate and lung capacity feel so good, but I'm limited by RLP.
Post by cactuscookie on Dec 7, 2015 16:46:53 GMT -5
I'm glad you got some good news, ssg73. I hope the next few days pass quickly and eventlessly, and you guys can start feeling better once you're past that milestone.
Well scheduling my c section did not go as planned. My OB said that he really wants to be the one to do it because he did my prior surgery and my friend wants to assist. Cool. There is only one OR time slot the entire week of the 28th, and he's booked in a different office that day so they can't schedule him that day. They can schedule me with the on call doc and my friend assisting (even though she is off that day), but I don't think they want the on call doc to operate on me. So I'm not sure what they are going to do. If they push me back to January I will flip out.
That must be incredibly stressful, ssg73. For the PTSD, does it help you at all to remember that your DW is a completely different person with a completely different pregnancy? I know coming up to the time we lost V, it helped me to remember that it was under totally different circumstances. I didn't really relax until we'd passed that milestone, but it did take the edge off and reduced my anxiety and flashbacks somewhat.
I'm back from my ob/gyn appointment. NST went well, ultrasound was perfect, and the Dr. was great. Baby A is head down again - yay! She's measuring 4lb4oz (48th percentile) and he's measuring 4lb2oz (44th percentile). He's still transverse and Dr. said that he could flip either way once the girl is out. Some Dr.'s there are comfortable with baby B being delivered breech but some are less so, so it would depend who was on call what might happen with that. Or we just schedule a c-section regardless. I don't know what makes the most sense, but we have time still to figure it out. I'm down to appointments with NSTs every week but I don't get another ultrasound for a month, if I make it that far.
As follow-up from the other day, she said they don't induce on the weekends, so the earliest induction would be 38w1d, which is 1/18. I'm hoping I go into labor on my own before then though, since I'm already measuring 40w and have almost 8.5lbs of babies in there!
That must be incredibly stressful, ssg73. For the PTSD, does it help you at all to remember that your DW is a completely different person with a completely different pregnancy? I know coming up to the time we lost V, it helped me to remember that it was under totally different circumstances. I didn't really relax until we'd passed that milestone, but it did take the edge off and reduced my anxiety and flashbacks somewhat.
Thanks Loira. It helps a little but is rational and my anxiety is not rational so it only helps so much. It is much better than it would be if I was the pregnant one that is for sure. Just three more days and we are past. I can do this right??
That must be incredibly stressful, ssg73 . For the PTSD, does it help you at all to remember that your DW is a completely different person with a completely different pregnancy? I know coming up to the time we lost V, it helped me to remember that it was under totally different circumstances. I didn't really relax until we'd passed that milestone, but it did take the edge off and reduced my anxiety and flashbacks somewhat.
Thanks Loira. It helps a little but is rational and my anxiety is not rational so it only helps so much. It is much better than it would be if I was the pregnant one that is for sure. Just three more days and we are past. I can do this right??
You've got this! I totally get about it not being rational. Just a few more days...
ginkgoleaf our babies are basically the exact same size! At my scan last Wednesday (and I'm 6 days ahead of you if I am doing math right) mine were 4lb4oz and 4lb3oz!
Fwiw I won't try a vaginal delivery unless both are vertex. I want to minimize the odds of an emergency section or a dual method delivery, and as far as I know none of the doctors in my practice do a breech extraction.
The dr today said some will do it, some won't. But she wasn't totally sure which were ok with it. My son was 8lb14oz so I know my body is capable of birthing big babies, but depends on the dr's rules too. Next week my appointment is with the dr who is most likely to agree to it, so I'll see what she says. Interestingly, she has twins too.
I totally get the appeal of a c-section with twins though, so we'll see what happens!
10w2d today. I'm throwing up a LOT more now . The only thing that sounds good to eat--ever--is Cheerios and bread. We ran out of Cheerios this weekend and I asked H if he would run to the store and get some. He said, "Ugh, I don't want to run all the way to the store just for one thing," and I batted my eyelashes and replied, "Well, I don't want to go through misery for the next nine months just for one baby, but I don't make the rules." Needless to say, I was enjoying a bowl of Cheerios within the hour. lol.
OMG I ate SO MANY Cheerios when I was pregnant with DD. It was all I wanted, and only late at night. DH said they smelled so bad but I think he's crazy. My vote is you're having a girl
Post by belovedbride07 on Dec 8, 2015 0:45:18 GMT -5
I've been reading along all day, but not responding. I'm just posting to whine about how uncomfortable I am; today was definitely a low for me. The babies are crazy active, whereas I have absolutely no energy. Aside from showering and putting on some makeup because a friend was dropping off a hand-me-down stroller and I didn't want to look like a complete mess, I did nothing today. Here's to hoping I feel better tomorrow!
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
10w2d today. I'm throwing up a LOT more now . The only thing that sounds good to eat--ever--is Cheerios and bread. We ran out of Cheerios this weekend and I asked H if he would run to the store and get some. He said, "Ugh, I don't want to run all the way to the store just for one thing," and I batted my eyelashes and replied, "Well, I don't want to go through misery for the next nine months just for one baby, but I don't make the rules." Needless to say, I was enjoying a bowl of Cheerios within the hour. lol.
OMG I ate SO MANY Cheerios when I was pregnant with DD. It was all I wanted, and only late at night. DH said they smelled so bad but I think he's crazy. My vote is you're having a girl
10w2d today. I'm throwing up a LOT more now . The only thing that sounds good to eat--ever--is Cheerios and bread. We ran out of Cheerios this weekend and I asked H if he would run to the store and get some. He said, "Ugh, I don't want to run all the way to the store just for one thing," and I batted my eyelashes and replied, "Well, I don't want to go through misery for the next nine months just for one baby, but I don't make the rules." Needless to say, I was enjoying a bowl of Cheerios within the hour. lol.
OMG I ate SO MANY Cheerios when I was pregnant with DD. It was all I wanted, and only late at night. DH said they smelled so bad but I think he's crazy. My vote is you're having a girl
Cheerios do smell bad! My kid eats them all the time and ugh!