I'm sorry, I hope he responds well to the meds. Get his vitamin D levels tested if you haven't. If it is low they can put him on a high dose prescription to get it up and then maintenance supplements after that. During the winter many people have a big dip in their D levels and it can really exacerbate depression. I am doing 5,000 IUs in addition to my zoloft right now.
Post by compassrose on Dec 10, 2015 9:49:42 GMT -5
I'm keeping a good thought for your DS1. Depression is so rough. I'm glad he has such good family support, and ditto Elsa that his school should be able to provide accommodations and support, too.
Other things to consider: SAD could exacerbate his depression, esp. if it's as foggy/cloudy in Boston as it has been in the midwest this winter. Also, if he does end up wanting to stay home with you guys longer, subletting an apt in Boston (if it's allowed through his lease) is pretty easy.
I felt very encouraged that he was managing as well as he was. He talked to his advisor and stuck it out till he could withdraw without losing his financial aid or scholarship. His GPA is good and this protects it; they were very helpful in planning with him. They outlined his schedule for next year if he wants to return, and will hold his place and his scholarship for two years, if he's able to come back. He says he REALLY wants to finish, and is looking forward to the classes they can offer him; he just can't get through it right now. I remember the feeling, and am really hoping the Wellbutrin helps him, god love him. He also says he's not thinking of hurting himself, which is huge, and he's talking to ds2 about it all, who has openly struggled with depression for three years now and is doing well with Welbutrin, therapy, and physical exercise.
I'm just so sad. You're only as happy as your least happy child, my mom always said. I wish she were here to talk to.
Thank you for sharing your side of this. I recently went through (okay, am still struggling with) a very bad depressive episode that required me to take time off from my job and I was so scared to tell my parents about it because I didn't want them to worry about me. It sucked telling them and I felt like I let them down (even thought they didn't feel let down), but it's really helped our relationship (which I would have always considered very strong) and I feel like we communicate much better now. Hugs to the whole family as you navigate this!
Post by scottyderp on Dec 10, 2015 10:35:07 GMT -5
Been there. Obviously not the exact situation, but with emotional/medical support, and the emphasis that a crooked path to finding oneself is completely fine, I am going to guess he'll be okay. I'm sorry. It's tough.
I'm so sorry, SueSue. Depression is awful. I hope that taking this time for himself is a good thing, and that he can find relief and peace soon. My thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry he's going through this and you have to watch it. I have anxiety and DH has depression, and I already see anxious signs in our 5 year old. I am terrified that one or both kids will "inherit" these from us
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by onomatopoeia on Dec 10, 2015 12:01:52 GMT -5
I'm sorry. It sounds like he's dong all the right things and has some good support in place. He's a strong kid, he'll work through it. My thoughts are with you.