Post by callmehales on Dec 10, 2015 15:45:33 GMT -5
omg, my target order with my maternity jeans is FINALLY moving!! it still isn't slated to get here until wednesday, but still. better than sitting in a freaking warehouse for three days.
I think the primary reason is still my midline incision but it does make me wonder if that would be as big of a deal if I were smaller. The DO I see for adjustments is totally hippie crunchy birth, anti-vaxx type and she said a section is a good idea because of my midline so I think there must be something behind it if she's on board.
What do you have a midline incision from? Of all the reasons mentioned this is the one that would most make me agree that you should have a section. Either way, good luck! 18 days!!!
Emergency laparotomy. My bowel was perforated during my endo surgery. That's the reason why they are giving me for the c section more than anything -- basically if I have anything going on that is increasing my risk for a section during labor, they want to do it before, because they want to be able to take their time getting through scar tissue to help with my recovery. If we get into an urgent situation they will have to just rip through the scar tissue and my recovery will be rough.
So I walked past these two ladies at lunch (maybe early 30s?) and one goes "oh my gosh are you going to have the baby right here?!?" I really wish my water would have broke on her shoe. Or her face.
So I walked past these two ladies at lunch (maybe early 30s?) and one goes "oh my gosh are you going to have the baby right here?!?" I really wish my water would have broke on her shoe. Or her face.
i mean, DH and i joke around when we see TEEEENY babies out that maybe their moms had them at target/kohls/whatever, BUT I DON'T SAY IT TO THEIR FACES.
you should have kicked them and told them you have late term pregnancy tourettes.
Well all my fears about my MIL going bat shit crazy when we have the baby have come true. This is freaking ridiculous. The woman literally has not spoken to me my entire pregnancy until she came up for the shower or commented on our FB announcement. She called DH to complain about the following: - that we did not make it special enough for her when she drove up for the shower (which I didn't even want to invite her to because I was afraid she'd make it all about her and it was my cousins throwing a shower for just my mom's family) - that we aren't driving down for Christmas (they live 3 hours one way, no one has a bed for us to sleep in, the closest hotel is 45 min away and the closest hospital with a NICU is over an hour away in another state) - that we didn't make special plans to see them for Christmas because we just assumed them coming to visit the baby would be around Christmas. They've been to visit us less than once a year, so excuse us for not realizing they wanted to come twice in 3 days - she wants to be THE FIRST PERSON told about the baby's birth - that if she is not super close with "her grand baby" it is all our fault -- meanwhile she hasn't returned a single phone call from my husband in 3 weeks nor has she ever asked how the baby was doing despite knowing since 20w it has a problem with its kidneys that requires extra, high risk monitoring
Emergency laparotomy. My bowel was perforated during my endo surgery. That's the reason why they are giving me for the c section more than anything -- basically if I have anything going on that is increasing my risk for a section during labor, they want to do it before, because they want to be able to take their time getting through scar tissue to help with my recovery. If we get into an urgent situation they will have to just rip through the scar tissue and my recovery will be rough.
Honestly, with a previous midline incision I would definitely do the section, regardless of your size or baby size. I'm sure what you had done is probably less risk than if you had a previous csection with a midline but there is still risk. I'm surprised they are giving you the option. I think most of our doctors here would automatically do a section in your case. Hopefully you will make it to your section date and not even have to worry about it
My midline is just my abdomen, not my uterus. If it was my uterus it would be an automatic c section.
I mean, my parents will have their child undergoing major abdominal surgery. But let's make sure you find out what genitals your precious grand baby has before they get told whether or not their child made it through surgery okay.
My midline is just my abdomen, not my uterus. If it was my uterus it would be an automatic c section.
I know, that's why I said it would be less risk than if you'd had a c section with a midline I just know a lot of our Drs automatically will require a c section for any kind of abdominal midline incision.
Oh sorry! That's good to know and makes me feel like they are less section happy.
Oh and if any of you need more ammo for your sock full of nickels she is the one who thinks fertility treatments are "a wimpy way to get pregnant." SORRY WE ARENT STRONG ENOUGH TO GET KNOCKED UP BY OUR BOYFRIEND AT 18!!
Oh and if any of you need more ammo for your sock full of nickels she is the one who thinks fertility treatments are "a wimpy way to get pregnant." SORRY WE ARENT STRONG ENOUGH TO GET KNOCKED UP BY OUR BOYFRIEND AT 18!!
I just wish they would have been upfront that midline = section. It sounded like if things were okay we could try vaginally. we spent so much time on hypnobabies.
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
Post by cactuscookie on Dec 10, 2015 17:05:16 GMT -5
Well, boiler717, you're having a fantastic day, aren't you? I'm sorry your MIL is batshit crazy. The Christmas stuff is kind of funny - I know you're adding a new human to the world through major surgery three days later, but CHRISTMAS. Uh, okay?
Also, yeah, infertility is the hardest thing I've ever experienced. (Yes, even including flood damage, despite my constant whining recently!) I like to think it made me tougher. There's nothing wimpy about it.
How is the kidney situation, btw? I don't think you've had any updates for a while. Is there any more monitoring on that in the next EIGHTEEN DAYS? (I still can't believe you only have 18 days left! And then you'll have a baby!)
Omg boiler717. What a day! If anyone said something like that to me, I'd stare them down and say - one day, you'll be pregnant like me and someone will say something shitty to you and I hope you remember this moment.
Boiler, your MIL sounds like a real piece of work. I'm sorry you have to deal with her. She sounds like the perfect recipient for my patented "I will give your suggestion all DUE consideration." 18 days, though. That's so exciting! I bet hypnobabies will still help you somewhat even if you have to have a section, and you probably learned some techniques that can be applied even after the birth. I'm sure it wasn't a waste of time.
Oh and if any of you need more ammo for your sock full of nickels she is the one who thinks fertility treatments are "a wimpy way to get pregnant." SORRY WE ARENT STRONG ENOUGH TO GET KNOCKED UP BY OUR BOYFRIEND AT 18!!
So I walked past these two ladies at lunch (maybe early 30s?) and one goes "oh my gosh are you going to have the baby right here?!?" I really wish my water would have broke on her shoe. Or her face.
"I hope so," was more or less my stock response to these kinds of questions.
boiler717, duuuude, your MIL is crazy. Does your H handle her appropriately? It makes me sad for him that his mom doesn't return his phone calls
He's great. He's very "she's crazy and you can't expect her to be normal." When she was saying stuff about it being our fault if she's not close he just refused to engaged and was like "okay!" He is also a very sweet, sensitive man and I think sometimes feels a lot of guilt for leaving their small town.
So I walked past these two ladies at lunch (maybe early 30s?) and one goes "oh my gosh are you going to have the baby right here?!?" I really wish my water would have broke on her shoe. Or her face.
"I hope so," was more or less my stock response to these kinds of questions.
boiler717 - I'm sorry your MIL is an f'ing nutcase, but at least your husband knows she's crazy and supports you. Excited your c/s date is officially set - eek 18 days
boiler717 - i have more vowels than consonants in my last name... i know people who can take care of your MIL ;-)
And after reading more, i agree about the c-section. Better to be safe than sorry!
And infertility being easy?! My kid had 5 surgeries before he was 2.5 years old. Infertility was harder on me emotionally than going through all those surgeries!!!! (Disclaimer: none were life threatening)
boiler717 I'll commiserate with you on MILs going crazy once there's a grandchild in the picture. You already know the saga with my MIL showing up unannounced. Now she's making us feel guilty about how we choose to spend our vacation time. She's upset we are coming back to the states for my sisters wedding and talking about another trip to possibly see my parents later this year, but not coming down to FL to see them. She's trying to get us to promise we'll come visit them for Christmas, next year! We haven't even had Christmas this year yet! Never mind the ILs will be at my sisters wedding because our families are close, so it's not like we won't see them that trip. My mom asked me if we wanted to go up to our family house in Maine this summer. My answer is absolutely because we've been trying to swing a trip there for the past 6 years. And H is on board for that except guess who's going to guilt trip us and be jealous we'll be seeing my family and not them. It's turning into a us vs them competition on who we spend more time with. I hate being made to feel guilty for wanting to see my family, especially when we aren't playing favorites. But my MIL sees it that way. Ugh.
G22, if she's counting days, didn't she just spend an entire freaking month with you? How long did your parents stay?
Yes, she was here for a month. I have no idea how she counting it. Days, trips, who knows. It would seem trips. And for now it's only with how we use our time to come back to the states. Did you see my post a few weeks ago on MMM about how she's "called" holding Z during my sisters wedding. She even said "I don't want (insert family friend) holding him then because I don't get to see him much". Sorry but this will be my first trip home since Z was born. I have a ton of family and friends who haven't seen him yet that will want to. Nobody is calling dibs on my son.
My mom was here for a week. And both my parents are coming back for Christmas for another week at the end of the month. Nowhere near the time MIL was here, but there's no reasoning with her when she's in guilt trip mode. Thankfully she keeps the guilt tripping to H and doesn't come to me with it...yet.
I love my MIL, but if she keeps up the crazy that has suddenly surfaced since Z was born, I won't be saying that for much longer.