WWYD?

[sitnspin]

We decided to host Christmas since my family is so small now and no one did anything together for Thanksgiving.  We all sort of did our separate things and that bummed me out.  

My dad, his GF, my sister, and her BF are coming.  Yes, this is the married guy who she cheated on her husband with and has been with for probably a year or so now.  She is legally separated and he is not, but he has been "living apart" from his wife for a while (supposedly).  He is more tolerable than her ex-husband, but we still are guarded with him.  Do I have to get this dude a gift?  If I do, WTF do I buy him?  A retainer for a divorce attorney?   :-#

[sapphire bou]

Gotta love family drama. 

If everyone else is exchanging gifts, the nice thing to do is to include him. I would get something like chocolate and nuts. Something generic that doesn't require much thought or money.

[sitnspin]

Dec 15, 2015 10:19:22 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

Gotta love family drama. 

If everyone else is exchanging gifts, the nice thing to do is to include him. I would get something like chocolate and nuts. Something generic that doesn't require much thought or money.

Yeah, I was thinking like a Starbucks gift card or something.  It gets more dramatic, he lives 6 hours away where his son resides and I guess he won't be seeing him for Christmas. 

[Deleted]

I agree with sapphire bou; if you are exchanging with everyone, do something small for him (snacks, a GC, wine, etc.) so it's not awkward.

[sapphire bou]

Dec 15, 2015 10:33:36 GMT -5 sitnspin said:

Dec 15, 2015 10:19:22 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

Gotta love family drama. 

If everyone else is exchanging gifts, the nice thing to do is to include him. I would get something like chocolate and nuts. Something generic that doesn't require much thought or money.

Yeah, I was thinking like a Starbucks gift card or something.  It gets more dramatic, he lives 6 hours away where his son resides and I guess he won't be seeing him for Christmas. 

Sounds like a winner.

[sitnspin]

Thanks girls!

[honeydew1894]

Eeek. Starbucks for him, wine for YOU!

[lexxasaurus]

Dec 15, 2015 10:33:36 GMT -5 sitnspin said:

Dec 15, 2015 10:19:22 GMT -5 sapphire bou said:

Gotta love family drama. 

If everyone else is exchanging gifts, the nice thing to do is to include him. I would get something like chocolate and nuts. Something generic that doesn't require much thought or money.

Yeah, I was thinking like a Starbucks gift card or something.  It gets more dramatic, he lives 6 hours away where his son resides and I guess he won't be seeing him for Christmas. 

...not seeing him because it's not his holiday or, uh, by choice? The latter makes it even worse.

[blondemoment123]

I wouldn't, but if you wanted to I guess go with a gift card.

[MyName]

I agree with generic food gift/coffee gc. Hopefully everything goes well! (Ya know, in the spirit of Christmas and all.)

[theatre4life]

Ditto to the generic food/booze gift, if you are giving gifts to everyone else.

[latte]

It's nice of you to include him. I would do what everyone else said, the generic booze/chocolate.