Are you not tired of her being gone all the time?

[kpol]

Dec 15, 2015 13:36:43 GMT -5 Stan said:

What my FIL asked H when he heard I'm leaving for another school soon. H was like, I mean, that's how being in the military works. No one ever asked me that when H was the one gone all the time!

#microaggression

Grr. What's wrong with people!?

MH has a 2 month school over the summer. My mom asked if I was coming home. I told her this is my home, why would I leave!?

[meltoine]

My ILs get persnickety when H is gone for more than a couple weeks and I don't go visit. My oldest is in legit school, and I have to pay for MDO whether DS2 goes or not. Not to mention that entry live in a rather small NYC apartment. Plus, ya know, I have a dog who costs $25/day to board.

If you're so concerned about my needing help, how about you volunteer to come here instead of me traveling alone with three kids.

[meltoine]

Dec 15, 2015 16:52:32 GMT -5 Stan said:

meltoine , I do not understand that at all. My parents spend all their free time traveling to visit their kids with kids (AKA not me). If I want to see them, I have to go to them, so I don't really. They figure it's easy for me (it's not, but it's okay), and it's not easy for people with any babies.

That sucks. I'm sorry they don't visit. 

[amaristella]

I have one uncle who although I've seen him dozens of times throughout my life I wouldn't really say I've had but three full conversations with him. As an ER nurse he's at work for every other holiday that my mom's family normally gets together so that further cuts down the times I see him.

The past few months every time I see him he goes out of his way to remind me that "that's what you signed up for, being a military spouse" in reference to my husband being gone for a year. It's not like I'm sitting there complaining. He asks leading questions and finds a way to insert that into the conversation. I put an enormous amount of effort and $$$ into moving closer to my family while husband is gone so that I'd have more support. It's not as offensive as it is just plain weird. I'm beginning to wonder if there's something, some story from his first marriage that I've never been told.