And he cheated

[melloyello]

I know that we filed for divorce a week and a half of so ago. But I discovered tonight that STBXH has been having an affair since October. I'm livid and hurt and just a mix of a million emotions. I just needed to get it out there.

[blanca]

I'm sorry. Hugs

[lemons]

I'm so very sorry

[sweetchix]

(((Hugs))) I'm sorry.

[Mrs.Rad888]

I'm sorry.
Hugs.

[bl]

I'm so sorry, lots of hugs.

[bg]

He sucks. I'm so sorry.

[Serenity9]

I'm so sorry. That's awful.

[MeMyselfandI]

My ex cheated on me too. It really messes with your head. I'm so sorry. Not trying to add to your worries, but please get STD screening. You can't be too careful.

[quietmind]

I'm so sorry. I went through it as well, so I know what a mind fuck it can be.

[bullygirl979]

Dec 22, 2015 11:08:22 GMT -5 MeMyselfandI said:

My ex cheated on me too. It really messes with your head. I'm so sorry. Not trying to add to your worries, but please get STD screening. You can't be too careful.

This.

I'm sorry, OP. My XH cheated on me, as well. I don't know your backstory, but therapy really helped me sort through all the emotions I was feeling.

[1confused1]

I'm really sorry. I know this is such a roller coaster, but I hope this helps make the decision to divorce easier on you.

[prettipenny]

I'm so sorry

[melloyello]

Dec 22, 2015 12:26:37 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I'm really sorry. I know this is such a roller coaster, but I hope this helps make the decision to divorce easier on you.

Oh if absolutely does. And it has made me realize that no matter what I tried to do, there was nothing I really could do to fix this.

[Deleted]

I'm so sorry, it sucks.

Can I ask how you found out? Did he just tell you or did someone else or you found some sort of "evidence"? I guess I'm wondering if he's admitting/owning it or maybe it just doesn't matter now.

I had hard proof (emails) that mine was cheating but he NEVER admitted it or owned it and that really ate at me. He always said they were just drunk emails but nothing ever really happened. uh huh.

I'm sorry. But like others said, hopefully this just make it easier to walk away.

[melloyello]

Dec 22, 2015 17:54:21 GMT -5 @blushnbashful said:

I'm so sorry, it sucks.

Can I ask how you found out? Did he just tell you or did someone else or you found some sort of "evidence"? I guess I'm wondering if he's admitting/owning it or maybe it just doesn't matter now.

I had hard proof (emails) that mine was cheating but he NEVER admitted it or owned it and that really ate at me. He always said they were just drunk emails but nothing ever really happened. uh huh.

I'm sorry. But like others said, hopefully this just make it easier to walk away.

He was acting very suspicious with his cell phone last night. I was able to guess that passcode and he was texting her. Calling each other babe. Can't wait to see each other again. Thanks for the awesome dinner. He won't admit to anything physical. But the texts sound like it sure has been.

[Deleted]

Hugs.  

[pandora]

I am sorry. He'll cheat on her too. Be glad that you'll be done with him soon enough. Hugs

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. My XH cheated on me too and it definitely feels like a gut punch. But, it definitely did make it easier to feel good about my decision to divorce and to move forward with my life with confidence that I did the right thing. I hope it does that for you, too.

[ladyk]

My XH cheated on me with his exgf named....wait for it... K.harma. Oh yes, the drug addicted tarot card reader.

I can laugh now but at the time, I felt like my soul had been crushed.

My advice: Do not give up your source. If you can, try and get copies over to your phone and erase the evidence of them being sent to you. You may need it in court.

[jojoandleo]

You guys, my ex cheated on me. I found emails, text messages, a FRAMED BOUDOIR PHOTO OF THE OTHER GIRL. When I moved out, Boudoir girl moved in, and he STILL denied cheating on me. And I definitely was mind fucked by him and just wanted him to admit it, but he never did, never will. He plays the victim because he broke it off, but I am the one who left. Admitting it won't happen. It's a mindfuck, I know, but you have to just move on.

[cuddlyevil]

I don't know if my ex physically cheated, but I do know he had another woman's phone number in his phone disguised as a work contact for most of the Summer before we split. It's a safe bet he went out with her, I know he called her but I don't know about texts or anything. He was convinced I was cheating (I wasn't) but that may have been more projecting than anything. And, like JoJo's ex, he also played the victim card.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Dec 23, 2015 16:21:07 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

I don't know if my ex physically cheated, but I do know he had another woman's phone number in his phone disguised as a work contact for most of the Summer before we split. It's a safe bet he went out with her, I know he called her but I don't know about texts or anything. He was convinced I was cheating (I wasn't) but that may have been more projecting than anything. And, like JoJo's ex, he also played the victim card.

My ex also loved to tell people that I left him for someone else, and that I had cheated while on deployment. The truth is that he's the one who cheated and got kicked out of the Navy because of it. He and the woman he married after me (she had nothing to do with the divorce) recently got divorced, for exactly the same reasons, lying and cheating, and thanks to his wide-open Facebook, I know he's been blasting to the world that she cheated on him. Funny thing, she and I have always gotten along, and now we have even more to bond over. I always felt bad that she was stuck with him, and thought he was the best she could do, and now she's also free of him.

[winecat]

Fucker. I'm so sorry.

[redshoejune]

That really sucks. Mine did too.
And because he's a codependent jerk he thought that the only reason I was going through with leaving him was because I had someone else.
Right, idiot, it had nothing to do with the fact that you were abusive and cheated on me.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Dec 24, 2015 12:42:37 GMT -5 redshoejune said:

That really sucks. Mine did too.
And because he's a codependent jerk he thought that the only reason I was going through with leaving him was because I had someone else.
Right, idiot, it had nothing to do with the fact that you were abusive and cheated on me.

Yeah, their fragile little egos can't stand that we'd prefer to be alone than with them. At least when they believe that we left for someone else, they were blameless is the breakup.