Wednesday Randoms

[brooke77]

My basement flooded on the 31st. There was about 2 inches of water, so I took it as an opportunity to do a full clean of the basement. I got rid of SO MUCH. I had boxes down there of things that I hadn't looked at/unpacked since I moved in over 4 years ago. Gone, its all gone.

I also realized my Ex gave me a ton of stuffed animals. I guess it makes sense since we were together for almost all of our 20s, but looking at it now seems...weird.

[1confused1]

Jan 6, 2016 14:52:54 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Jan 6, 2016 13:59:51 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I didn't say that.  I asked a question, she answered.  Conversation over.

And I know it's not easy to get an RO.  But, I also know, if you if you want someone to stop contacting you, there are ways to do it.  My xh never threatened me or abused me, but, thankfully, I had tons of documentation of his harassment and was able to get an RO (despite my attorney thinking I wouldn't be able to).

His phone is blocked, his emails are blocked, I can't stop the post office. I told my friends I don't want to hear anything about him. You really are blaming me at this point.

I loved him like crazy at one time. We had so many make-ups and break-ups that it's actually understandable that he didn't realize the last was the last. But it's been 5 months since the break up and 4 months since I told him I want no contact at all. I've been firm, I've done what I can to stop it and if he really does go over the line I will file for a RO. I can't with the current situation.

How the hell is what I said blaming you?  All I said there are things that can be done to get someone to stop contacting you.  You told your friends not to tell you when he contacts them, but they did it anyway.  I am sure there is a lot you aren't telling us, which is fine, but last month he was xbf, now he's db again, it's hard to keep up.

[jojoandleo]

Jan 6, 2016 16:50:50 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

Jan 6, 2016 14:52:54 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

His phone is blocked, his emails are blocked, I can't stop the post office. I told my friends I don't want to hear anything about him. You really are blaming me at this point.

I loved him like crazy at one time. We had so many make-ups and break-ups that it's actually understandable that he didn't realize the last was the last. But it's been 5 months since the break up and 4 months since I told him I want no contact at all. I've been firm, I've done what I can to stop it and if he really does go over the line I will file for a RO. I can't with the current situation.

How the hell is what I said blaming you?  All I said there are things that can be done to get someone to stop contacting you.  You told your friends not to tell you when he contacts them, but they did it anyway.  I am sure there is a lot you aren't telling us, which is fine, but last month he was xbf, now he's db again, it's hard to keep up.

You said "If you want someone to stop contacting you, there are ways to do it."  The implication being that if he is still contacting her, it must be because she wants him to.

I am not going to pretend like she hasn't made mistakes with this guy, or I haven't wanted to slap her, but right now-she is doing everything she can.  She can't stop him from contacting OTHER people or stop those people from telling her.  She's not god.  At least I don't think.  And if she is, I really hope she is focusing on the starving kids in Africa first.

You keep saying there are things that can be done.  I asked for concrete examples, outside of an RO, which her lawyer said she can't get, and you provide no examples.  So, whatever.  Your posts are coming off to me the same way they are St. Pete, so, maybe rethink your wording if you aren't blaming her.

[dreamcrisp1]

I dropped my bf off to the airport. Bah, that sucks. Hopefully it's only 6 months before I get to see him again.

[abcdefu]

Jan 6, 2016 13:25:01 GMT -5 GilliC said:

Jan 6, 2016 10:27:04 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I need to remind myself of this as well. 

You have gone through a lot and it is really inspiring to see you being so positive!!

I think I need to make a resolution to leave at a reasonable hour! My life has taken a back burner to work for a while now, and I'm not taking care of myself!

It's so difficult! I find myself staying late at the office and then going home and doing research, answering emails, etc. I'm trying to relax more by watching trash tv, my guilty pleasure! Work is just like anything else and needs to be a balance, but it soooo difficult!

[idahome]

I'm struggling with work right now. I know I need to spend time working each night, but I just can't make myself do it. This is a problem when the expectation for salaried people is that we will spend at least 45-50 hours a week working. I can do it, but getting back into that routine is a real struggle.

I have birthday money to spend on clothes, but I want to wait until spring stuff is out. It's hard when I know a new outfit would totally help my mood.

[sweetchix]

Got our merit increases today. I got 2%. I seriously almost blurted out "Seriously? That's it?" But I just said it in my head. Although my face probably didn't hide my disappointment. Not that I was expecting a much bigger increase, but I thought at least 3%. Now I am wondering who in our department got the 3%. Somebody always does.

So, I'll just have to win powerball or mega millions then and I'm good ?

[cuddlyevil]

I'm getting a half of an increase this year. Because they transitioned us to another company and they do their increases in January. So we would've had to wait until January 2017 for a raise.