Today would have been my 10th wedding anniversary

[abcdefu]

and I am so effin' glad it's not!

I have done and achieved so much more without him than with him. I graduated college, started a career (he always said school was a waste of time and I would never be anything more than a waitress), live on my own, battled through so many health issues and so much more, all without Douche McBaggerson!

I am so thankful that I was able to get out of my marriage alive. For those who don't know, he tried to kill me by running my car off the road after I left because he was having an affair. I received a RO and he was eventually deported and still has warrants out for his arrest for violating the order by calling me from South America.

While I haven't seriously dated anyone since all of this, I know that I have healed over the 5 1/2 years since my divorce.

The best part of all this is that I was studying to be a teacher. After the domestic violence incident, I changed my major to pre-law and then found my dream job while waitressing (my boss and his wife were regulars at the restaurant)so he can kiss my ass!

[bullygirl979]

Congrats on what you've accomplished, abcdefu! It's kind of amazing to look back and see how far you've come!

[bl]

I didn't know your full story, so thanks for sharing and so glad you got away from him and are doing so well!

[abcdefu]

It is amazing to look back and see how strong I was then and how much stronger I am today! I believe this helps my self-confidence wayyyy more than being a certain size, or looking a certain way!

I am sooo glad that we got married one week into the new year because after every New Year I make resolutions and feel good. It helps to be in that mindset on this date.

[brooke77]

Good for you! Congrats on all your accomplishments!

[bg]

You're amazing!

[Mrs.Rad888]

Wow, you have truly been through a lot! Your strength is amazing, as is the fact that you remain positive even as life throws you another curve ball (or maybe a split-fingered fast ball?).

[mommadukes]

good for you!

[glitzyglow]

You are amazing, abcdefu!

[glynn]

Congrats to all you have done!!!

[jigsy]

Congratulations on how far you have come, and I am excited to follow you on your journey as you keep moving forward. You have a lot of great things in store!

[1confused1]

Amazing! !

[redshoejune]

Go you!

[Deleted]

I love you abcdefu!!! You have the best kick ass attitude. Go you!!!! He was a douche.

[GilliC]

[stephreloaded]

I had no idea how bad your ex was! Again, this is just proof of how strong you are. Congrats!!

[abcdefu]

Thanks ladies! A lot of you have helped me so much through my setbacks, even more so than some of my family. I am so grateful to have found this board. The support here has been overwhelming to me.

and, yes, my ex was/is a major douche! I'll never forget at the RO hearing, the judge asked him why he called me 30 times in less than an hour and then procedure to "hunt me down"

His response: "because she wouldn't talk to me. I am her husband and she has an duty to talk to me"

The judge responded by giving him a WTF look and then granting me a final order and sending him to DV classes, as well as a psychological evaluation.

I was divorced for almost 3 years when I joined here, so I had worked through a lot of my emotions before joining and contributing to the SO board. That's why I don't talk about my exh often. It was just so weird to think I would have been married to him for 10 freaking years! ::Mindblown::

[abcdefu]

Jan 7, 2016 11:01:48 GMT -5 Mrs.Rad888 said:

Wow, you have truly been through a lot! Your strength is amazing, as is the fact that you remain positive even as life throws you another curve ball (or maybe a split-fingered fast ball?).

This made me smile! You speak my language!