Etiquette question

[panicked]

I was invited by the commanders wife to her home on Wednesday. She says she "wants my opinion on something." We're cordial but by no means "friends." I have to bring her something, right?

[bina]

Huh. Is it for a dinner or coffee or something?

[panicked]

Jan 14, 2016 20:40:45 GMT -5 bina said:

Huh. Is it for a dinner or coffee or something?

Not a clue. I've been given very little info. I don't think it's a dinner though.

[bina]

My first inclination is no, because she's not hosting a meal for you.

[bina]

Maybe it's about sewing?

[amaristella]

I think I would not. It's not really a formal get together where she's hosting something.

[nsl]

No, I wouldn't bring anything.

[G22]

I wouldn't have thought I needed to bring something in this case.

[pennylane]

I would not bring anything. But I would (in my experience) suspect they want you to volunteer to do something...

[audette]

Jan 15, 2016 7:56:34 GMT -5 pennylane said:

I would not bring anything. But I would (in my experience) suspect they want you to volunteer to do something...

This. I would assume they want you on some project or team or such, probably in a position that will suck up a chunk of time. So, go prepared with an answer for that...

As for bringing something, if you're not going for a meal or an event, I wouldn't worry about it.

[calmcosmo]

If she invited you for dinner or something social I would probably bring a bottle of wine or similar just out of habit. But I do that nomatter who invites me - civilian friend, military friend whose husband outranks mine or not.

But if you are dropping in for a few minutes to chat then no, you don't need to bring anything. I would feel terrible if every time I asked someone to come over that they felt it necessitated gifts. LOL.

[panicked]

Jan 15, 2016 13:10:01 GMT -5 audette said:

Jan 15, 2016 7:56:34 GMT -5 pennylane said:

I would not bring anything. But I would (in my experience) suspect they want you to volunteer to do something...

This. I would assume they want you on some project or team or such, probably in a position that will suck up a chunk of time. So, go prepared with an answer for that...

As for bringing something, if you're not going for a meal or an event, I wouldn't worry about it.

I'm already involved in the FRG and they are pretty transparent with that stuff. :-)

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panicked I'm invested! WHAT WAS IT?

[panicked]

Jan 26, 2016 11:05:31 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

panicked I'm invested! WHAT WAS IT?

Haha! It turned out to be a ploy to get a few of the new wives to gain info about the upcoming deployment. Of course, none of them showed up, so it was just all of the spouses who already know all this stuff hanging out and chatting.

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Jan 26, 2016 11:18:53 GMT -5 panicked said:

Jan 26, 2016 11:05:31 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

panicked I'm invested! WHAT WAS IT?

Haha! It turned out to be a ploy to get a few of the new wives to gain info about the upcoming deployment. Of course, none of them showed up, so it was just all of the spouses who already know all this stuff hanging out and chatting.

Let's put this in the "shit I don't miss" about being a military spouse. FWIW, I too would have thought on what to bring. Usually two dozen chocolate chip cookies.

[brandienee]

That sounds frustrating.

Why not just be forthcoming about a get together about deployment information? Ew.