Coming in to suggest the same as starry. A friend of mine hired a sleep consultant and she worked wonders. He was about five months at the time and is now 3 and still an incredible sleeper. I've also know several people who brought in a night nurse/nanny to do night wakings. They had no family nearby to help and their husbands also had demanding careers or traveled frequently. I would suggest bringing in outside help if you really feel that it is affecting your work and home life. It's hard to be a good mom/wife/employee if you are sleep deprived.
Post by teatimefor2 on Jan 16, 2016 16:26:28 GMT -5
I'm sorry last night was so rough. Here is another suggestion; have you thought of a night nanny for a few weeks? One of DH's colleagues had one for a few weeks. He and his wife both have high power, high stress jobs and this was one way they were able to function. I know the wife was nursing because she would bring the baby in to her, and then put the baby back to bed, but the cuddling and other stuff was done by the night nanny. I don't know the cost, but I know it's not cheap, but it might be worth the investment. Also you might be able to get someone who would have good suggestions regarding sleep -- this is their area of expertise.
Edit: just say the comments on page 4 and that this was suggested. I'd tell your DH that it's necessary, your sanity and ability to do your job and be a wife and mother is worth it.
Post by jeaniebueller on Jan 16, 2016 16:45:11 GMT -5
I know you have tried everything. 4 month wakeful is the worst. Any chance he would sleep better next to the bed in the RNP (or at least you just have to reach over to rock it or replace the paci when he wakes) until he gets a teeny bit older? Some of this four month stuff just sucks and you really just have to find ways to survive.
Post by karinothing on Jan 16, 2016 16:58:52 GMT -5
I am sorry last night was rough. Have you tried giving Tylenol to make sure wakeups aren't related to teeth. I was having difficulty getting DS2 to go back down and tylenol seemed to fix it, and he cut a tooth this week.
Otherwise, I would get him used to the crib, then I don't think CIO is a bad option to get him to learn how to settle right after you feed him.
I'm sorry. Sleep deprivation is the absolute pits. I'm sure a lot of this is just timing - crib transition, 4 month wakeful, teeth, whatever. It's probably easier to just suck it up for now and feed him and get him back down as quickly as possible. Can you put him in a PNP in your room for now? We slowly transitioned doing naps in the crib and then overnight. is N2 in a daycare or with a nanny? Maybe you want to consider a nanny? My nanny really helped me with transitions as I was able to instruct her about things we were working on (like crib transition, or self soothing at naps.) It also may help your evening seem less hectic if you don't have to do DC pickups, nanny can help with dinner, etc.
Post by carolinagirl831 on Jan 16, 2016 21:36:06 GMT -5
If it's only.his second night in his crib I'm sure that's part of it..too. Dd took awhile.to get used to the crib from the rnp.Also I wouldn't let him fuss so long before feeding him, it just makes them more pissed off awake and difficult to settle. If you feed him when he's still not fully aware hell probably pass out quicker. Hanging there, babies are tough!
That quote for a night nanny is outrageous. I would reach out to a few local nanny agencies and see what the rate is for overnights. You may find a less expensive route if the provider isn't categorized as a night nurse, which many are.
That quote for a night nanny is outrageous. I would reach out to a few local nanny agencies and see what the rate is for overnights. You may find a less expensive route if the provider isn't categorized as a night nurse, which many are.
Agreed. You could even look for a postpartum doula since many of them will do overnights.
It's a long shot but if you want I will reach out to my old boss in LA (runs a tutoring company in BH) & see if she has recommendations.
Edit: just say the comments on page 4 and that this was suggested. I'd tell your DH that it's necessary, your sanity and ability to do your job and be a wife and mother is worth it.
For now, bc of the cost ($3k for 4 days is so steep!), I think we'll try other things and just deal with it for a few more weeks. =)
For now, bc of the cost ($3k for 4 days is so steep!), I think we'll try other things and just deal with it for a few more weeks. =)
It's $750/night!? Jesus Christ!
Wow! Even in my VHCOL the Highest I have seen is $45/hour. I would do some more looking. Because even if you could get someone in for a week, I think it might help you.
So do you have to keep doing pacifier replacements? Prior to CIO I mean.
Well he was in our bed prior to CIO, he's in the crib as of last night. So I'd do paci replacement and/or put my hand on him and kind of rock him side to side for a minute or until he/we fell asleep.
Wait, you went from sleeping with you to being in a crib AND crying it out all at one time? That seems like a lot of transitions for a 4 month old all at once. (I'm still on pg one so I apologize if this has been covered)
ETA, I see you have pages of actual helpful advice, but I will echo that he needs to eat. Especially if he cried for 3 hours. I mean, at that point he probably needed a diaper too.
I think you will be surprised by the improvement if you just put him in his crib but go to him when he cries and feed him (at least once) maybe you should check out a book to see what is more realistic for an infant.