FFF

[dreamcrisp1]

I finally remembered my flameful.

My bf has these two friend acquaintances. One met his gf last December and moved in with her in April and legit wants to propose this year. The other one started dating his gf in July or August and they're moving in this weekend. I judge both of these couples so hard. What's the rush?! And I know these guys, this isn't really a smart idea.

Part of me is also a little jealous, obviously. But then I realize I'm smart and normal.

[dreamcrisp1]

TR I would be a bit upset too. It's an ex not a friend.

[glitzyglow]

I hope whenever I meet "the one" things are rushed. Like, I want us to be crazy in love and move in asap and all that jazz. It's insane. I judge myself for thinking this. Logical me would most likely never let this happen. But I secretly kind of want it to happen like that.

[pandora]

In just ate am entire pint of B&Js tonight and rationalized that it was good for baby - protein and calcium, ya know.

Flameful part: My doc is upset with my weight gain since 1st tri. Ugh, 30 lbs as of today. The entire time I was woofing it down, I was thinking how awful it would be if I got GD and I needed to stop... but i couldn't at that moment. Having a convenience store a few doors down is dangerous when preggers! I got a skor bar, too. More flames deserved! I have a problem.

[sweetchix]

Jan 22, 2016 23:25:25 GMT -5 pandora said:

In just ate am entire pint of B&Js tonight and rationalized that it was good for baby - protein and calcium, ya know.

Flameful part: My doc is upset with my weight gain since 1st tri. Ugh, 30 lbs as of today. The entire time I was woofing it down, I was thinking how awful it would be if I got GD and I needed to stop... but i couldn't at that moment. Having a convenience store a few doors down is dangerous when preggers! I got a skor bar, too. More flames deserved! I have a problem.

I had GD with both of my pregnancies. Insulin dependant with DD1. Diet controlled with DD2. But... I leaned how to "cheat" with DD2. I would eat my meal, test at the time needed, then grab a candy bar/ice cream/whatever junk I was wanting. Fortunately it didn't affect her, but I would definitely NOT recommend doing this. When do you go for your 1 hour? I don't remember how far along you are.

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Jan 22, 2016 17:57:06 GMT -5 TR said:

:::shrug::: I'd rather be honest. I'd hate to think I did something that hurt someone's feelings and they were upset and didn't let me know. If it was a random girl or friend, whatever. I'd maybe be annoyed, but not hurt and wouldn't say anything to him. But this is a girl he dated for a year and a half before me so it's different to me.

You're not alone here. I'd be really pissed about the whole thing (even though it may not be rational).  I am jealous about stupid shit and I can't control it.  Even when you trust your partner it can be hard because you may not trust others intentions etc.  Sometimes this has to do with being hurt in the past---I think for me it does.  I hope you guys can talk it out calmly and he respects your feelings about it.

[pandora]

Jan 22, 2016 23:50:18 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Jan 22, 2016 23:25:25 GMT -5 pandora said:

In just ate am entire pint of B&Js tonight and rationalized that it was good for baby - protein and calcium, ya know.

Flameful part: My doc is upset with my weight gain since 1st tri. Ugh, 30 lbs as of today. The entire time I was woofing it down, I was thinking how awful it would be if I got GD and I needed to stop... but i couldn't at that moment. Having a convenience store a few doors down is dangerous when preggers! I got a skor bar, too. More flames deserved! I have a problem.

I had GD with both of my pregnancies. Insulin dependant with DD1. Diet controlled with DD2. But... I leaned how to "cheat" with DD2. I would eat my meal, test at the time needed, then grab a candy bar/ice cream/whatever junk I was wanting. Fortunately it didn't affect her, but I would definitely NOT recommend doing this. When do you go for your 1 hour? I don't remember how far along you are.

I think I will be 24 weeks after this weekend. When do they do the test? I see my doc next week but she hasn't mentioned it yet. But, I feel like I keep getting surprised with my appointments not knowing what to expect. I need a timeline schedule! Lol

[pandora]

I'm so glad you asked! According to Google, I'm due starting this week for it, gulp! 24-28 weeks is the test. I'm 24 weeks on Tues. Hoo boy! :::hides the pint in the trash:::

[sweetchix]

Jan 23, 2016 0:04:29 GMT -5 pandora said:

Jan 22, 2016 23:50:18 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I had GD with both of my pregnancies. Insulin dependant with DD1. Diet controlled with DD2. But... I leaned how to "cheat" with DD2. I would eat my meal, test at the time needed, then grab a candy bar/ice cream/whatever junk I was wanting. Fortunately it didn't affect her, but I would definitely NOT recommend doing this. When do you go for your 1 hour? I don't remember how far along you are.

I think I will be 24 weeks after this weekend. When do they do the test? I see my doc next week but she hasn't mentioned it yet. But, I feel like I keep getting surprised with my appointments not knowing what to expect. I need a timeline schedule! Lol

I would say you should be doing it anttime now. My tests were right around 24-28 weeks. I was due with DD1 January 4th and took the test the end of October, so about 12 weeks before my due date. I remember because it was just before Halloween and I was disappointed that I wouldn't be able to pig out on Halloween candy.

With DD2, it was the end of January (had her mid-April). They skipped the 1 hour with her and went straight for the 3 hour since I had GD with DD1. It was the day Obama was sworn so that was a bit earlier with her.

[pandora]

Jan 23, 2016 0:12:37 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Jan 23, 2016 0:04:29 GMT -5 pandora said:

I think I will be 24 weeks after this weekend. When do they do the test? I see my doc next week but she hasn't mentioned it yet. But, I feel like I keep getting surprised with my appointments not knowing what to expect. I need a timeline schedule! Lol

I would say you should be doing it anttime now. My tests were right around 24-28 weeks. I was due with DD1 January 4th and took the test the end of October, so about 12 weeks before my due date. I remember because it was just before Halloween and I was disappointed that I wouldn't be able to pig out on Halloween candy.

With DD2, it was the end of January (had her mid-April). They skipped the 1 hour with her and went straight for the 3 hour since I had GD with DD1. It was the day Obama was sworn so that was a bit earlier with her.

I have no idea what this is all about, the process of the test. Do I do it during my appointment or schedule a separate time to do it? I'm guessing it has to be in the morning and fast before? I need beget communication from my OB.

[sweetchix]

Jan 23, 2016 0:46:12 GMT -5 pandora said:

Jan 23, 2016 0:12:37 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I would say you should be doing it anttime now. My tests were right around 24-28 weeks. I was due with DD1 January 4th and took the test the end of October, so about 12 weeks before my due date. I remember because it was just before Halloween and I was disappointed that I wouldn't be able to pig out on Halloween candy.

With DD2, it was the end of January (had her mid-April). They skipped the 1 hour with her and went straight for the 3 hour since I had GD with DD1. It was the day Obama was sworn so that was a bit earlier with her.

I have no idea what this is all about, the process of the test. Do I do it during my appointment or schedule a separate time to do it? I'm guessing it has to be in the morning and fast before? I need beget communication from my OB.

It's at a separate location. Your doctor will give you the script and you can go to any blood draw location. Yes, morning is best. You shouldn't need to fast, but obviously you don't want to go crazy on carbs or sugars right beforehand. I think I had some eggs the morning of my test. But I'd double check with your doctor as things may have changed in the 7 years since I did my last one.

[pandora]

Jan 23, 2016 0:55:48 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

Jan 23, 2016 0:46:12 GMT -5 pandora said:

I have no idea what this is all about, the process of the test. Do I do it during my appointment or schedule a separate time to do it? I'm guessing it has to be in the morning and fast before? I need beget communication from my OB.

It's at a separate location. Your doctor will give you the script and you can go to any blood draw location. Yes, morning is best. You shouldn't need to fast, but obviously you don't want to go crazy on carbs or sugars right beforehand. I think I had some eggs the morning of my test. But I'd double check with your doctor as things may have changed in the 7 years since I did my last one.

Thank you!! So very helpful, sweetchix! I see her on Monday so I'll find out but good to know that I won't have to worry about it for Monday. My first OB appointment took 5 hours and I was completely blindsided by the length of time. It would have been helpful for them to tell me when making the appointment. I was maxed out after 2 hours.  I'm honestly wondering if I should switch docs since I feel the communication and information is lacking but we'll see. She was out sick with the flu for the 20 week biggest appointment and I was definitely at a loss with meeting with her nurses instead of her.

[jojoandleo]

Meh. Sometimes I'm petty and insecure. I think everyone has moments of insecurity in relationships. It's a part of having to trust another person. I don't think one insecurity about social media means the person needs to get therapy stat.

I totally get my annoyance is stupid. Hence why I brought it up drunk. And in a terrible way. But MH and I have also been working on our marriage and I think telling him the stupid shit that makes me insecure is a part of that. We both have hurt each other and have to fix that FIRST. and it is getting better. I have no idea whose pics he liked 6 months ago. It's just something I noticed since things got weird.

Anyway, I think it's better to be able to be insecure with your partner and tell them these things so they don't fester and become what my marriage did. If you can't be insecure with someone who is supposed to love you, then maybe you are with the wrong person. Now, this doesn't mean the SO has to kowtow to the insecurities. Maybe it just means you all talk about it and the SO helps overcome that insecurity.

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Jan 24, 2016 20:11:06 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Anyway, I think it's better to be able to be insecure with your partner and tell them these things so they don't fester 

Agree.  I like to talk about things when something upsets me.  I'm not one to keep it inside and J has learned that because I was hurt in the past (nothing to do with him), I may act a little irrationally sometimes.  

Although I know we all have a past, I don't really like hearing about exes.  

THIS IS MADE UP AS AN EXAMPLE:  "I had an ex that did xyz for a living so blah blah" is ok with me.  But something like, "I had a girlfriend that had huge boobs and she was a freak"...yeah---I don't want to fucking know that.

Different things bother different people.  What upsets me may not upset you and vice versa.  But a SO should be able to hear about our insecurities and just be aware and respect our feelings.  

[stephreloaded]

Jan 23, 2016 1:36:34 GMT -5 pandora said:

Jan 23, 2016 0:55:48 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

It's at a separate location. Your doctor will give you the script and you can go to any blood draw location. Yes, morning is best. You shouldn't need to fast, but obviously you don't want to go crazy on carbs or sugars right beforehand. I think I had some eggs the morning of my test. But I'd double check with your doctor as things may have changed in the 7 years since I did my last one.

Thank you!! So very helpful, sweetchix! I see her on Monday so I'll find out but good to know that I won't have to worry about it for Monday. My first OB appointment took 5 hours and I was completely blindsided by the length of time. It would have been helpful for them to tell me when making the appointment. I was maxed out after 2 hours.  I'm honestly wondering if I should switch docs since I feel the communication and information is lacking but we'll see. She was out sick with the flu for the 20 week biggest appointment and I was definitely at a loss with meeting with her nurses instead of her.

I got tested for GD when I was 20 weeks along because of my family history and I ended up having it. At that point I had put on 25lbs which is even worse for a 5'1 woman that was overweight to start with. Mine was completely managed with diet and exercise and I am grateful that I was able to be good and stopped gaining more weight so I weighted the same the day I delivered. I did have cravings but since I have never been much into sweets anyway.

[stephreloaded]

I guess my flame is that preople give too much importance to social media likes in general. One of my friends keeps asking me why the guy she was dating liked her IG but stopped calling her. People can like things without having big thoughts about it.

I would totally see myself liking a picture from one of my exes if I thought it was a nice picture. Actually now that I think about it, I do like pictures of my ex. He goes hiking and takes pictures with these amazing backgrounds. I do not find him attractive nor would I want to go back with him.

[jojoandleo]

Jan 25, 2016 10:59:17 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I guess my flame is that preople give too much importance to social media likes in general. One of my friends keeps asking me why the guy she was dating liked her IG but stopped calling her. People can like things without having big thoughts about it.

I would totally see myself liking a picture from one of my exes if I thought it was a nice picture. Actually now that I think about it, I do like pictures of my ex. He goes hiking and takes pictures with these amazing backgrounds. I do not find him attractive nor would I want to go back with him.

You guys, you want a backpat for not giving a fuck about social media?  Not caring about social media is not flameful.  You want to call someone out, just do it.  But this comes off as annoying self-aggrandizing. 

TR and I KNOW what we said was flameful, hence posting it here.  WE KNOW LIKES CAN MEAN NOTHING. 

This is basically a passive aggressive call out.  So I guess it is flameful.  Just call people out.

[jigsy]

Just because you know what you said was flameful doesn't mean no one can comment on it.

[jojoandleo]

Jan 25, 2016 14:18:44 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Just because you know what you said was flameful doesn't mean no one can comment on it.

My point was, saying it is flameful to not care is just untrue.  Comment all you want.  But just be honest that you are calling someone out.  I don't care if you call me out.  Or think I am stupid.  Hell, *I* think it is stupid that it upsets me.  But it's like people want a damn cookie for not caring.  It's like a bragplaint.  And it's annoying.

[kaneen]

Jan 25, 2016 15:24:47 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Jan 25, 2016 14:18:44 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Just because you know what you said was flameful doesn't mean no one can comment on it.

My point was, saying it is flameful to not care is just untrue.  Comment all you want.  But just be honest that you are calling someone out.  I don't care if you call me out.  Or think I am stupid.  Hell, *I* think it is stupid that it upsets me.  But it's like people want a damn cookie for not caring.  It's like a bragplaint.  And it's annoying.

I rarely post over here anymore so excuse me for butting in for a second.  I just had to say that I cannot agree with this more.  I'm 41 years old and can admit to getting all squishy over a guy I have a crush on liking my stuff on FB.  And look, I definitely don't take FB seriously.  I KNOW it's stupid to think it means something that he liked my shit.  So I can see where if the situation were turned around and I was dating or married to someone and they liked some other chick's stuff, it would probably bug me. 

And to the point above, all this stuff about not caring at all is annoying too.  Fine, you don't care but some others do.  That doesn't make you any better than anyone else.