lol, tinybride deleted.

[cville]

Jan 26, 2016 8:43:09 GMT -5 WOUNDTIGHT said:

Jan 26, 2016 8:38:50 GMT -5 Kit said:

She made a lot of people, myself included, feel like shit. She was completely clueless and unapologetic.

Really? I mean yes, abs would be nice, but I would not trade lives with her for anything, and I wouldn't let her skewed values get into my head. I honestly feel sad for a woman with 4 beautiful children who worries about showing off her flat abs 4 months PP. Priorities, right?

I too wish I could exist on a higher plane where I care not that my love handles are now upgraded to love suitcases over two years after my son was born. But alas, despite my affinity for both intellectual political discussion and mindless gossip, I'm still occasionally bothered by the flabbiness of my midsection.

[frkls]

Jan 26, 2016 9:00:27 GMT -5 cville said:

Jan 26, 2016 8:43:09 GMT -5 WOUNDTIGHT said:

Really? I mean yes, abs would be nice, but I would not trade lives with her for anything, and I wouldn't let her skewed values get into my head. I honestly feel sad for a woman with 4 beautiful children who worries about showing off her flat abs 4 months PP. Priorities, right?

I too wish I could exist on a higher plane where I care not that my love handles are now upgraded to love suitcases over two years after my son was born. But alas, despite my affinity for both intellectual political discussion and mindless gossip, I'm still occasionally bothered by the flabbiness of my midsection.

if you were more evolved, you'd have a six-pack by now

[Deleted]

Jan 26, 2016 8:48:53 GMT -5 frkls said:

i saw the thread, opened it, read the OP and then just closed it and walked away. i should have known better!

Same.  I think my eyeroll was paired with a "bitchplease" before I closed it.

[cville]

Jan 26, 2016 9:13:04 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Jan 26, 2016 9:00:27 GMT -5 cville said:

I too wish I could exist on a higher plane where I care not that my love handles are now upgraded to love suitcases over two years after my son was born. But alas, despite my affinity for both intellectual political discussion and mindless gossip, I'm still occasionally bothered by the flabbiness of my midsection.

Not allowed. You are either a good person who has transcended physical appearance or vapid and obsessed.

I DO have a subscription to People magazine, after all.

[papie]

Jan 26, 2016 0:48:41 GMT -5 toledo said:

Try again next baby.

Maybe once she is at 6 kids and still tiny, we will finally realize and start wearing the band.  

[eclaires]

She's said it before, and she will say it again!!!!

I'm still annoyed at that thread title. It pulled me in and I didn't see who posted it because I was using the mobile browser. If I had seen, I wouldn't have opened it because I have a policy of not opening posts by people who only post about themselves and never post otherwise, lol.

[papie]

Jan 26, 2016 7:38:29 GMT -5 eddy said:

My issue with her is that she drops in, shows us a picture of her in front private jet or her abs and then goes off. The private jet pic is still one of my favs.

If you don't contribute, people don't give a shit. You will just become fodder.

Also, as I new mom I remember how worthless these type of posts made me feel. I don't want others to feel down about themselves at such a vulnerable time.

Go rock your baby or just take a fucking nap. The abs can be worried about later when life returns to normal (?) lol.

It will happen one day. Right? RIGHT?

[papie]

Jan 26, 2016 8:34:56 GMT -5 meganew said:

I have to admit that I was a little surprised at how nice a lot of people were in that thread. Like, guys she already knows she looks great- that's why she's here! Lol.

I just always like to be nice to moms with babies.  Life sucks so much during those months.  Apparently unless you are tiny bride.  

[eb777888]

Jan 26, 2016 9:18:11 GMT -5 eclaires said:

She's said it before, and she will say it again!!!!

I'm still annoyed at that thread title. It pulled me in and I didn't see who posted it because I was using the mobile browser. If I had seen, I wouldn't have opened it because I have a policy of not opening posts by people who only post about themselves and never post otherwise, lol.

Lol!! That's exactly what I did, too! I never open her posts because she's a total botah. And yes, the title! Ugh!!

[noodleoo]

Omg @absinthe, thank you for that! I don't remember that. Wow, she is shameless with her captions. "Oh my hair is so sad, check me out on my private jet." "Oh, look at the back of this dress" with her model pose. Wow, just WOW. 

I missed used the pics in the belly band post but saw the rest. I didn't realize this was a pattern with her, but her posts have always made me roll my eyes. Now I get why. 

[themysteriouswife]

That post had me all sorts of emotions. I have never had an easy pregnancy or recovery. FFS,my C section scar was still open 3 months pp. I wore a stupid support band for 6 weeks pp. My stomach muscles will never be the same thanks to two c-sections. The scar tissue is so tight I may need reconstructive surgery. But hey I followed Tiny's advice. It should be okay, right?

7 months PP and I've never been so disappointed in my body. My teen years were easier. How do breast go so flat? My c-section shelf is so flabby. God I hate it.

[themysteriouswife]

And I cried after that post.

[bugandbibs]

Jan 26, 2016 9:34:51 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

And I cried after that post.

((((hugs)))) MW.

[sarahbear]

Nevermind. I was wrong.

[Deleted]

Jan 26, 2016 9:44:17 GMT -5 sarahbear said:

Didn't she also do the bathing suit shots after baby 3? She was raving about an American Eagle bikini that covered a postpartum body well, blah blah blah, and then posted a picture of herself where everyone then told her how wonderful and amazing she looked.

That was teeah22 I think. Who DID look amazing, but was not at all braggy. 

And I bought three of the bathing suits she recommended. LOL. 

[sarahbear]

Jan 26, 2016 9:47:29 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

Jan 26, 2016 9:44:17 GMT -5 sarahbear said:

Didn't she also do the bathing suit shots after baby 3? She was raving about an American Eagle bikini that covered a postpartum body well, blah blah blah, and then posted a picture of herself where everyone then told her how wonderful and amazing she looked.

That was teeah22 I think. Who DID look amazing, but was not at all braggy. 

And I bought three of the bathing suits she recommended. LOL. 

Well, I take it back. She did look amazing. I bought the suit too and for some reason I didn't magically look as amazing as she did in it. Jealous party of one!

[pinkeggs]

Jan 26, 2016 9:33:08 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

That post had me all sorts of emotions. I have never had an easy pregnancy or recovery. FFS,my C section scar was still open 3 months pp. I wore a stupid support band for 6 weeks pp. My stomach muscles will never be the same thanks to two c-sections. The scar tissue is so tight I may need reconstructive surgery. But hey I followed Tiny's advice. It should be okay, right?

7 months PP and I've never been so disappointed in my body. My teen years were easier. How do breast go so flat? My c-section shelf is so flabby. God I hate it.

Aw, sweetie.

Being a woman is hard. Having babies is hard. Getting it back together after having babies is hard. I also have a difficult time with body image and self esteem, but I just try and remind myself that my body did some pretty damn cool work in giving me my babies, and I am grateful for that. 

Some people are #soblessed with killer genetics and frame. Unfortunately, some of those same people traded good genetics for tone deafness and low EQ.

[Lucy Honeychurch]

I don't think the post would have gone over so badly had she just been all "AW!". As it was, it came across as scolding and condescending as all hell. I certainly don't begrudge someone feeling good about themselves; but damn, tinybride. You didn't even apologize. You said it wasn't your intention, but you didn't say you were sorry, as far as I remember. And then you accused everyone of bashing you.

[WOUNDTIGHT]

Jan 26, 2016 9:34:51 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

And I cried after that post.

This makes me so sad. Hugs to you.

[meganew]

Jan 26, 2016 9:54:56 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I don't think the post would have gone over so badly had she just been all "AW!". As it was, it came across as scolding and condescending as all hell. I certainly don't begrudge someone feeling good about themselves; but damn, tinybride. You didn't even apologize. You said it wasn't your intention, but you didn't say you were sorry, as far as I remember. And then you accused everyone of bashing you.

Honestly, I don't think that would have changed my reaction much. She's never here except to brag which is bad enough, but to come in here and brag about something that you know a lot of other women have anxiety over and just be like "Know what I had to do to achieve this look? NOTHING. Tee hee! See you bitches next time I look fabulous!" and then peace out is so fucked up.

[themysteriouswife]

Jan 26, 2016 9:54:56 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I don't think the post would have gone over so badly had she just been all "AW!". As it was, it came across as scolding and condescending as all hell. I certainly don't begrudge someone feeling good about themselves; but damn, tinybride. You didn't even apologize. You said it wasn't your intention, but you didn't say you were sorry, as far as I remember. And then you accused everyone of bashing you.

Exactly. She made it like we (all women) did something wrong if we weren't back in shape. It made me feel like shit

[pagas]

Jan 26, 2016 10:02:47 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

Jan 26, 2016 9:54:56 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I don't think the post would have gone over so badly had she just been all "AW!". As it was, it came across as scolding and condescending as all hell. I certainly don't begrudge someone feeling good about themselves; but damn, tinybride . You didn't even apologize. You said it wasn't your intention, but you didn't say you were sorry, as far as I remember. And then you accused everyone of bashing you.

Exactly. She made it like we (all women) did something wrong if we weren't back in shape. It made me feel like shit

Yep.  When she said that some people just don't care about their stomachs...rage.

[themysteriouswife]

The victim role was astonishing too.

[meganew]

Jan 26, 2016 10:06:21 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

The victim role was astonishing too.

She seems the type to feel persecuted because she's beautiful.

Eye roll.

[lovelyshoes]

Jan 26, 2016 10:02:47 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

Jan 26, 2016 9:54:56 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

I don't think the post would have gone over so badly had she just been all "AW!". As it was, it came across as scolding and condescending as all hell. I certainly don't begrudge someone feeling good about themselves; but damn, tinybride. You didn't even apologize. You said it wasn't your intention, but you didn't say you were sorry, as far as I remember. And then you accused everyone of bashing you.

Exactly. She made it like we (all women) did something wrong if we weren't back in shape. It made me feel like shit

The tone is what annoyed me. She's told us before and she is telling us Again! Wtf? Thanks Kim K for your scientific enlightenment for those who care about their stomachs post baby. Wear a corset for 2-3 weeks after giving birth and magically get abs! Don't forget to carry your baby around as exercise!

[papie]

Jan 26, 2016 10:09:37 GMT -5 teeah22 said:

Jan 26, 2016 9:47:29 GMT -5 @lazerus24 said:

That was teeah22 I think. Who DID look amazing, but was not at all braggy. 

And I bought three of the bathing suits she recommended. LOL. 

Ha yes I did recommend those after baby #2, but like 10 months after he was born.  The beauty was they COVERED your abs lol.

For the record, I did not wear a binder.  #genetics

That thread encouraged me to by high waisted bikinis last summer, so it was awesome.  

[Lucy Honeychurch]

I do feel a bit sorry for tinybride though. I don't get the sense that she maybe has many friends. I don't know, I haven't read her blog or anything. But I remember the super-secret wedding ceremony thing, and I wonder if maybe she's a little constricted by her assigned role as wife and mother. It would certainly explain her need to seek accolades.

I don't know. It was badly done and badly handled, and I wish she'd apologize sincerely. I don't find her too offensive, mainly just a bit silly, so I don't take much of what she says seriously; but she clearly hurt some people here and that sucks. It's one thing on these boards to get into a verbal scuffle over various issues; it's another to, inadvertently or not, strike at the very heart of basic insecurities people have.

[papie]

Jan 26, 2016 10:11:56 GMT -5 lovelyshoes said:

Jan 26, 2016 10:02:47 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

Exactly. She made it like we (all women) did something wrong if we weren't back in shape. It made me feel like shit

The tone is what annoyed me. She's told us before and she is telling us Again! Wtf? Thanks Kim K for your scientific enlightenment for those who care about their stomachs post baby. Wear a corset for 2-3 weeks after giving birth and magically get abs! Don't forget to carry your baby around as exercise!

It reminded me of that girl who posted a picture of herself on social media with her killer body and three young kids with the hashtag "what's your excuse?".  Um, bitch, I have a real job that doesn't involve working out all day but mostly sitting on my fat ass.  

[silva]

Her world and my world are different and that's all I have to say about that.

[underwaterrhymes]

Don't flit in here every few weeks looking to get pats on the back when you aren't extending your own arm to pat others in return and then be shocked when people call you out on it. This is a community.

And sure as shit don't show off your genetically blessed stomach in a thinly veiled effort to get compliments and imply (or outright state) something like:

This is TinyBride!
TinyBride wore a belly band for two weeks after she had a baby!
TinyBride has flat abs now!
TinyBride is smart!
Be like TinyBride!

That's not just AWing or bragging (which can be annoying even with frequent or well-liked posters). I AW enough and am self aware enough to know that I've undoubtedly caused a few eyes to roll.

But what happened in her post was just hurtful.

FWIW, I am wicked short and could wear four of those fucking bands and it wouldn't matter because I have separated abs from this last pregnancy. I am still going to rock a fucking bikini this summer. Or at least a tankini. (But not The Suit because that was tragic on me.)