@jezebel , honestly I usually don't feel articulate enough to express my disgust, etc, to be involved in these threads. I'm a POC, yet I feel like I'm not because I'm so fair skinned and I feel conflicted as to who I am right now. So it feels disingenuous to give my opinion.
@jezebel , honestly I usually don't feel articulate enough to express my disgust, etc, to be involved in these threads. I'm a POC, yet I feel like I'm not because I'm so fair skinned and I feel conflicted as to who I am right now. So it feels disingenuous to give my opinion.
What went down was abhorrent.
Oh, people don't need to participate. I mean, frankly, myself and most others aren't really contributing in a meaningful way. I'm just all heated and grossed out so I'm like "who cares about your dress alterations?" (Not a personal attack on that OP- I didn't even pay attention to who it is).
@jezebel , honestly I usually don't feel articulate enough to express my disgust, etc, to be involved in these threads. I'm a POC, yet I feel like I'm not because I'm so fair skinned and I feel conflicted as to who I am right now. So it feels disingenuous to give my opinion.
What went down was abhorrent.
I feel you on this. I too am very fair skinned. It sometimes makes me feel as I have no right to say anything. I experienced more racism as a child when I was darker. I'm considerable lighter now so I feel I don't have the struggle that some many POC have. This whole situation here though is as you said, abhorrent. I hope whoever did this is found, and prosecuted.
Post by thatgirl2478 on Jan 30, 2016 21:26:55 GMT -5
I have no time to read the thread (legit, I've been painting my damn house all day and now have to put my kid to bed) but WTF? That's a really shitty way of treating ANYONE let alone someone you have an internet beef with.
@jezebel , honestly I usually don't feel articulate enough to express my disgust, etc, to be involved in these threads. I'm a POC, yet I feel like I'm not because I'm so fair skinned and I feel conflicted as to who I am right now. So it feels disingenuous to give my opinion.
What went down was abhorrent.
Way before this went down, I had a race conversation with my sister in law who is a POC - her mother has light skin, hair, eyes and freckles so her Irish background is prominent, and her father is a very dark skinned black man. My SIL has light to dark tan skin (depending on the season), wavy/curly not-quite-black hair and light green eyes. She said she struggled for a long time because she didn't feel like she could relate to or embrace the "black" part of her, and people are constantly asking "what she is". Some of them even insist they know, and offer up a race. She's gotten Indian, Native American, Pacific Islander, the list goes on. She admits herself to sometimes being racially insensitive, the microaggressions, and feeling confusion about who she "is".
I can't imagine the conflict, because I am not in your (or her) situation, but I want to say I'm sorry you feel conflicted and like you don't get to have an opinion.
Post by creamsiclechica on Jan 30, 2016 21:44:45 GMT -5
I have been stewing on this all day, trying to find a way to suppress the rage that someone would commit such a gross violation of privacy and deliberate racism to a member of this (or any community). I have seen friends hurt here over racial insensitivity and even leave their home boards as a result, which was devastating, but this kind of criminal and hateful act on someone's own doorstep is almost unfathomable. The idea that a POC speaking up against injustice in a community of their peers and being rewarded with intimidation, fear, and a literal bag of dicks should make us all feel ashamed and physically ill. What this says is not, "this is not a safe place," but more importantly, "this isn't a safe place for POC," regardless of the shaking and nodding at learning lessons about our privilege. I hope this person and any party privy to the knowledge of the action are fully prosecuted and lifetime banned from here.
I haven't posted in any of these threads because I'm still catching up on everything that went down. Just want to throw my support in for Smo. I sincerely hope whoever did this is caught.
I love that ProBoards is actively investigating this. Especially after years of the Knot, which really was all tra la la whenever someone would cross the line.
Post by textbookcase on Jan 30, 2016 23:00:42 GMT -5
This is awful. I haven't been around a ton lately, but I've been trying to keep up with these threads as best as I can. I'm so sorry this happened to smo, its such a violation
@kirkette : I want to apologize for being an asshole idiot the other day and saying that while I thought booby was an asshole, I didn't think she was going to reach beyond the board. Because obviously someone did go beyond the board. No matter who the perpetrator was, it shows how stupid and naive my comment was.
Post by cabbagecabbage on Jan 31, 2016 7:56:05 GMT -5
I'm really out of the loop on this situation and didnt follow it developing but I've been reading to try and catch up. Smo, I am so so sorry someone did this to you. I really hope you feel safe again soon and there is some resolution that helps you feel better. This is simply awful.
Smo, I am so so sorry this happened to you. There are no words to describe how I am feeling about this. People are assholes and I hope whoever did this is terrified of what will happen once they are found out.
I love smo and do not see how anyone could want to hurt her.
It feels so lousy that something so negative came out of a place that is a source of support for a lot of people.
I hope WOC can come on here and not have to deal with the awful crap they have to face IRL.
Hugs to kirkette, you are the sweetest and most gracious tough cookie on here. KOKO, ::sings:: you light up my life... You are one of my fave gbcners heel05: You are one of the smartest, funniest, & you come in a thread and kill me everytime.
Just wanted to spread some positivity and love, because if these ladies ever left I would be crushed.