OMG. My Asshole Ex called me last night

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WTF you guys? I thought I was finally rid of him, but looks like his yearly call where he drives by our old house around midnight (likely drunk. Good choices) and calls me to tell me how wonderful his life without me, was just a few months late this year. Of course I don't pick up or anything, but he leaves this ridiculously long voicemails. I find it all a bit unsettling. Especially after the past few weeks, I'm already on edge.

Yes I realize I could block him. But given some of the threats he's made against me like buying a website in my name and then threatening to put up my boudior pics, posing as my dad in email, and other things,  I like to know if he has me on his mind so I can be on alert. 

It's been over FIVE years. He's remarried! He has a two-year old. Why are you still calling me?

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turdferguson, yea like I say I like to hear the voicemails in that it gives me a good frame of reference to his mind set. Seeing he called is really the most jarring part. Thankfully this only happens once a year. If it was more constant I'd have someone review them and such. Once I realize the message is the same old same old I'm like okay he's not making any threats this time.

I actually feel bad for his wife too. I really wish he could literally just move on. Since the day I left him I've never responded to these ridiculous emails and phone calls. So I'm not sure why he thinks this time would be any different.

[1confused1]

That's insane!!!

[bg]

Yuck, I'm sorry you're still dealing with that!

[arielroux]

Ugh, I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. It must be so unsettling. Hopefully you can do something nice for yourself today to put it out of your mind for a bit.

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Thanks everyone! I'm hoping this truly is his last phone call to me ever. I've been distracting myself with my normal cleaning routine and just took an extra long shower with lost of products. Gonna go to a movie now. Usually I'm pretty scrubby when I go, but will probably step it up just a notch so I feel better. In the grand scheme of things this is no be deal, and hey on the bright side,no threats!

[pandora]

I'm really glad to hear that he is no.longer threatening you but move on already, buddy! I mean, of course you're not easy to get over but 5 years is more than enough time! Enjoy the movie and be glad you ditched him so you're not in his poor wife's shoes. I too feel bad for his wife and daughter - he has some serious issues. I'm patting you on the back for a job well done in letting him go, smart lady!

[daisyn]

You should record his voice mail and email it to his wife

[calle28]

Wow. He needs to get over it and move on!

I saw his pyscho video too. Does he live in your area?

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Jan 31, 2016 19:21:21 GMT -5 daisyn said:

You should record his voice mail and email it to his wife

Sounds like @pdx18 has it under control, and doing something like that would just escalate it. There's no point in antagonizing someone who is obviously unstable.

[Deleted]

Oh yes I wouldn't do anything like that.

[LoveBug]

How awful. That's definitely enough to make anyone unsettled. I think it's smart to keep him unbolded, as like you said, you know when he's acting up.

[Deleted]

Oh no.  WTF is wrong with him? Don't answer that...obviously A LOT is wrong with his brain.  He needs to actually move the fuck on and leave you alone.  I didn't realize he was married and had a kid.  That makes it even worse.  
Try to brush it off and of course be on the alert.  Hugs.  I'm sorry.

[abcdefu]

All I can think of is his creepy psycho youtube video. UGH! I'm sorry you are still dealing with his shenanigans.

[pandora]

Jan 31, 2016 21:13:50 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

All I can think of is his creepy psycho youtube video. UGH! I'm sorry you are still dealing with his shenanigans.

I forgot about the video, ugh. I'm glad that's behind you. Imagine what his marriage must be like. Poor woman. so glad he's not as crazy to you now. I agree that you're handling this perfectly by monitoring it. Wish he would go away entirely for you though. Can you move and change numbers? Would he still be able to find you? Yuck, yuck.

[glitzyglow]

Blerg. He's the worst. I'm sorry pdx.

[bl]

Wow he is a piece of work. Sorry you still have to deal with all this, but sounds like you have a good handle on it.

[brooke77]

I'm sorry. I usually try to avoid name calling, but what a loser. 5 years? Get over it.

[Deleted]

It's cool guys he made sure to emphasize how over it he was. So you know he clearly is totally over it. I just think it's so funny that he seems to think this makes me jealous or something? I mean you'd think he would be so embarrassed!

[mommadukes]

he's a freakin lunatic!! sorry to still have to deal w that sh't!

[gozf]

Oh, this guy is the worst. I'm so sorry he popped up again.

[bullygirl979]

He is crazycakes. I really hope he gets to the point where he stops this lunatic behavior.

[angieawesome]

Ugh what a total douchebag. It obviously makes himself feel good by tormenting you. Fuck him. I'm so sorry. My ex pops up now and again and it totally sends me on the path of anger and makes me want to respond in an unkind way, but really, you are so much better than him. He's a sadsack.

[cuadrado]

Ew.

And yeah, his life sounds so wonderful. So wonderful that he is still thinking about his ex 5 years later.