I think I'm going to quit my job.

[misshark122]

All the reasons are too numerous to type. We don't need my job financially. I won't be able to shop as much, but, that's okay!

My commute sucks - traffic sucks. My boss is insane. The part time version of MY JOB opened up and she completely sabotaged it for me. I just had a review a month ago where she says everything is awesome and she is completely satisfied with my performance, but today her boss comes in to speak with me and tells me that he knows I am interested in the part time job but him and another higher up discussed it and highly encourage me not to apply. They said my personality isn't the right fit (it's at a different location) - that I am not outgoing. This guy passes me in the hallway like once every 2 weeks and I always say hi. So the idea that he thinks he has any kind of clue about what my personality is like is ridiculous - and I told him he has no idea what I am like especially based on our limited interactions. I told him I am sure this is all coming from my boss.

I am pretty sure I posted on here about how negatively she reacted a month or so ago when I mentioned wanting the part time job. I knew right then that she would ruin any chance of me getting it.

One last thing- she had a meeting yesterday with this guy and the other higher up about me wanting this position. I am sure she talked a bunch of crap the entire time, and she for sure knew how the meeting went. Then an hour or so after the meeting yesterday, she has the nerve to ask me how many pilates training hours I have... I said not many, and she said OH well MAYBE YOU'LL GET THE PART TIME JOB! She's such a snake! Anyway. I just had to vent.

But I think I am going to put my notice in so I can focus on doing pilates training anyway.

Oh and by the way after he left the room my heart was beating so fast and my hands were shaking... I was trying not to cry! It was ridiculous. I grabbed my stuff and was walking out and she's like hey where are you going? And I'm like I suddenly feel nauseous, I'm leaving. HA!

[FormerCityGirl]

I am so sorry! Those people are nuts. I'd leave them in the dust and focus on Pilates. I remember some other stories from work. You are way too nice to put up with their crap.

[315bride]

If I really was not happy at a job, I would have no problem quitting. The fact that you don't like it there, don't need the money, don't need it to advance in your career... yeah, that's a no-brainer.

[futurepivko]

I'm surprised you haven't yet, tbh.

[misshark122]

Well, I have a really crappy resume ... how to explain... I have a masters and I have good experience, but I have seriously never worked somewhere for more than a year. We move so much with the military and it's hard to find jobs! Then I did Chinese school for a year and a half and then lived in China for a year... so all that time without working. I was hoping to hold onto this job for at least a year.

But I want to finish pilates training because there is a chance we will move next summer, and I need to finish the training before that - and it is impossible to finish it that quickly with a full time job.

Anyway, so the thing that sucks is I feel like leaving before a year is really going to kill my resume - no one will want to hire me - at least in this sort of job - pilates will be another story! And pilates is really what I want to do. I don't really want to work in the field I am working in anyway. So I guess it doesn't matter after all.

Anyway it was funny because I had finally come to terms with not having the career I (thought) I really wanted, and I was completely content and satisfied with my life and not working and doing pilates and whatever else I was doing - then I randomly got this job.

Thanks for listening guys! This seriously drained me today. I cried on the way home in the car - like ugly cried.... haha!

[busybodyk]

Wow, that sucks! Good luck with moving on!

[adlove]

Misshark- if I were in your position, I would have no problem cutting my losses and getting out of there! Focus on the Pilates, you will be so much happier!

Good luck!

[315bride]

Do you have a contact in the military that can help you write your resume or at least your cover letter so that people are aware of the reason for your short job lengths?

[misshark122]

Yeah but I find it doesn't really matter. There have been two jobs where they have specifically told me they didn't want to hire me because they knew I would leave due to the military. Our moves have also happened a lot more frequently than typical military. Anyway, both jobs that told me that were with the county - different counties in CA! go figure!

I am pretty sure, though, that I don't care about this field, and like I said I really just want to teach pilates and hopefully one day open my own studio.

[niknik]

It's not going to kill your resume if you don't include it...

[misshark122]

Aug 29, 2012 17:31:03 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Aug 29, 2012 17:25:05 GMT -5 @315bride said:

Do you have a contact in the military that can help you write your resume or at least your cover letter so that people are aware of the reason for your short job lengths?

DoD civilian employee here. The military and other government agencies have programs specific for military spouses and understand the short time spans at jobs. Some jobs even have a spousal preference ranking on USA Jobs ...

I actually work for an agency where one of our roles is to help spouses find jobs (I work on base at the family support center). Let me just say it is nearly impossible to get the non-contractor version of my job on the Marine base here. (And the non-contractor version of the same job pays over 50% higher than what I make).

Also my "field" is not one where there are lots of jobs anyway. And a lot of the jobs are with county agencies and they could care less about why you are somewhere for a short amount of time. And you also have to wait for one slot to open because it's not the kind of thing where there are tons of jobs and they open all the time.

It's all null and void anyway - I used to let it upset me but it doesn't anymore because I don't even care and I am transitioning into a career where I basically work for myself.

[natablue]

It sounds like a really toxic environment and you'll be much better off leaving there.

I wish you good luck!

[kkloth]

That's some bullshit! I can't stand snarky people like that. We don't have to all be friends but the behind the back crap is ridiculous. FWIW - as a hiring manager I don't pay that close attention to how long someone's worked at other places. As long as you address it in your cover letter/resume you'll be fine.

I know everyone says they wouldn't hesitate to quick but I'm in a good work situation and leaving and it's hard as hell to actually walk in there and say the words! We should plan it for the same day and support each other through it

Anyway - u know you deserve better than the situation you're in. And once you get your Pilates training youll need the extra time off to come teach me in Ohio

[joanis018]

Get outta there girlfriend! The stress isn't worth it for your resume.

[blondemoment123]

Aug 29, 2012 17:31:03 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Aug 29, 2012 17:25:05 GMT -5 @315bride said:

Do you have a contact in the military that can help you write your resume or at least your cover letter so that people are aware of the reason for your short job lengths?

DoD civilian employee here. The military and other government agencies have programs specific for military spouses and understand the short time spans at jobs. Some jobs even have a spousal preference ranking on USA Jobs ...

I'd look into this. My job was listed and I got spousal preference when I applied.

[bimbi284]

Get outta there girl! You are better than all that bullshit!!

[FormerCityGirl]

Aug 29, 2012 17:37:10 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

Aug 29, 2012 17:31:03 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

DoD civilian employee here. The military and other government agencies have programs specific for military spouses and understand the short time spans at jobs. Some jobs even have a spousal preference ranking on USA Jobs ...

I actually work for an agency where one of our roles is to help spouses find jobs (I work on base at the family support center). Let me just say it is nearly impossible to get the non-contractor version of my job on the Marine base here. (And the non-contractor version of the same job pays over 50% higher than what I make).

Also my "field" is not one where there are lots of jobs anyway. And a lot of the jobs are with county agencies and they could care less about why you are somewhere for a short amount of time. And you also have to wait for one slot to open because it's not the kind of thing where there are tons of jobs and they open all the time.

It's all null and void anyway - I used to let it upset me but it doesn't anymore because I don't even care and I am transitioning into a career where I basically work for myself.

DH and I relocated 5 years ago into a very rural county where they really don't like women, especially ones who have MBAs. I haven't been working since everyone told me flat out I was smarter than them. Interviewers said it and friends told us that's why I didnt get into the jobs I really wanted. It sucked, but I came to terms with it. I work for me and a close friend as an Indie Record Executive Producer. My new sequin blazers are work attire and my pink and purple hair have advanced my career. Your work wear will be Lululemon and I think you'll love it all!

[misshark122]

Aug 29, 2012 18:11:14 GMT -5 FormerCityGirl said:

Aug 29, 2012 17:37:10 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

I actually work for an agency where one of our roles is to help spouses find jobs (I work on base at the family support center). Let me just say it is nearly impossible to get the non-contractor version of my job on the Marine base here. (And the non-contractor version of the same job pays over 50% higher than what I make).

Also my "field" is not one where there are lots of jobs anyway. And a lot of the jobs are with county agencies and they could care less about why you are somewhere for a short amount of time. And you also have to wait for one slot to open because it's not the kind of thing where there are tons of jobs and they open all the time.

It's all null and void anyway - I used to let it upset me but it doesn't anymore because I don't even care and I am transitioning into a career where I basically work for myself.

DH and I relocated 5 years ago into a very rural county where they really don't like women, especially ones who have MBAs. I haven't been working since everyone told me flat out I was smarter than them. Interviewers said it and friends told us that's why I didnt get into the jobs I really wanted. It sucked, but I came to terms with it. I work for me and a close friend as an Indie Record Executive Producer. My new sequin blazers are work attire and my pink and purple hair have advanced my career. Your work wear will be Lululemon and I think you'll love it all!

you rock FCG!!! I think this job is just holding me back from the life I want

[xokell2]

I get like that too at work when things are heated. My natural response to an adrenaline rush is to cry, I can totally relate. Once this drama passes you'll be better off and you can always shop vicariously through all of us!!

[melaniesc]

if you don't need it financially, definitely leave. no reason to be miserable and deal with backstabbers. hopefully they'll be screwed when u quit.

[FormerCityGirl]

Aug 29, 2012 18:13:59 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

Aug 29, 2012 18:11:14 GMT -5 FormerCityGirl said:

DH and I relocated 5 years ago into a very rural county where they really don't like women, especially ones who have MBAs. I haven't been working since everyone told me flat out I was smarter than them. Interviewers said it and friends told us that's why I didnt get into the jobs I really wanted. It sucked, but I came to terms with it. I work for me and a close friend as an Indie Record Executive Producer. My new sequin blazers are work attire and my pink and purple hair have advanced my career. Your work wear will be Lululemon and I think you'll love it all!

you rock FCG!!! I think this job is just holding me back from the life I want

Thanks! I kind of have been getting the feeling that you're in that rut I was in and I think you'll love the life you really want. I can totally see you in the shape of your life, rocking Lulu, and doing what you love.

Since I started doing this, DH and I will realize how happy and out of the ordinary the life we have is at random places. I was trading recipes with an artist that I love one night and we were laughing so hard about it after. Who knew a grass fed beef farmer/Songwriter makes his own creme brulee and is always looking for different takes on it? You will get to this point and laugh about these miserable people at some point.

[misshark122]

That is so cool! I love how light hearted that sounds. I work in domestic violence and I am not passionate about it at all and I am tired of hearing such negative crap all the time. I want to uplift people through pilates! so much more positive!

[preppy]

I just quit a bad job and my last day is Friday. The moment I put in notice I instantly felt better and it was the best thing I ever did! You won't regret it!

[FormerCityGirl]

Aug 29, 2012 18:33:18 GMT -5 misshark122 said:

That is so cool! I love how light hearted that sounds. I work in domestic violence and I am not passionate about it at all and I am tired of hearing such negative crap all the time. I want to uplift people through pilates! so much more positive!

Domestic violence is so difficult. The stats are stacked against you and there seems to be more success than failure with the victims. My XH was verbally and physically abusive. The night I left was horrific. So much went on in our apartment and no one called the police or tried to help me. I can see where your frustration lies with that area of social services and your coworkers. You can empower women in so many ways, but this office doesn't seem the place for you to do it at all.

[fashionx]

As much as it's not fun to do the actual quitting, I agree that it's the right thing in your situation. I was in a toxic job a few years ago, where I dreaded going into work, and I just had to put up with it for awhile because we did need the money, unfortunately. Had we not, I would've up and left much sooner! But, being in that situation, I now have a much better appreciation for the work I do now. I freelance and work doing what I love and am passionate about, and there's nothing better than that!

[misshark122]

FCG - I LOVE helping the people who want help. Unfortunately not a lot do because the people we get are forced to come to us through the military. I do love helping them though and I have some pretty special clients!

[Deleted]

After the stories you've shared coupled with not needing your job financially, I'd be out of there like my head was on fire and my ass was catchin'.

[photon]

life is way too short to stay in a toxic job that you absolutely loathe, ESPECIALLY when you don't need the extra money.

[veruca5839]

Aug 29, 2012 20:46:12 GMT -5 photon said:

life is way too short to stay in a toxic job that you absolutely loathe, ESPECIALLY when you don't need the extra money.

:Y: It will be such a weight off your shoulders!

[esynergy]

Get the f out of there!

If you ever wanted to apply for a job in the future, just explain in your cover letter why you have so many short-term positions. I think you explained it really well on here, and these days, a lot of people have short-term jobs. It shouldn't deter someone from giving you an interview.