Thursday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

I have never been so ready for a work week to be over. I'm overtired, my sinuses hurt, my throat and ear hurt, and I pulled a muscle in my back. I want to be in my bed. I want to take all the naps and binge watch something.

I've been craving a Vanilla Coke. I finally bought one this morning and noticed how much sugar is in it...horrifying! But I'm still going to drink it.

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Just rec'd my order of collar stays for BF's bday (in April, so I'm hella early). They're hand stamped with naughty sayings. I also got him some tres fancy/original cuff links. I'm hoping he loves them. They're small physically, but hoping they elicit a big, positive response.

Still no clue what to get him for Valentine's Day. I'm thinking a little card, and a date night package or something. (shrug)

[jojoandleo]

This time next week I will be on a plane to Puerto Rico!!! This is going to be the longest week ever.

My bra strap came unhooked so I just took it off. I'm at work braless now. Judge me allllll you want. I feel so freeeeeeeeee!

[jojoandleo]

Oh, and because I know EVERYONE is wondering, here is an update on my marriage:

H has finally realized he's fucking depressed as shit. We talked it over, he quit his job and is working on getting the house sold for now. After my raise at work, we are fine on my income for now. Once the house sells, we have a place here in the new city while we look for a house. A smaller house because, H is going to go back to school! He still has his GI Bill and will get paid (a small amount) living expenses while in school fulltime. He's been slowly coming back to the wonderful, thoughtful, loving guy I married since leaving his AWFUL AWFUL job (where his boss was very obviously targeting him due to his last name). Things aren't perfect, but no marriage ever is. But he tells and shows me he loves me every day, now. We still have work to do, and him moving here will be an adjustment, but H working on his depression is making a HUGE FUCKING DIFFERENCE. HUGE! I wish there wasn't such a stigma about mental health and he had done this earlier, but I am proud of him for doing it now.

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Feb 11, 2016 10:31:38 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oh, and because I know EVERYONE is wondering, here is an update    

That's fantastic!  I've been wondering, but didn't want to pry.

[winecat]

I'm so happy for you jojoandleo! And happy for your H too. Depression is an awful disease. He deserves to feel better and I'm so glad that he's working on it.

[glitzyglow]

That is great jojoandleo. My exH's disregard for his mental health because of the stigma played a huge role in his decline and demise of our marriage, so it's great to hear that Mr. Jojo is taking proactive steps and that you guys are doing well!

[glitzyglow]

@32flavors, I saw your post in the Hipster Cocktail o. Pandora. I love it!

[jojoandleo]

Feb 11, 2016 10:35:23 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

That is great jojoandleo . My exH's disregard for his mental health because of the stigma played a huge role in his decline and demise of our marriage, so it's great to hear that Mr. Jojo is taking proactive steps and that you guys are doing well!

It was a big wake up call to him when he went with me to a friend's birthday and they all (my close friends that I see ALL. THE. TIME.) were all, "Wow, man, we haven't seen you in a year!" He was all, "Fuck...I have closed myself off to the world..."

[bg]

Feb 11, 2016 10:35:23 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

That is great jojoandleo . My exH's disregard for his mental health because of the stigma played a huge role in his decline and demise of our marriage, so it's great to hear that Mr. Jojo is taking proactive steps and that you guys are doing well!

Same here -- so glad he's acknowledging it and getting help!

[jojoandleo]

Feb 11, 2016 11:20:13 GMT -5 bg said:

Feb 11, 2016 10:35:23 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

That is great jojoandleo . My exH's disregard for his mental health because of the stigma played a huge role in his decline and demise of our marriage, so it's great to hear that Mr. Jojo is taking proactive steps and that you guys are doing well!

Same here -- so glad he's acknowledging it and getting help!

I'm not going to lie, it was heading that way. I gave him until after the holidays to have the talk. Talking was the hardest part. Admitting my own insecurities and having him shut down was a blow. But my opening up really opened his eyes to his issues and how BOTH our issues have affected each other. Telling him about my insecurities was great, though, because he has been way more in tune. Like, when I bitched about my stretch marks, and he just stopped me from staring at them and told me I was beautiful. BEFORE the talk he would be all, "Whatever, everyone has stretch marks."

But, like I said, it's a process. I'm not just acting like everything is okay now.  But I am also realizing that I put my marriage on a pedestal and thought it would forever be like that.  People go through hard times, marriages go through hard times.  I can't expect perfection, but I also won't accept shit. 

[bg]

jojoandleo the fact that he's open to communicating is huge! I hope things continue to go well.

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jojoandleo that is such great news!!! I'm so happy for you!

[Wanderista]

I have an ex who I dated for a few years about 4-6 yrs ago. We had a terrible relationship for a number of reasons. We were really bad for each other as a long term couple. We have stayed friends after we broke up, not immediately after but we gradually developed a friendship in the years that followed. (He moved across the country as well which was the best thing for him). Anyway, he's just recently gotten into a new relationship and I am really, really happy for him. 

I hope that we do remain friends. (We don't talk about our romantic lives at all and he's a great person to catch up with from time to time. He knows a lot about film, art and literature.) It's like the people we were who dated were completely different than the people we are as friends.

[arielroux]

Today is my Friday! I'm heading down the shore after work for the weekend to do a polar bear plunge. Well, not to DO it, but to watch and partake in the festivities. Cannot wait!

Things are going so well with pseudo-BF. We spent the weekend together last weekend...Just hung out, went to dinner, and he finally met one of my friends and her BF. We had drinks, and had a great time. He texted me yesterday to make sure I told my friends how much he liked meeting them (aww!). Then, Sunday morning he gave me this gorgeous necklace. I was so surprised! He said it was "just because I thought you'd like it." OMG. My heart exploded.

Work sucks, but everything else is just so good. I haven't been this happy in a long, long time.

[pandora]

Jojo, so happy to read your update. Those are huge, huge steps for him, your marriage and future together. That makes me so mad about his old boss and his last name. So glad he's out of there and no longer dealing with such ignorance.

[pandora]

I just texted a friend and mentioned the baby. Nope, didn't send it to friend. My phone screwed up which it has done before with contacts, and sent it to my old boss. Argh! So, I followed up with an apology and try to resend it to my friend. Sent it again to old boss even though I triple checked the name before hitting send. I wanted to run if into the sunset! Lol I just took off bos out of contacts and sent it to myself via email. Kill me now.

[glitzyglow]

How did I forget about ebates?? I'm sad thinking of all the online shopping I've done and didn't use it. DAMN IT. I did remember today and earned $.30, lol.

The bachelorette party is in 3 weeks and I've heard nothing from the hostess about it. I need details so I can budget! The type A in me is irrationally annoyed by this lack of communication.

[jigsy]

Feb 11, 2016 15:22:28 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Feb 11, 2016 12:20:48 GMT -5 arielroux said:

Why is he a psudo-bf? Also jigsy did you update how the DTR talk went with Vegas?

Yes...crazy girl...in response to you yesterday!

Could have been better...it didn't go quite like I hoped. But it also wasn't bad. We had some good conversation and we understand each others feelings better. He has something he has to take care of, and I'm giving him some space to do that - Which is a little scary, but its something I need him to do.



Time will tell what happens next, but I'm in a good place about everything.



How was that for vague-posting, lol. I know most, if not all, posters here would think I'm a dolt for giving it a chance, so I'd rather skip that song and dance.



Read more: pandce.proboards.com/thread/512511/wednesday-randoms#ixzz3ztS2b4nu

[arielroux]

Feb 11, 2016 15:22:28 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Feb 11, 2016 12:20:48 GMT -5 arielroux said:

Today is my Friday! I'm heading down the shore after work for the weekend to do a polar bear plunge. Well, not to DO it, but to watch and partake in the festivities. Cannot wait!

Things are going so well with pseudo-BF.

Why is he a psudo-bf? Also jigsy did you update how the DTR talk went with Vegas?

Just because we don't officially refer to each other as bf/gf. We've been seeing each other since July, and aren't seeing other people (we've had that talk)...so we ARE bf/gf, we just don't call each other that. It's weird, but in the grand scheme of things, a "title" isn't something I need to focus on. It's working and that's all that matters!

[jojoandleo]

Feb 11, 2016 15:35:57 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

Feb 11, 2016 15:30:00 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Yes...crazy girl...in response to you yesterday!

I have the memory of a fruit fly. Lol, sorry. 

My boss at my old job once told me I had the memory of a gnat.   I don't remember why, though...