Since the board is slow...

[Deleted]

When dating do you follow the "half your age plus 8" and that is the lowest "appropriate" age to date?

So if you're thirty, you can date a 23 yo (30/2)+ 8 =23

I am in my second relationship that falls outside this rule by 2-5 years. My ex husband was within two years of my age and after my divorce I started just dating older and older men.

[dancelnow]

Well I couldn't see myself dating a man who barely met that younger than me. And I don't know that I can see myself dating someone just a few years from retirement now. So I'm going with no. It's not a number thing, but a place in life.

[TR]

I've never heard of that or thought about it. I'm 32.5. My BF is 43 today. I don't think I could see myself dating a 49 year old, but who knows. A 24 year old? I don't know. Maybe if they were really mature for their age? But what are the odds of that? lol

Now, this is for dating, right? Not just sleeping with? Because I definitely hooked up with someone right on the younger cusp of that two years ago. And he actually was pretty mature for his age.

[jigsy]

I don't think I would be able to date someone much younger than me. I am 30, and I feel like that is kind of a breaking point...especially here in LA - it seems like most men don't even start to think about getting serious serious until their 30's.

But maybe I should try it. Older made me feel like I had to grow up faster. Same age and I feel too grown up. I don't even have my shit all that together, but it seems way more together than a lot of 30 year old men in this area....i can't imagine someone younger making me feel differently.

[arielroux]

Hahaha, well...I'm 35 and the guy I've been seeing for the last 8 months is 25. That juuuuuuust comes in at the lowest possible age to fit that calculation. So, I guess I'm ok with it.

I will say, because I always feel the need to defend the relationship, that he is VERY mature for his age. Owns his own home outright - As in fully paid off (and not by his parents), isn't big into partying and the bar scene. I don't know. If I had to guess his age, I would put him somewhere around 30. He's not a "typical" 25 year old. And I'm not a "typical" 35 year old. I think we meet somewhere in the middle, maturity-wise.

I never thought I'd be able to date someone that much younger than me, but he surprised me. Swept me off my feet and I haven't looked back. 8 months later (and I know 8 months isn't that long), and it's still one of the easiest, least dramatic relationships I have EVER been a part of.

[cuddlyevil]

The youngest I've dated was 28. I'm 39. I've been trying to stay as close to my age as possible.

[Deleted]

TR, I can't remember how I came across this rule. The one guy who was twice my age I just kinda slept with and never was serious about. I want to say it's actual dating.

jigsy, There's a Jeni's Splendid scoop shop close. You're welcome. Churro ice cream..... mhmmmmm

I feel like I couldn't date younger but I also don't feel the need to defend my relationship. I'm thriving in my company and so I feel like it takes away from the sugar daddy aspect. I would not be cool with dating someone with kids older than me. I feel like there would be some mental block going on with that situation. My BF has an adopted daughter that is 2 years younger than me. It truly bothers me. We never really discussed his kids ages until three months in and said something about college graduation but they were older kids from his wife's previous relationship.

Fun story: My coworker's 67 year old dad is married to a 25ish year old. My coworker has a 23 year old son.

[FormerlyRR]

Hm. TL is two years older than my 'youngest' number. Some days I'm a lil WTF at myself, but we are really well-matched in most ways. And I don't think of myself as being my actual age, when I do I'm always startled.

[bg]

No where near dating but I think I'll try to stay close to my age.

[bl]

My bf is 25, he is the youngest person I have dated. I definitely couldn't go any younger and usually choose to stay around the 27-35 range. I am 30.

[doglove]

Youngest was probably 28? Oldest was 42. I'm 34, so I'm pretty much in that range.

[alleinesein]

I'll be 40 in a few weeks and I have no desire to date a 28 yr old. I prefer men my age but since they refuse to date me I stick to a 7 year window (33-47).

[Deleted]

I guess it really depends on the particular person.  In general, I'm not in the same mindset as someone much younger/older than me

[katieido]

My low limit is 26 according to that calculation. I admit I definitely can not see myself going younger than that, so I suppose it is accurate.

[pinkdutchtulips]

I'm 41, the youngest I'm willing to go is 34. I try to say +\- 5 years of my age.

The FWB I had last year was 33 to my 39/40. The last guy I dated was 43 and the one I currently have my eye on is 39.

[berbles]

When XH and I split, he immediately (as in, a week after I moved out) started dating a 19 year old. He was 32. That's 5 YEARS younger than the OP's math. I think he thought everyone would think he was super awesome for it, when in reality everyone was just laughing at his nonsense.

[dreamcrisp1]

I would not date younger at all. But older is fine. Preferable for me. My boyfriend is 4 years older. I've dated maybe 6 years older at the most?

[Linie]

I find myself unable to date someone who is younger than me. Older is fine (but not twice my age). The biggest difference in age for me is 14 years older than me. I'm 45.

[brooke77]

I prefer to date someone my age. I'm 33 and I think 30-40 would be my range, but it's not like you get identification before you click with someone. The guy I've been on a few dates with is 35 and we seem in similar places in life (career, wanting to travel, wanting a family, etc) and I worry that someone too much younger or older would be on a different page than me.

[greysgirl]

I'm 33. I went on a date with a 25 year old, I felt weird about it. Oldest I have dated is 41.

[somersault72]

I always said I'd prefer to be with someone my age, but my FI is 9 years older than me (I'm 34, he's 43) so . . . . Ex-h and I are the same age and obviously that didn't work out, so I was trying to keep an open mind. I believe my match profile said I'd date anyone between 32 and 40. I've never heard of that equation, but I cannot fathom dating a 25 year old at my age.

[glitzyglow]

I'm 30 and a 23 year old is very unappealing to me. I'd prefer someone close to my age or older.

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Feb 17, 2016 19:20:53 GMT -5 berbles said:

When XH and I split, he immediately (as in, a week after I moved out) started dating a 19 year old. He was 32. That's 5 YEARS younger than the OP's math. I think he thought everyone would think he was super awesome for it, when in reality everyone was just laughing at his nonsense.

I feel like if I was a guy, I'd need to be with someone able to go to a bar and drink. And drinking isn't even important to me I drink maybe once a month or less. A 19 yr would drag me down. 

[kore2]

I'm 35. It's hard for me to imagine dating a 25 year old long term, and I'm pretty juvenile at times.

My ex-H & current BF are both 43. Seems to be my sweet spot.

[housewife]

I'm not dating, but I can't imagine dating someone that was 23.

Based on what I tell myself I want now, when I am ready I'll need to find 70 year old, lol. I am done having kids. I am selfish and don't want someone that also has young kids. I stood back while stbxh accomplished career goals and I am not going to do that again. While I am sure there are plenty of men that fit that criteria within my age rage, in my head I feel like all that's out there is frat boy types.

[daisyn]

hahaha no
Dating is hard enough without having to do math too!

[sweetchix]

I was always told that to figure out your "cougar" age limit, take half your age plus 7. Anyone younger than that, then you'd be a cougar to them.

I'm not sure I would consider seriously dating someone who was 25/26 years old. But to just have some fun with? Sure. I've done it before. In fact, I've been texting with my cousin's friend again, who is 26, about hooking up some time soon.

[berbles]

Feb 18, 2016 11:50:20 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Feb 17, 2016 19:20:53 GMT -5 berbles said:

When XH and I split, he immediately (as in, a week after I moved out) started dating a 19 year old. He was 32. That's 5 YEARS younger than the OP's math. I think he thought everyone would think he was super awesome for it, when in reality everyone was just laughing at his nonsense.

I feel like if I was a guy, I'd need to be with someone able to go to a bar and drink. And drinking isn't even important to me I drink maybe once a month or less. A 19 yr would drag me down. 

It's funny that you mention that, since one of our biggest problems was his binge drinking. LOL

[glynn]

I refuse to even think about dating someone I could have birthed. I am 42 and have a 23 year old. I would consider 38/39 but I tend to go older. I have always been around people older than me.... I have dates a couple of years younger but mostly older. The biggest age difference was 12 years old when I was in my 20's.