Question for those of you that relocated.

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Did you announce your move on social media?  If you did not, why?

I'm putting in my notice at work tomorrow so now I can finally be more open and let people know.  
My social media is private so unless we are friends, you can't see my posts.  I figured it's the easiest way to let people know--hey I'm relocating to xyz.  Most of the people that I wanted to tell personally already know and all of my coworkers will know tomorrow.  

I mentioned to one of my friends that I feel like I should tell one old friend (not too close with any longer) before I announce on fb.  My friend told me I shouldn't make an announcement at all because then people will comment etc and maybe I won't like something they say.  ?  I don't know what to do now.

Help?  And sorry I'm posting to death about this stuff.

[baa1981]

When I relocated to Austin I didn't make any big announcement on FB. I told people I needed in person and it just kind of went from there. I feel like people started congratulating or making comments on my FB and I'd respond to those.

I'm getting ready to relocate to Thailand and did make a big announcement with that. I've started a blog and shared my first blog post. The other day I posted a pic on IG and linked it to FB also that made mention of me moving out of the country. There were a lot of comments on both the blog post and the pic.

What are you worried that they would say that you wouldn't like?

[glitzyglow]

I told close family and friends in person, then announced on fb about 3 weeks before my move. My fb friends were all very sweet and supportive. The only negativity I got was in person from my older sister (who I am not close with).

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Feb 21, 2016 22:33:30 GMT -5 baa1981 said:

When I relocated to Austin I didn't make any big announcement on FB. I told people I needed in person and it just kind of went from there. I feel like people started congratulating or making comments on my FB and I'd respond to those.

I'm getting ready to relocate to Thailand and did make a big announcement with that. I've started a blog and shared my first blog post. The other day I posted a pic on IG and linked it to FB also that made mention of me moving out of the country. There were a lot of comments on both the blog post and the pic.

What are you worried that they would say that you wouldn't like?

Wow, Thailand! That's cool and you're braver than me!! I didn't even think about what things people could say that I wouldn't like. This was one of my oldest girlfriends "idea". She's like a big sister to me and I think she sees how anxious I am (I've been a mess the past few days) and doesn't want anyone to add to it.
Thus far, the family and friends that know have been extremely supportive.

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Feb 21, 2016 22:33:57 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I told close family and friends in person, then announced on fb about 3 weeks before my move. My fb friends were all very sweet and supportive. The only negativity I got was in person from my older sister (who I am not close with).

That sucks that she was negative. Now that you say it, I vaguely recall that you mentioned that at some point.
Everyone I have told so far has been really sweet and supportive. The thing is, if you told me 5 years ago that I'd be leaving NYC, I'd have told you that you were insane, asked you what drug you were on and said it would never happen.
There are a couple of "friends"/acquaintances that might be like....YOU?? Maybe not.
I think I'll end up announcing at some point.

[baa1981]

Feb 21, 2016 23:01:46 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Feb 21, 2016 22:33:30 GMT -5 baa1981 said:

When I relocated to Austin I didn't make any big announcement on FB. I told people I needed in person and it just kind of went from there. I feel like people started congratulating or making comments on my FB and I'd respond to those.

I'm getting ready to relocate to Thailand and did make a big announcement with that. I've started a blog and shared my first blog post. The other day I posted a pic on IG and linked it to FB also that made mention of me moving out of the country. There were a lot of comments on both the blog post and the pic.

What are you worried that they would say that you wouldn't like?

Wow, Thailand! That's cool and you're braver than me!! I didn't even think about what things people could say that I wouldn't like. This was one of my oldest girlfriends "idea". She's like a big sister to me and I think she sees how anxious I am (I've been a mess the past few days) and doesn't want anyone to add to it.
Thus far, the family and friends that know have been extremely supportive.

Thanks!

In my experience everyone is supportive and makes comments about being adventurous and well wishes.  It sounds like that's what you're getting/will continue to get.  But I guess if you are worried and are super anxious right now (which is completely understandable!!) maybe wait just a little bit to make a big announcement.  But once people find out, I'm sure you'll get some comments to you also!  

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baa1981, maybe I'll see how tomorrow goes at work and make my announcement later this week.
There are a few people at work that the thought of telling them gives me anxiety! I've told a few people (that I needed references from) and they were all wonderfully supportive. There are some I just want to skip around to with joy and a basket of resignation letters. "You get a resignation letter, you get a resignation letter!!!" LOL.

What brings you to Thailand? Business or pleasure or family? One of my coworker was there recently with his SO who is from there and it looked so beautiful. I'd love to get there someday to visit.

[baa1981]

Feb 21, 2016 23:21:27 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

baa1981 , maybe I'll see how tomorrow goes at work and make my announcement later this week.
There are a few people at work that the thought of telling them gives me anxiety! I've told a few people (that I needed references from) and they were all wonderfully supportive. There are some I just want to skip around to with joy and a basket of resignation letters. "You get a resignation letter, you get a resignation letter!!!" LOL.

What brings you to Thailand? Business or pleasure or family? One of my coworker was there recently with his SO who is from there and it looked so beautiful. I'd love to get there someday to visit.

Good luck tomorrow!!  I hope it goes well for you! 

Business! I quit my job of 13 years back in September with nothing lined up (I had people I wanted to skip around to like you said above!!).  Nothing was exciting me while I was job searching. Then I came across info on teaching English abroad. I had been interested in going abroad for a while.  So I did more research and am leaving April 1 to head over to do my certification needed and then will start teaching in May.  The certification takes 4 weeks and it'll be done in the beach city of Hua Hin.  I love searching the #Thailand on IG.  It's so beautiful!!  

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Feb 21, 2016 23:30:32 GMT -5 baa1981 said:

Feb 21, 2016 23:21:27 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

baa1981 , maybe I'll see how tomorrow goes at work and make my announcement later this week.
There are a few people at work that the thought of telling them gives me anxiety! I've told a few people (that I needed references from) and they were all wonderfully supportive. There are some I just want to skip around to with joy and a basket of resignation letters. "You get a resignation letter, you get a resignation letter!!!" LOL.

What brings you to Thailand? Business or pleasure or family? One of my coworker was there recently with his SO who is from there and it looked so beautiful. I'd love to get there someday to visit.

Good luck tomorrow!!  I hope it goes well for you! 

Business! I quit my job of 13 years back in September with nothing lined up (I had people I wanted to skip around to like you said above!!).  Nothing was exciting me while I was job searching. Then I came across info on teaching English abroad. I had been interested in going abroad for a while.  So I did more research and am leaving April 1 to head over to do my certification needed and then will start teaching in May.  The certification takes 4 weeks and it'll be done in the beach city of Hua Hin.  I love searching the #Thailand on IG.  It's so beautiful!!  

That's going to be such an unbelievable experience! It looks gorgeous. Have you met anyone there/know anyone there? The COL must be reasonable.
I start my new position in NC on April 4th. We need to keep each other posted!!!

[baa1981]

Feb 21, 2016 23:34:38 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Feb 21, 2016 23:30:32 GMT -5 baa1981 said:

Good luck tomorrow!!  I hope it goes well for you! 

Business! I quit my job of 13 years back in September with nothing lined up (I had people I wanted to skip around to like you said above!!).  Nothing was exciting me while I was job searching. Then I came across info on teaching English abroad. I had been interested in going abroad for a while.  So I did more research and am leaving April 1 to head over to do my certification needed and then will start teaching in May.  The certification takes 4 weeks and it'll be done in the beach city of Hua Hin.  I love searching the #Thailand on IG.  It's so beautiful!!  

That's going to be such an unbelievable experience! It looks gorgeous. Have you met anyone there/know anyone there? The COL must be reasonable.
I start my new position in NC on April 4th. We need to keep each other posted!!!

Yes, we will!  

A girl about 6 years younger than me from my hometown is over there.  I'm from a very small town, but she was enough younger than me that we didn't have much interaction.  I did friend her on FB and we've been messaging back and forth a ton.  It's been helpful having her over there.  And I joined a couple of Bangkok ex pat groups and another group of teachers.  I called to make an appointment with a doctor before I leave.  The nurse said when are you going over to make sure you like it. I was like uhhhh...April 1st.  haha

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Feb 21, 2016 23:55:51 GMT -5 baa1981 said:

Feb 21, 2016 23:34:38 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

That's going to be such an unbelievable experience! It looks gorgeous. Have you met anyone there/know anyone there? The COL must be reasonable.
I start my new position in NC on April 4th. We need to keep each other posted!!!

Yes, we will!  

A girl about 6 years younger than me from my hometown is over there.  I'm from a very small town, but she was enough younger than me that we didn't have much interaction.  I did friend her on FB and we've been messaging back and forth a ton.  It's been helpful having her over there.  And I joined a couple of Bangkok ex pat groups and another group of teachers.  I called to make an appointment with a doctor before I leave.  The nurse said when are you going over to make sure you like it. I was like uhhhh...April 1st.  haha

I'm sure having someone that you kind of know does make it more comfortable. For me it does.

[bl]

I had been traveling to Florida a ton for work before I decided to move, so about a week before the move I made a post about being able to call sunny Florida home soon and not being able to wait to explore the beaches. I had also not announced the divorce, so I did get a couple of comments either congratulating us or asking if exh was coming along. Overall though I got nothing negative about moving and lots of encouragement.

[Wanderista]

I've never given this much thought but no, I never really explicitly posted about moves I made. I tended to just let my future posts inform people that I have moved. I did a lot of moving before Facebook was a big deal though. I also have an approach to social media where I don't make a lot of big announcements on there. I tend to just post about specific experiences, I guess.

I do have a lot of very mobile friends though who move and travel a lot themselves, so moving among my social circle is not a big deal normally. That probably influences me.

I think that in this era of my life, I probably would announce a move formally in advance and give people time to meet up with me. Facebook is really helpful once you have moved for staying in touch with people. I know that's pretty common knowledge but I'm really glad that it has allowed me to keep up with people even when we have moved to various places.

I'm just saying that it's a good resource for maintaining ties with people who have lived where you are moving from and also for building up your friend base in your new city as you meet cool new people.

[Deleted]

I announced about a month and a half before my report date since I was leaving one country and coming back to the states. But in my company it is usually a great thing when you relocate because that indicates a promotion. I want to say I started my post with "I'm happy to announce..."
So that kinda redirected any negative comments. I posted nothing after I got here... I think maybe a "first day of work" picture (similar to first day of school pic).

[jigsy]

I did not announce per se, because I didn't announce the seperation and it all happened at the same time. But I didn't hide it either. I basically just posted what I would normally post. When I go my apartment, I posted about my new home, when I found a great spot to eat in my new neighborhood, I posted about that.

In your case, I don't think you should be worried about posting. It is an exciting thing, and I imagine you will get a lot of support, which may help ease some anxiety. And yes, there may be some poo-pooer, especially since you are in NYC and I feel like a lot of city people are loyal to staying (if that makes sense), but you know why you are moving, it will be a great thing for you and J and your future, so ignore those people and share the exciting parts of your life with those who will lift you up.

[pandora]

I moved well before I was on social media. I'm pretty private on social media but in think you will find support if you post an upbeat announcement.

You saw my announcement which started with, "I am so very excited to announce..." and that pretty much shut down any negative responses. The other party is be confident in your decision. If you aren't people will feed off of that. Don't give them the chance, be confident that this is what you want, that you are excited for this fabulous job opportunity and bonus of a new adventure for you and J. I'd even consider putting that in there, "...share in our excitement for this great opportunity to explore a different party of the country while we pursue a new career adventures!"



I think sharing online will give you the boost that you need to get excited.

How did it go today with giving your notice???

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Feb 22, 2016 17:01:33 GMT -5 pandora said:

I moved well before I was on social media. I'm pretty private on social media but in think you will find support if you post an upbeat announcement.

You saw my announcement which started with, "I am so very excited to announce..." and that pretty much shut down any negative responses. The other party is be confident in your decision. If you aren't people will feed off of that. Don't give them the chance, be confident that this is what you want, that you are excited for this fabulous job opportunity and bonus of a new adventure for you and J. I'd even consider putting that in there, "...share in our excitement for this great opportunity to explore a different party of the country while we pursue a new career adventures!"



I think sharing online will give you the boost that you need to get excited.

How did it go today with giving your notice???

Thanks! I handed in my resignation to my "big boss" and it went well. He said he would miss me, but understands leaving to relocate. He said he'd be unhappy if I was just leaving for another local hospital.
Today was absolutely crazy at work so I wasn't able to have ample time to herd my coworkers up to announce. Maybe tomorrow. Thanks for remembering.

[pandora]

Feb 22, 2016 17:18:50 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Feb 22, 2016 17:01:33 GMT -5 pandora said:

I moved well before I was on social media. I'm pretty private on social media but in think you will find support if you post an upbeat announcement.

You saw my announcement which started with, "I am so very excited to announce..." and that pretty much shut down any negative responses. The other party is be confident in your decision. If you aren't people will feed off of that. Don't give them the chance, be confident that this is what you want, that you are excited for this fabulous job opportunity and bonus of a new adventure for you and J. I'd even consider putting that in there, "...share in our excitement for this great opportunity to explore a different party of the country while we pursue a new career adventures!"



I think sharing online will give you the boost that you need to get excited.

How did it go today with giving your notice???

Thanks! I handed in my resignation to my "big boss" and it went well. He said he would miss me, but understands leaving to relocate. He said he'd be unhappy if I was just leaving for another local hospital.
Today was absolutely crazy at work so I wasn't able to have ample time to herd my coworkers up to announce. Maybe tomorrow. Thanks for remembering.

Woohoo!! I cannot imagine anyone being anything but happy and excited for you but if they aren't either of those things keep in mind that they are likely jealous. Don't let people get you down. But, I foresee lots of support for you as you start telling more!! Happy dance for you!!!

[Deleted]

Thanks pandora!!!!  I really appreciate all of your upbeat advice.  As you know, changes like this are daunting.  I wish I could fast forward just a little to where I'm all settled and chilling at the pool in the new place.  We signed a lease tonight.  I looked online and found a few places and ran them by my friend (old coworker) down there.  She and her H actually lived in one of them when they first relocated, so that's the one I chose.  Not having seen it in person, I trust her and the pics online were nice.  It actually has a pool and 24 hr fitness center included (maybe I can get in shape!) and we got a 2 bed/2 bath.  I'm happy!!! (and still scared and anxious! LOL)

[itsmyparty]

In December I announced on Facebook ("Friends Only") that I would be relocating in the new year. I did this for a few reasons:

- Some of my (our) friends didn't know we were divorcing, and this seemed like a more subtle way to get the word out that we were separating. For the most part, it worked; I had a few people ask me if he was coming with me, but most people got the hint.
- Even people who knew we were divorcing didn't know I was planning to move, and I saw no reason to hide it. I was (am) excited, and everyone has been excited for me, too, from what I'm aware of. 
- I am looking for a new job in my new locale, so I wanted to get the word out to as many friends possible so they can help me with networking. I've had several conversations with third party contacts now because I announced my move on Facebook.
- Finally, I didn't want to just move and then have my friends be like, "WTF?" when they saw me suddenly posting pics and posts on Facebook from another state. I censor myself to a certain degree on social media, but for me it's also a place where I want to be myself. That's why I don't friend every single person/coworker/client I meet! I try not to paint myself as a different person on FB, and to not tell people about an interstate move would almost seem like a lie for me.

[pandora]

Feb 22, 2016 23:06:17 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Thanks pandora!!!!  I really appreciate all of your upbeat advice.  As you know, changes like this are daunting.  I wish I could fast forward just a little to where I'm all settled and chilling at the pool in the new place.  We signed a lease tonight.  I looked online and found a few places and ran them by my friend (old coworker) down there.  Snhe and her H actually lived in one of them when they first relocated, so that's the one I chose.  Not having seen it in person, I trust her and the pics online were nice.  It actually has a pool and 24 hr fitness center included (maybe I can get in shape!) and we got a 2 bed/2 bath.  I'm happy!!! (and still scared and anxious! LOL)

Any pool and work out gym? If J doesn't think that's not stepping up in the world - that sounds amazing!!! In ready to follow you down - stalker! Lol

Anxious and scared = totally normal and expected, you're human!! This is good, we no longer suspect you are a robo.

I hope you can start feeling more excited now, woot! This is all so crazy exciting!!

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Feb 23, 2016 21:25:52 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 22, 2016 23:06:17 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Thanks pandora !!!!  I really appreciate all of your upbeat advice.  As you know, changes like this are daunting.  I wish I could fast forward just a little to where I'm all settled and chilling at the pool in the new place.  We signed a lease tonight.  I looked online and found a few places and ran them by my friend (old coworker) down there.  Snhe and her H actually lived in one of them when they first relocated, so that's the one I chose.  Not having seen it in person, I trust her and the pics online were nice.  It actually has a pool and 24 hr fitness center included (maybe I can get in shape!) and we got a 2 bed/2 bath.  I'm happy!!! (and still scared and anxious! LOL)

Any pool and work out gym? If J doesn't think that's not stepping up in the world - that sounds amazing!!! In ready to follow you down - stalker! Lol

Anxious and scared = totally normal and expected, you're human!! This is good, we no longer suspect you are a robo.

I hope you can start feeling more excited now, woot! This is all so crazy exciting!!

Come on down!! Only if you have a snuggly baby in tow so I can hug him, ok?   LOL  I feel much better than I did.  More excited anxious than sad OMG WTF anxious if that makes sense.  Can I just mention.....I just got a quote from my car ins company with the new address.  LOL  For full coverage it will be going down from over $2500 a year to under $600 a year.  How the fuck is that even a thing?  That is fucking awesome.