Wednesday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

My headboard came, yay! But then I realized I don't have the correct brackets, so I ordered those and will hopefully have them by the weekend. Patience is a virtue, lol.

I'm really loving my hair and I'm glad I went back to get what I wanted.

I feel kind of sickly this morning. I had a low temp of 99.5 this morning, but I had also drank hot coffee all morning. I'm going to keep an eye on it since my lower back is kind of hurting and I'm always worried it could be big (kidney infection or something), but my period is also about to start and I just flipped my mattress, both of which could explain lower back pain. And my sinus troubles could also explain the low grade fever because my poor head is full of pressure and drainage, ugh.

[brooke77]

Hope you feel better! I had a kidney infection once (a UTI that didn't respond to antibiotics) and it was the worst pain I've ever had. OMG. With a low fever and those symptoms, keep an eye on it..

My dog decided to run out the front door this morning while I was taking out the trash. He ran right into the main street. It was only for a few seconds that he was loose but it was terrifying. Luckily a lady was out walking her two dogs and he stopped to say hi to them and I caught him.

[TR]

My bff that's moving to NYC is in THE most dramatic relationship ever. It's exhausting to ME, lol. It's so up and down and they nitpick and fight SO much and I try to give her advice (because she's asks for it, not unsolicited) and then the next day it's all, "Oh we're good again!" I mean, if that's the kind of relationship she wants, I guess that's her right, but I can't imagine being happy with that. I guess that's flameful because it's her life, but I judge it, lol.

[pandora]

Feel better glitzyglow!

I'm ready to change doctors after my last visit. They have shamedone me beyond belief for gaining weight. It's ridiculous. I lost 12 lbs in 1st trimester and they are basing my weight gain including the 12 lbs lost which is dumb. I was too skinny and snapped back to normal weight in 2nd tri yet they are treating me like a child.

They literally scolded me like a child every appointment and this recent one had my anxiety through the roof talking about birth defects because I had extra fluid in my placenta. That plus the weight gain and the fact that he is a big baby automatically = gestational diabetes. More scolding because they already know I'm not going to pass my glucose test. Automatic shaming on me that I wasn't being "good". Then they asked me a list of questions for which I was still trying to work out such as was how I intended to leave the hospital with baby, who would be around the clock with me when I come home, etc... I told her that decisions weren't finalized because of travel schedules and that it's 3 months out still, plus I live in the city so would likely walk out with baby. This nurse says to the other nurse, "she doesn't know anything yet"...I was speechless.

Guess what? No f'n gestational diabetes so all that was ridiculous. I'm done and switching docs.

[doglove]

Hope you feel better glitzyglow. We're supposed to get some nasty weather here this afternoon and it's already raining a crapton. I'd prefer to just go back home and back to bed!

[bg]

Today I sign away my part of the house. Happy and sad at the same time. And I still don't have confirmation that stbxh signed our final agreement papers which is continuing to stress me out.

Feel better glitzyglow
Wow, pandora, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. Definitely time for a new doctor.

[dreamcrisp1]

TR, my cousin is like that. Her bf and her are always breaking up and back together. I never know what to say. Uh... Is it gonna last this time? It's so dramatic!

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Feb 24, 2016 11:00:46 GMT -5 pandora said:

I'm done and switching docs.

If you're going to switch, do it ASAP.  Like today.  I tried to switch in third tri and no one would take me because I was so far along.

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pandora, wtf. I would totally let them know why I'm switching offices. Shaming should NEVER happen. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that unprofessional bag o dicks.

I am not enjoying my job. I have nosy @ss support staff and a lot of people around here suffer from chronic stupidity. I do not enjoy the answer "it's always been done this way". No. I have eight more months until I'm no longer obligated to work here.

[bl]

glitzyglow feel better!
pandora wow, I am so sorry that office did that to you, hope you can switch pretty easily and have a much better experience.

Work has been very stressful for me lately, and I have been beyond exhausted every night(like asleep before 9pm) since I got back from Dallas. I think this week should wrap up the end of my work stress, so maybe I can feel a bit better soon.

[pandora]

Feb 24, 2016 11:47:47 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Feb 24, 2016 11:00:46 GMT -5 pandora said:

I'm done and switching docs.

If you're going to switch, do it ASAP.  Like today.  I tried to switch in third tri and no one would take me because I was so far along.

Fortunately, I got an appt in 2 weeks! I'm waiting to speak with my original doc on Friday and.I'm going to lay it all out to her. I need to jot down notes so I don't forget anything.

They've totally been shaming me on my weight and I'm down 6 lbs from my weigh in - guess I shouldn't have had to super salty homemade cornbread hash the day before, oops. So, I'm really only up 16 lbs.

[redshoejune]

My ex was out of town for a while and it was so nice. Since he's been back there has been drama every day and he's threatened to take me back to court twice. I wish he would just go away.

[1confused1]

mp,that's awesome. I haven't found that in a therapist yet, hope it continues!

I am on day 6 of being home with my son who had surgery, I am soooo ready to get back to work, leave the house, sleep through the night. Being a full time caretaker is exhausting.

[pandora]

Feb 24, 2016 14:59:45 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 24, 2016 11:47:47 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

If you're going to switch, do it ASAP.  Like today.  I tried to switch in third tri and no one would take me because I was so far along.

Fortunately, I got an appt in 2 weeks! I'm waiting to speak with my original doc on Friday and.I'm going to lay it all out to her. I need to jot down notes so I don't forget anything.

They've totally been shaming me on my weight and I'm down 6 lbs from my weigh in - guess I shouldn't have had to super salty homemade cornbread hash the day before, oops. So, I'm really only up 16 lbs.

You know, I just remembered her response to my commenting with how out of breath that I've been. She said, "yeah you're out of shape" - tf? No, I'm not! Yes, I have a serious back injury but I am overall in great shape, very healthy, and on target with weight if not a bit low before pregnancy. I wore a freaking size 2 jeans before and have been super active my entire life.

Did it occur to her to mention that pregnant women are TYPICALLY winded because the body rezones much of her oxygen to the baby so it's more work than normal to breathe while pregnant??? NOT exclusively because they are out of shape, geesus! You'd never know that I'm dealing with a top hospital and docs here. I swear I'm not making this shit up.

I'm getting more pissed now. I'm calling tomorrow to cancel the last appointment. I'm going to let her know when she calls over the phone on Friday and that's it - c'est fini. Unfortunately, she could deliver my baby since it's all the same hospital, gulp. Although I do trust her competency.

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Feb 24, 2016 17:37:31 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 24, 2016 14:59:45 GMT -5 pandora said:

Fortunately, I got an appt in 2 weeks! I'm waiting to speak with my original doc on Friday and.I'm going to lay it all out to her. I need to jot down notes so I don't forget anything.

They've totally been shaming me on my weight and I'm down 6 lbs from my weigh in - guess I shouldn't have had to super salty homemade cornbread hash the day before, oops. So, I'm really only up 16 lbs.

You know, I just remembered her response to my commenting with how out of breath that I've been. She said, "yeah you're out of shape" - tf? No, I'm not! Yes, I have a serious back injury but I am overall in great shape, very healthy, and on target with weight if not a bit low before pregnancy. I wore a freaking size 2 jeans before and have been super active my entire life.

Did it occur to her to mention that pregnant women are TYPICALLY winded because the body rezones much of her oxygen to the baby so it's more work than normal to breathe while pregnant??? NOT exclusively because they are out of shape, geesus! You'd never know that I'm dealing with a top hospital and docs here. I swear I'm not making this shit up.

I'm getting more pissed now. I'm calling tomorrow to cancel the last appointment. I'm going to let her know when she calls over the phone on Friday and that's it - c'est fini. Unfortunately, she could deliver my baby since it's all the same hospital, gulp. Although I do trust her competency.

I am angry for you. I gained 25 pounds in a year. My doctor had a look on her face in shock at first but then ordered blood tests to see if there was a biological issue, offered a dietitian recommendation, and asked we follow up in three months. No judgement. No shaming or being condescending.  She said per BMI I was overweight but then followed it up with "BMI isn't everything!" Like genuinely not too concerned. I felt perfectly comfortable. THAT"S HOW IT SHOULD BE.

[pandora]

Feb 24, 2016 18:52:09 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

Feb 24, 2016 17:37:31 GMT -5 pandora said:

You know, I just remembered her response to my commenting with how out of breath that I've been. She said, "yeah you're out of shape" - tf? No, I'm not! Yes, I have a serious back injury but I am overall in great shape, very healthy, and on target with weight if not a bit low before pregnancy. I wore a freaking size 2 jeans before and have been super active my entire life.

Did it occur to her to mention that pregnant women are TYPICALLY winded because the body rezones much of her oxygen to the baby so it's more work than normal to breathe while pregnant??? NOT exclusively because they are out of shape, geesus! You'd never know that I'm dealing with a top hospital and docs here. I swear I'm not making this shit up.

I'm getting more pissed now. I'm calling tomorrow to cancel the last appointment. I'm going to let her know when she calls over the phone on Friday and that's it - c'est fini. Unfortunately, she could deliver my baby since it's all the same hospital, gulp. Although I do trust her competency.

I am angry for you. I gained 25 pounds in a year. My doctor had a look on her face in shock at first but then ordered blood tests to see if there was a biological issue, offered a dietitian recommendation, and asked we follow up in three months. No judgement. No shaming or being condescending.  She said per BMI I was overweight but then followed it up with "BMI isn't everything!" Like genuinely not too concerned. I felt perfectly comfortable. THAT"S HOW IT SHOULD BE.

Exactly! So glad that your doc was kind and logical about it - as they should be as a health care PROVIDER.

And, she's correct. BMI is not a hard rule. Every physical body is different.

Yeah, I'm pretty pissed. I have been eating omega rich foods for baby but still I'm not overweight and have never been. And, even if it's a concern it should be communicated without condescension and judgement - with professionalism!

[jigsy]

I'm going to see Deadpool with a friend tonight for her birthday. I am super excited as I have been wanting to see this since it came out!

I also love Wednesday. The week is on the downward slope!

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pandora,
OMG, I can't even understand how they shamed you like that.  I've seen your pic and you are carrying just beautifully.  As you know I'm in healthcare (not ob/gyn), but I did rotate in that area in school.  Lots of women lose weight in the first tri due to "morning sickness".  I'm gonna shoot it straight-- although I don't know any of your numbers, visibly you are slim and obviously not overweight/obese.  If someone is obese/overweight, they generally recommend to gain a smaller amount of weight.  You are not in that category...ever.  

Let me tell you....just FYI--so many of my coworkers have been pregnant...Two of them are about the same size---about size 2 or 4---one of them gained 30 lbs and had a friggin 6 pack again a month later while the other gained 80 lbs (with all 3 of her healthy non gestational diabetes pregnancies) and lost all of it within a year.  Both of them had beautiful, healthy babies.  Yes, there are recommendations and it can vary from person to person---but you described absolutely nothing at all that should have warranted that.  
I'm sorry.  They are assholes.

[pandora]

Feb 24, 2016 21:30:02 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

pandora,
OMG, I can't even understand how they shamed you like that.  I've seen your pic and you are carrying just beautifully.  As you know I'm in healthcare (not ob/gyn), but I did rotate in that area in school.  Lots of women lose weight in the first tri due to "morning sickness".  I'm gonna shoot it straight-- although I don't know any of your numbers, visibly you are slim and obviously not overweight/obese.  If someone is obese/overweight, they generally recommend to gain a smaller amount of weight.  You are not in that category...ever.  

Let me tell you....just FYI--so many of my coworkers have been pregnant...Two of them are about the same size---about size 2 or 4---one of them gained 30 lbs and had a friggin 6 pack again a month later while the other gained 80 lbs (with all 3 of her healthy non gestational diabetes pregnancies) and lost all of it within a year.  Both of them had beautiful, healthy babies.  Yes, there are recommendations and it can vary from person to person---but you described absolutely nothing at all that should have warranted that.  
I'm sorry.  They are assholes.

Thank you for this. I agree that I don't believe it's warranted. Sure, I would welcome constructive medical advice as to risks of weight gain should it continue but it's not OK to shame any woman especially when it's possible many are self conscious already about weight gain. Imagine hearing this if you already struggle.

Do you think I should speak with the doc about all of this before telling her that I'm switching? I am totally not OK with her nurses and I am going to make that very clear to her, with examples, but also the weight part. It should be addressed much more professionally with patients. She had always been great so I don't know where all of this is coming from. But, I'm not comfortable with continuing with this group anymore.

Having a baby is emotional enough. Then, throwing in all of this, including mentioning birth defects - stress overload for a high risk first time Mom!

Or, should I just switch and not say anything? It's all in the same group but different locations - i followed her out of the city. Same L&D so they all work together and she could be delivering my baby if she's working then.

Thanks, again.

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pandora, honestly i would let the doctor know exactly why you are planning to follow up at another office. She may not be aware how her staff's behavior is effecting her patients. If you don't say anything, she won't know why you left and may not think that anything in particular caused the change.


ETA- being pregnant and dealing with all of the physical and emotional stressors (fear, excitement, worries) and knowing you'll shortly be welcoming a tiny new person into the world is stressful enough!!!! You don't need assholes on top of all of this new stuff.

[pandora]

Feb 25, 2016 12:35:26 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

pandora , honestly i would let the doctor know exactly why you are planning to follow up at another office. She may not be aware how her staff's behavior is effecting her patients. If you don't say anything, she won't know why you left and may not think that anything in particular caused the change.


ETA- being pregnant and dealing with all of the physical and emotional stressors (fear, excitement, worries) and knowing you'll shortly be welcoming a tiny new person into the world is stressful enough!!!! You don't need assholes on top of all of this new stuff.

Would you believe that she never even called me today?!?! I am beyond baffled by all of them, including her. Shocked, actually.

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Feb 26, 2016 21:23:12 GMT -5 pandora said:

Feb 25, 2016 12:35:26 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

pandora , honestly i would let the doctor know exactly why you are planning to follow up at another office. She may not be aware how her staff's behavior is effecting her patients. If you don't say anything, she won't know why you left and may not think that anything in particular caused the change.


ETA- being pregnant and dealing with all of the physical and emotional stressors (fear, excitement, worries) and knowing you'll shortly be welcoming a tiny new person into the world is stressful enough!!!! You don't need assholes on top of all of this new stuff.

Would you believe that she never even called me today?!?! I am beyond baffled by all of them, including her. Shocked, actually.

Ugh.  That's really shitty.