So my mom had surgery on her foot last week. The doctor came out to meet me and he was SO CUTE! I was working on my laptop and had a notebook with a big to do list and he said "I hope those aren't all questions for me!"
Okay so that was pretty much it, and I was totally smitten! I went to see my mom out of recovery and I was like "How are you? Good? Okay WHY DIDN"T you tell me about hot doc???" She had a follow up appointment a week later I was going to so it was a big inside joke that I was going to look cute and hope he remembers me. My mom was like "oh I thought he would be so cute for you, but I didn't want to say anything! I've noticed he doesn't wear a ring!"
So fast forward to the appointment. I'm in the room working on my laptop and the first thing he says is "You might be more of a workaholic than me! No list this time?" We laugh. My mom is like "What list?" And he says "oh nothing." OMG GUYZ! We have an inside joke!!!!
Okay so he talks to my mom, wishes us all well, sanitizes his hand and opens the door to leave, he literally has said good bye and is mid walk out. WHEN... dun, dun, dun
He full on turns AROUND and says to me "So...what is it that you do?" And closes the door and then walks back in, leans against the sink and proceeds to have a full on conversation with me for like 5 minutes.
Okay so like he's got to have a little intersest right? When he left, my mom was like "OMG! He was so flirting with you!" (and she is not one to overreact to these, if anything she's an undereactor).
If you've made is this far my questions is. There is a follow-up appointment I'm going to in two weeks. Should I try to get his number? How do I manage this? Am I making something out of nothing (be real with me!).
Yes I agree with the card slip. He was also awkwardly name dropping people he knew. He was like oh the head of XYZ is a client (I'm pretty sure this violates HIPPA, but whatever I'm giving him a pass as I'm ASSuming he was so overtaken with my charms). ETA: In my industry, which is really dorky and not like cool to name drop about.
I sort of want to be like oh there was one last thing on my list. Coffee sometime? Okay I won't say that because this isn't a rom com. But in the rom com of my life this is what I would say.
Also I'm never insta attracted to people IRL. There was just soemthing about him. Also he came to find me in the cafeteria which had like 50 people in it. He had no descriptors of me. He walked in we locked eyes and he was like "PDX 18?" I feel the need to clarify there were other 30 year olds there who could have easily been considered my mom's daughter.
I'm pretty convinced this is fate! (Okay not really...except kind of yea..)
If he came and found you in the cafeteria, he's interested.
Oh that was the first time and because my phone cut out. He had no idea who I was then. Sorry for the confusion! But he had sanitized his hands and CAME BACK IN! Ha.
Woohoo! Giving him your card with a clever remark about lists or something would be totally cool. As for the lack ring---he may be single, but most surgeons I work with never wear a wedding ring at work even when they are married. (Not trying to burst your bubble, just a random thought) Go for it!!!
Woohoo! Giving him your card with a clever remark about lists or something would be totally cool. As for the lack ring---he may be single, but most surgeons I work with never wear a wedding ring at work even when they are married. (Not trying to burst your bubble, just a random thought) Go for it!!!
Oh yes. I know that. But I've also stalked his bio online. His partners mention like Dr. XYZ lives in X with his wife and two kids. His bio doesn't mention anything. So I think we're in the clear!
ETA: In my industry, which is really dorky and not like cool to name drop about.
Name dropping is never cool. NEVER. He was trying to impress you though.
Oh I didn't think it was cool. I mean I work with very connected people. He was like so dorky about it though. He's not slick at all and sort of awkward. I think it was just word vomit honestly. My point is not like we don't work with celebs. It's like a leader of a an industry association.
Post by jojoandleo on Feb 25, 2016 17:29:55 GMT -5
I am the worst at this shit. I always do something super awkward like, "Oh, I just wanted to give you my card for...um... well...it has my phone number? and...stuff? So, I mean, You can call me, or use it as scrap paper. Ya know, so, I have to pee now..."
I would probably probe a bit more with questions, like ask him if he's from the area, etc. That pretty naturally leads into "Oh, my wife and I live in X neighborhood" or "I have a condo now in Y area." It could be super awkward to hit on your mom's doc to find out he's married or gay or something. He could be flirting or he could just be a friendly doctor (in my experience, a lot of chatter with docs is pretty common when joining for a relative's appointment).
This is not my experience. Nurses chatter, docs get the fuck in and out. Or maybe it's my RBF. Even my own doctor, I can tell her attempts to schedule in "talking time" and only lasts about a minute and is gone. "How have you been? Still a lawyer? (which I bet he reads off my chart) alright, see you next year!"
I would probably probe a bit more with questions, like ask him if he's from the area, etc. That pretty naturally leads into "Oh, my wife and I live in X neighborhood" or "I have a condo now in Y area." It could be super awkward to hit on your mom's doc to find out he's married or gay or something. He could be flirting or he could just be a friendly doctor (in my experience, a lot of chatter with docs is pretty common when joining for a relative's appointment).
Yea I'd agree with you but this wasn't like normal chit chat. He was literally walking out the door. We had scheduled the next appointment. My mom was done. And he walked back in. It really all comes down to the walking back in. If it had been over the course of her appointment I'd be like whatever. But my mom was even like "That was really awkward!"
And I've probed. A LOT. No mention of a wife or girlfriend or kids. I know it's unbelievable this exists.
I would probably probe a bit more with questions, like ask him if he's from the area, etc. That pretty naturally leads into "Oh, my wife and I live in X neighborhood" or "I have a condo now in Y area." It could be super awkward to hit on your mom's doc to find out he's married or gay or something. He could be flirting or he could just be a friendly doctor (in my experience, a lot of chatter with docs is pretty common when joining for a relative's appointment).
This is not my experience. Nurses chatter, docs get the fuck in and out. Or maybe it's my RBF. Even my own doctor, I can tell her attempts to schedule in "talking time" and only lasts about a minute and is gone. "How have you been? Still a lawyer? (which I bet he reads off my chart) alright, see you next year!"
Yes I've been in SEVERAL appointments with my mom. I know what normal get to know you chit chat is. This...wasn't that.
At this point, what do you have to lose. Maybe he is interested, maybe he isn't...but if you do nothing, you will always wonder. It sounds like you have a good shot.
And that instant chemistry is hard to find! Don't pass it up when you find it.
You shouldn't listen to advice from me because I've been single forever but any way you could probe on the wife thing first, because Drs don't wear wedding rings generally do they? On the other hand what do you have to lose by suggesting coffee?
Post by glitzyglow on Feb 25, 2016 20:37:33 GMT -5
Go for it! My roommate recently approached a guy to ask him out, started to ask him out, and then saw his wedding ring. He was so nice about it and told her she was awesome for having the guts to come up to him and that he was flattered. She's my new inspiration...follow her lead!
Definitely get him your card with a cute reference to lists. If on the off chance he's married he won't follow up or will tell you but it might end up so much better. You really have nothing to lose. Can't wait for the update!
I think you should ask him out. After the next follow-up, thank him for taking such good care of your mom, hand him your card, and tell him you'd love to meet up for coffee. You have nothing to lose. Keep us updated!
Slip that card on the last visit, at the end, and a funny comment about lists and a big smile before you walk out. And, then I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that this is something awesome!
Thanks all! Appointment is next Thursday so I'll be sure to post an update! I think I'm just going to be a slightly forward and say "Hey so if you ever want to chat more and get away for lunch or drinks, I live and work in the area, here's my card with my contact information if you'd like to get together."
Yeah, I don't say it lightly but he does sound flirty and like the iron is warm for you to strike. It sounds like your plan is good. It sounds friendlier/flirtier than normal. I think it is worth reaching out. If I were in your shoes, I'd go for it to see what happens.