Please start protecting yourself. I know the feelings are raw right now, but I would start gathering is important papers, meet with an attorney,etc. Things can turn quickly from thinking someone will be amicable to nasty.
((hugs))
Yes. Please. Because he's probably already ahead of you. He didn't decide this yesterday.
And I wouldn't be surprised to learn this second EA has been going on for awhile. He's unfortunately showing you his true colours. I'm very sorry he wasn't the man you thought you had married
I am so sorry!! (((hugs))) My divorce was one of the hardest things and it all started with him having an emotional affair. My best advice is to breathe, find some to talk to (a counselor is a great option), and be kind to yourself. If you ever want or need to talk, feel free to PM me.
Post by explorer2001 on Mar 1, 2016 22:38:49 GMT -5
Based on your update, start getting copies of ALL financial documents. Document everything, joint accounts, separate accounts, physical possessions. Make sure you keep your copies some plave safe away from the house you share.
See a counselor for you. Get tested for STIs. See a lawyer or at least learn the divorce laws in your state.
2 quick personal stories. Community property states are also community liability, which meant I ended up 100% liable for my ex's community debts and had to pay them to keep creditors from trashing my good credit.
Boyfriend spent a bunch of time getting all the financial documents in order to have his ex take the whole neatly organized filing cabinet one day and he's still trying to get documents again over a year later.
Remember you didn't cause his choices, this isn't your fault, you haven't failed, you are strong and will get through this.
Post by daisypaloma on Mar 1, 2016 22:46:29 GMT -5
I read this post earlier and sorry to read the update.
I agree that talking to a professional may likely help you coast through the next rough few months. And it will be rough, but you'll get through it, and become much happier in a healthier, mutual relationship.
I wish you all the best, and be easy on yourself. We are here for you.