Middle names?

[pandora]

What do you all think of two middle names?


I am definite on one name for middle which is my deceased Uncle's name. I'm starting to lean toward one of the handful of names that I haven't been able to decide upon for 1st name but then I'm thinking that the another front runner could be used along with my Uncle's for a second middle name.
I googled this and people do it but it can be difficult since our Social Security card and others only give one space/area for a mn but maybe I can hyphenate them? Is he going to hate me for doing this? LOL, poor kid. They each have meaning for which I hope he values later but my Uncle's name will be the most meaningful.
I only thought of this tonight so I'm pondering it...could change tomorrow!


This poor kid is going to be nameless! ;P

[Deleted]

One of my dogs was nameless for two weeks. He was "male dog" at the vet. No joke. I fear the day when I have to name a human. I also would feel sorry for kids that had super ass long names on standardized tests as we had to block letter or bubble it in.

[pandora]

Mar 1, 2016 23:10:34 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

One of my dogs was nameless for two weeks. He was "male dog" at the vet. No joke. I fear the day when I have to name a human. I also would feel sorry for kids that had super ass long names on standardized tests as we had to block letter or bubble it in.

Lol!

If I go with the 1st name I'm thinking as of today, he'll have a fairly short name. Last name is short too so kind of would make up for two mn's - I hope.

[Deleted]

Can the two middles names be hyphenated? Does it all sound good together? If so, go for it.

[bg]

My full married name was "First Name Middle Name Maiden Name as Second Middle Name Married Name". It was really important to me that I still had my maiden name so that trumped all of the annoyances that might come along with it. I think if it's important to you, you should do it! I didn't have to hyphenate at all.

[sweetchix]

Do you have a first name picked out? I would worry about it becoming too long but if that's not the case, then I say do what you want.

Semi related story- my married name, and DDs' last name, is a long Polish name with a silent consonant. I specifically wanted to give them easy/short first & middle names to make it easy on them.

[pandora]

I am leaning toward one first name and if so, then that's when I was thinking to do the 2 middle names. This 1st name is short, just a few letters and Last name is short too so it would work with the 2 middle names. It sounds nice to me all together, flows well.

[doriswe]

TBH, people rarely use their middle names...I say do what makes you happy! Although, my one piece of advice is try yelling the first middle-middle name to see how it flows...cuz lord knows when you're pissed at kiddo, you'll need to yell his full name!!

[pandora]

Mar 2, 2016 9:13:48 GMT -5 doriswe said:

TBH, people rarely use their middle names...I say do what makes you happy! Although, my one piece of advice is try yelling the first middle-middle name to see how it flows...cuz lord knows when you're pissed at kiddo, you'll need to yell his full name!!

Haha, love it!

[glitzyglow]

I think two middle names is fine. I've known a few guys in high school who had two middle names, although initially they all said their names were First Name First Middle Name Last Name. It was only after I got to know them better that they said they had a 2nd middle name. On our high school graduation lists, all of them just abbreviated their first middle name (like John F. Smith instead of John F. K. Smith).

[glynn]

Do whatever you want. My DD2 has two normal first names together G...lynn. People break it apart all the time which drives me nuts. She also has a last name as a middle name and a very different last name. We had very good reason for all of this so it is what it is. DD1 goes by her middle name which messes people up also.

[pinkdutchtulips]

I'm biased ... DD has 2 middle names - my mom's name/my middle name and my paternal gma's name.

[pandora]

Thank you - think I have his name now!! To be confirmed when I meet him, lol. Yay!

[sadlebred]

You could easily do something like James Jean-Luc Kirk. I think that is easier than James Jean Luc Kirk. He can abbreviate it James J. Kirk.

(I love Star Trek if ya'll didn't catch the references.... )

[Wanderista]

I think your name plan sounds good and if you really love it and it is meaningful to you then that's what matters. Keep in mind that he'll be able to do what he wants as he grows older and into his identity but that sounds great to me.

[pandora]

Mar 3, 2016 11:08:50 GMT -5 Wanderista said:

I think your name plan sounds good and if you really love it and it is meaningful to you then that's what matters. Keep in mind that he'll be able to do what he wants as he grows older and into his identity but that sounds great to me.

I figure and welcome that he'll run with how he wants it but at least I've given him some meaning and ties to deceased family members that I can share with him and hopefully he'll feel some belonging or specialness in that. If not, I tried, lol.

I changed the spelling of my nickname by dropping the last letter since I liked it better and it made no sense to me. He'll do what is right for him, but I like the story behind why I have my full name and hope he does too!

[read247]

Technically, I have two middle names since I didn't drop my maiden name when I added DHs name. Only my social security card and DL both have all four names on them. And absolutely no hyphen; in my case that would have given me two last names, one a 9 letter Russian name and the other an 8 letter Greek one, both starting with the same letter.

There's only been one time in 15 years that's caused a problem. I married in a state that *couldn't* fit all four names on a DL, so only first middle married appeared. When I moved to where I live now, the fact that my DL didn't exactly match my legal (as it appeared on my SS card) name had the guy at the DMV trying to deny me a license under the new post-9/11 rules. He told me I basically had to go through the process as if I were applying for the first time (meaning written and road tests). Fortunately after an hour plus of arguing a supervisor got involved who overrode him and took care of things.

It's unwieldy, yeah, but I had my reasons for doing it and would do it again. If both middle names have meaning for you, I say go for it.

[CrazyLucky]

My good friend married a great guy from France. They wanted to honor both their backgrounds (she is Italian) and so each child has two middle names - one Italian and one French. I think it's cute.

[abcdefu]

pandora , I like two middle names especially when the names are family names. However, I think you need to tell us the first name before I can say for sure...

[pandora]

Mar 4, 2016 19:47:31 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

pandora , I like two middle names especially when the names are family names. However, I think you need to tell us the first name before I can say for sure...

I learned the hard way not to share before baby is born, LOL. My sister unintentionally ruined one name for me. Everyone has an opinion or knows someone they don't like with names so I don't want to ruin another name and have to start over - gaaaaah! LOL.  It's so hard to get to a decision and be OK with it as it is!  So, to be determined when he makes his debut!! 

[abcdefu]

Mar 4, 2016 21:51:03 GMT -5 pandora said:

Mar 4, 2016 19:47:31 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

pandora , I like two middle names especially when the names are family names. However, I think you need to tell us the first name before I can say for sure...

I learned the hard way not to share before baby is born, LOL. My sister unintentionally ruined one name for me. Everyone has an opinion or knows someone they don't like with names so I don't want to ruin another name and have to start over - gaaaaah! LOL.  It's so hard to get to a decision and be OK with it as it is!  So, to be determined when he makes his debut!! 

I was just kidding! I don't blame you for wanting to keep it quiet!! I can't wait to see him! You're soooo close now!

Also, for what it's worth, my niece has two middle names. One mn is after SIL late grandmother. Well now my niece has 3 middle names because I call her:
First name - first middle name - second middle name - Abcdefu's first name Last name.

Now SIL does it too! it's so funny! Poor kid! LOL

[daisyn]

Personally I would not want 2 middle names but I hate my first name and middle name so I guess I can't imagine having 3 names and hating them all

[pandora]

Mar 4, 2016 23:11:23 GMT -5 daisyn said:

Personally I would not want 2 middle names but I hate my first name and middle name so I guess I can't imagine having 3 names and hating them all

Let's hope he doesn't hate any of them! I doubt it but he can always drop any of them, if so. I would support that if he chose to later.

[abcdefu]

Whenever I see a name post, I always think of this episode of Friends, especially since I hate my first name and thought about changing it many times.

[starburst604]

I say go for it! I think it's kind of distinguished sounding But yes, practice yelling it. I use it more affectionately right now, but I say a lot of "LUCY MARIEEEE!!!"

[itsmyparty]

Mar 2, 2016 0:20:04 GMT -5 bg said:

My full married name was "First Name Middle Name Maiden Name as Second Middle Name Married Name". It was really important to me that I still had my maiden name so that trumped all of the annoyances that might come along with it. I think if it's important to you, you should do it! I didn't have to hyphenate at all.

I did this, too. I didn't want to give up my maiden name entirely. My SS card has the full name, but most of the time I just use my original middle name. Occasionally I'll use the two middle name initials, so FirstName Initial.Initial. LastName

[cabbagecabbage]

Lurker here but I changed my legal middle to my very long hyphenated maiden name and it was easy. I just got 2 lines of name on my SS card. Now, the woman at the counter asked me if I was sure a few times and obviously hated it but I don't care about her opinion.

[jojoandleo]

Mar 5, 2016 12:47:41 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Whenever I see a name post, I always think of this episode of Friends, especially since I hate my first name and thought about changing it many times.



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I was called by my middle name my whole life and legally dropped my first name at 18. I now only have two names total. I thought I would make my middle name my maiden name when I got married, but I became even more crazy feminist and just never took my H's last name (legally, socially people call me by his last name and I just don't give a fuck to correct them). So, I'm all about changing your name if you want. It was super easy.

[abcdefu]

Mar 9, 2016 9:42:18 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Mar 5, 2016 12:47:41 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Whenever I see a name post, I always think of this episode of Friends, especially since I hate my first name and thought about changing it many times.

I was called by my middle name my whole life and legally dropped my first name at 18. I now only have two names total. I thought I would make my middle name my maiden name when I got married, but I became even more crazy feminist and just never took my H's last name (legally, socially people call me by his last name and I just don't give a fuck to correct them). So, I'm all about changing your name if you want. It was super easy.

I have been going back and forth on this. Unlike your circumstance, I was always called my first name or nickname from my first name. I have never been called my middle name. If I ever decide to drop my first name, it will be after I relocate. I'm just worried that getting called by my middle name would take some getting used to. I fear people will be talking to me, but I won't respond. LOL

Also, I am named after my grandmother and mother. I hope that if I decide to do this, I won't offend my 93 yo grandmother.