I need a kick in the ass.

[fiestygirl99]

I'm about to do something I've wanted to do for years. I'm about to tell my H of 8 years I'm taking the kids and leaving. Even though he's a lazy, addicted gamer, and I've been taking care of our 3 small children alone for our entire marriage I'm really fucking scared of what life holds for me outside my front door. He's made life that way for me, and made me dependant on him but even though I haven't worked in 6 years at this point I'm ready to do it. I have a place to go, and some support, but I need a kick in the ass. I guess I'm a good example of why 20 year olds should not get married. I never thought I'd be doing this at age 28. I wanted to start this post so I'd have something to go back to later when I start doubting myself because I've tried leaving so many times before but this time I really want to do it. I just keep getting trapped back but I want to be out. Ladies, help me leave!

[Deleted]

May 17, 2012 10:28:47 GMT -5 fiestygirl99 said:

Even though he's a lazy, addicted gamer, and I've been taking care of our 3 small children alone for our entire marriage I'm really fucking scared of what life holds for me outside my front door. !

Well it's got to be better than what you have right now? Right?

[imoan]

You're already a single parent. Why not be allowed the actual sympathies that come with it?

[psyck]

Do it! You can do it, not only for you, but for your kids.

[interro]

If you leave this man-child, you will only be parenting 3 children, not 4! You are already pretty much a single parent.

[Dramasailor]

/kicks the ass

Go. As PPs have said, make the reality formal and GTFO of dodge. You'll be better for it in the end.

[beebeeeater]

Your kids deserve a mom who is independent, fulfilled, and happy. Growing up with your marriage as an example is setting them up for disastrous future relationships.

YOU deserve to be in a relationship that meets your needs. This one is not cutting it and you know that. It's why you've tried to leave before. You can make this happen. You can leave and you can stay gone. Just keep reminding yourself that you deserve better, and so do your children.

[Deleted]

You're already not getting any support in your marriage. You and your children will be better off and happier in a place where you can be involved in healthy relationships.

[datsyuksmommy]

Given what you are dealing with now, whatever is on the other side of the door pretty much has to be better. At least the relief you will feel when you longer deal with him on a daily basis.

[esdreturns]

You can do this! Your life will probably be easier too.

[Chirp]

**kicks fiestygirl in the pants**

There you go. Now you know what you need to do.

Whatever awaits you will be much easier without the dead weight hanging around your neck.

[maucat]

::kicks butt::

Now go! You can do this. Things won't be easy at first, but I'll bet they feel a little easier without his dead weight around. Remember there are so many more opportunities out there for you that you won't be able to explore if you don't leave him behind.

[Muddled]

Get out, get your child support, and move on with your life.

[Deleted]

I was 23 with two small kids when I was looking at the same kind of life. I bounced his ass, waited tables, and damn, life was sooooo much better.

If you're gonna do it all on your own, why not yanno, do it all on your own?

[mookie]

Of course the decision to leave isn't easy. It shouldn't be. But that doesn't mean it's a bad choice.when you look back on your life you will find it was the best decision you ever made. Both for yourself and your kids. They deserve to see their mother happy. It's the greatest gift a parent can give their kids.

[BettyBookWorm]

:Y: :beer:

/kicks butt

You can do it feisty!

[picklepickle]

I'm just echoing what the others have already said. Good luck to you! You and your kids will be thankful you took this step!

[LLYS]

By all means set a date and go! HOWEVER, FIRST - see a lawyer for advice on how to proceed so that you in compliance with the law and are protected financially.
If you are not already seeing a counselor, I recommend you do so. It will be valuable in many ways as you start your new journey.
Good luck!

[fiestygirl99]

UPDATE- I did it. Thank you for all your support, it means the world to me to have it to be able to go back and read it when I need another kick in the ass! Strangely, I was not upset at all when I told him, I think I cried all my tears before. All I felt was relief, and as he ended up being the one to leave, I ended up with the house.

[birkbop]

May 18, 2012 16:29:32 GMT -5 fiestygirl99 said:

UPDATE- I did it. Thank you for all your support, it means the world to me to have it to be able to go back and read it when I need another kick in the ass! Strangely, I was not upset at all when I told him, I think I cried all my tears before. All I felt was relief, and as he ended up being the one to leave, I ended up with the house.

Fuck ya! Get it girl! You will get through this. You got us bitches.