Feeling sad

[closertofine]

My dog woke me up at 5, and I've been having a pity party since. I am not doubting my decision to end my marriage. If anything, he has more than proven to me this was the best choice in the five months since we've separated. I'm feeling very alone. When I die someday, I'm going to be all alone. I'm the youngest in my family (my only sister is ten years older than me), and I wouldn't want the burden of caring for me to fall on my kids. Despite his many, many, many faults, stbx would have been there for me. He wouldn't have talked to me or held my hand, but he would have been there.

What do you do if/when you have/had moments of sadness? Not doubt necessarily, but sadness. I have too much to do today to wallow, but I can't even get out of bed.

In case it is asked, I'm already in therapy, and today is an anomaly. I don't normally feel this way.

[bg]

I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Take the time to feel the sadness. And know that it's temporary. Also, one saying I've appreciated during this time when I'm feeling sad/overwhelmed by something far in the future or something that may or not happen is: 'fear is a liar.' Also, like 32flavors pointed out, plan for what you can and what makes you feel more secure.

[pinkdutchtulips]

agreed w/ pp that being a warm body is no substitute for him 'being there/present' he was just a warm body taking up space not doing much. at the end, even xh being a warm body wasn't enough.

what you're experiencing will come and go in waves - the whole divorce process is full of good, bad and ugly days. i was so happy to be gone that i never missed him at all. i did though feel sad some days and i have more than my fair share of days where i feel overhwhelmed.

[glitzyglow]

When I have those feelings, I've found that writing them out in my journal seems to help somewhat. It's a place for me to vent and hash out my fears without worry. And I let myself have a good cry.