Sunday thoughts and plans

[glitzyglow]

Good morning! I've started laundry and getting ready to go for a run. It's supposed to be beautiful here today, but tomorrow is supposed to be better so I'm going to attempt to get my errands done today.

The last Downton Abbey airs tonight.

I bought new products to fill and set my brows with. I can't wait to try them after my run/shower. I'm also lusting hard for the Too Faced PB&J palette. I need to see it in person.

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I need to do some grocery shopping and I'll probably pack a little too.  

Since I announced my move, some old friends that I haven't seen in a while have reached out.  I know life is busy and people lose contact for stents of time, but I feel like it's a little odd somehow.
PDQ 
There's one friend that I was very close with, but xh made me cut contact with.  It was wrong and shitty, but xh was very controlling and he was mean and hateful toward others (especially if they were different).  This friend is a gay guy and xh was so awful about it, not only would he not allow me to hang out with my friend, but he ridiculed him and I could not let xh do that to my friend, so it was better to cut contact.  After I divorced I reached out to this friend and apologized, explained (he knew though) that xh was abusive and told him I wanted to have another chance at our friendship.  We had emailed/texted/became fb friends, but that was it.  He was still hurt and I understood.  I emailed him when my stepdad died because he knew my family..He never responded and I was hurt.  Today he messaged me on fb asking when i was moving and maybe we could get together.  I have mixed feelings. I want to catch up on everything with him about everything that we've done over the past years, but so much has changed.  This is what it took ( me leaving) to make him reach out?  
What would you do?

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@blueyes623 I think if I had time I would get together with him. But if you don't have time to get together I wouldn't force it. You could always Facebook/text a bit and catch up that way.

I watched Spotlight last night -- so good! Now I'm working on my dissertation and later I'm going to go for a run.

[glitzyglow]

@blueyes623 , I'd probably go. Whether you decided to maintain a relationship or end it afterward, a meeting might give you better information to make that decision.

My washer just ripped a hole in my comforter.

[FormerlyRR]

Mar 6, 2016 14:44:41 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

@blueyes623 , I'd probably go. Whether you decided to maintain a relationship or end it afterward, a meeting might give you better information to make that decision.

My washer just ripped a hole in my comforter.

Well shit. That sucks. While I'm not always in love with my fancy washer with no agitator, at least it won't do that.

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glitzyglow I am holding out for the peach palette from TF.

@blueyes623 I would also probably go (at a time that was convenient for me with all the move stuff) and just see what he has to say.

Today is absolutely gorgeous outside!

[pandora]

Mar 6, 2016 12:39:07 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I need to do some grocery shopping and I'll probably pack a little too.  

Since I announced my move, some old friends that I haven't seen in a while have reached out.  I know life is busy and people lose contact for stents of time, but I feel like it's a little odd somehow.
PDQ 
There's one friend that I was very close with, but xh made me cut contact with.  It was wrong and shitty, but xh was very controlling and he was mean and hateful toward others (especially if they were different).  This friend is a gay guy and xh was so awful about it, not only would he not allow me to hang out with my friend, but he ridiculed him and I could not let xh do that to my friend, so it was better to cut contact.  After I divorced I reached out to this friend and apologized, explained (he knew though) that xh was abusive and told him I wanted to have another chance at our friendship.  We had emailed/texted/became fb friends, but that was it.  He was still hurt and I understood.  I emailed him when my stepdad died because he knew my family..He never responded and I was hurt.  Today he messaged me on fb asking when i was moving and maybe we could get together.  I have mixed feelings. I want to catch up on everything with him about everything that we've done over the past years, but so much has changed.  This is what it took ( me leaving) to make him reach out?  
What would you do?

If you have time, meet him to see what he has to say. Maybe he'll apologize. It's worth the time now since you won't want to squeeze him over closer friends when back visiting. I'm guessing that his ego had been butt hurt and he was being stubborn. Probably realizes that it's now or never.

Hugs. That whole situation with your x - I'm so glad that it's behind you and you have a much better partner now who respects you!

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Mar 7, 2016 19:59:59 GMT -5 pandora said:

Mar 6, 2016 12:39:07 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

I need to do some grocery shopping and I'll probably pack a little too.  

Since I announced my move, some old friends that I haven't seen in a while have reached out.  I know life is busy and people lose contact for stents of time, but I feel like it's a little odd somehow.
PDQ 
There's one friend that I was very close with, but xh made me cut contact with.  It was wrong and shitty, but xh was very controlling and he was mean and hateful toward others (especially if they were different).  This friend is a gay guy and xh was so awful about it, not only would he not allow me to hang out with my friend, but he ridiculed him and I could not let xh do that to my friend, so it was better to cut contact.  After I divorced I reached out to this friend and apologized, explained (he knew though) that xh was abusive and told him I wanted to have another chance at our friendship.  We had emailed/texted/became fb friends, but that was it.  He was still hurt and I understood.  I emailed him when my stepdad died because he knew my family..He never responded and I was hurt.  Today he messaged me on fb asking when i was moving and maybe we could get together.  I have mixed feelings. I want to catch up on everything with him about everything that we've done over the past years, but so much has changed.  This is what it took ( me leaving) to make him reach out?  
What would you do?

If you have time, meet him to see what he has to say. Maybe he'll apologize. It's worth the time now since you won't want to squeeze him over closer friends when back visiting. I'm guessing that his ego had been butt hurt and he was being stubborn. Probably realizes that it's now or never.

Hugs. That whole situation with your x - I'm so glad that it's behind you and you have a much better partner now who respects you!

Thanks, I will see if it works out to meet up or not.  I understand that he was hurt, but I was hurt too.  

 It's strange, even though I feel like the situation with xh was in a different lifetime, it is still effecting my life.  I don't think about it all the time, but when I do reflect on that time I realize how very bad it was.  I don't think there was a day that went by when i didn't cry.  I am so thankful that I was able to find a way out.  He would have continued to ruin my life or worse.  

[pandora]

Mar 7, 2016 21:49:10 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Mar 7, 2016 19:59:59 GMT -5 pandora said:

If you have time, meet him to see what he has to say. Maybe he'll apologize. It's worth the time now since you won't want to squeeze him over closer friends when back visiting. I'm guessing that his ego had been butt hurt and he was being stubborn. Probably realizes that it's now or never.

Hugs. That whole situation with your x - I'm so glad that it's behind you and you have a much better partner now who respects you!

Thanks, I will see if it works out to meet up or not.  I understand that he was hurt, but I was hurt too.  

 It's strange, even though I feel like the situation with xh was in a different lifetime, it is still effecting my life.  I don't think about it all the time, but when I do reflect on that time I realize how very bad it was.  I don't think there was a day that went by when i didn't cry.  I am so thankful that I was able to find a way out.  He would have continued to ruin my life or worse.  

I'm so proud of you and how far you've come and healed!

I hope that you can see him in the very least for 1 last chance but I totally get it if your heart's not into it. Move time is getting closer, woot!!!

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Mar 7, 2016 21:56:32 GMT -5 pandora said:

Mar 7, 2016 21:49:10 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Thanks, I will see if it works out to meet up or not.  I understand that he was hurt, but I was hurt too.  

 It's strange, even though I feel like the situation with xh was in a different lifetime, it is still effecting my life.  I don't think about it all the time, but when I do reflect on that time I realize how very bad it was.  I don't think there was a day that went by when i didn't cry.  I am so thankful that I was able to find a way out.  He would have continued to ruin my life or worse.  

I'm so proud of you and how far you've come and healed!

I hope that you can see him in the very least for 1 last chance but I totally get it if your heart's not into it. Move time is getting closer, woot!!!

Eeeeeek! LOL I think I'm just in planning/preparing and packing mode.  I thought I'd be falling apart right now and I'm sure I will have some moments, but so far so good.  I feel like I have shit under control...i think! 

[pandora]

Mar 7, 2016 22:02:46 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

Mar 7, 2016 21:56:32 GMT -5 pandora said:

I'm so proud of you and how far you've come and healed!

I hope that you can see him in the very least for 1 last chance but I totally get it if your heart's not into it. Move time is getting closer, woot!!!

Eeeeeek! LOL I think I'm just in planning/preparing and packing mode.  I thought I'd be falling apart right now and I'm sure I will have some moments, but so far so good.  I feel like I have shit under control...i think! 

That's awesome, you go girl!!  <)