1) What is the going rate for house cleaners in your area? How big is the house and how long would you need to clean it? $50 for a house would be a steal around here.
2) Do you know this person? Would there be any safety concerns?
3) Good for you for considering an honest hard working job that will help support your family. Pbbbt at your husband for naysaying you. I'm sure his pride is suffering now that he is out of work. That isn't any reason to discourage you.
I know he's probably depressed and bummed, but can't he muster a little pride and take a job (without you dragging him to it) to help keep you two afloat? A week, sure. Take that time to wallow. Maaaaaaybe two. Longer? Get your ass to work doing something.
I'm less concerned about your safety and more concerned about how your H doesn't realize that you're in dire financial straits. You're killing yourself to keep the household going, and not only is he refusing to support you, but he grumbles at the possibility of helping you. This seems less like pride and more like lazy.
Post by kellbell191 on Aug 30, 2012 19:58:16 GMT -5
I'm a lawyer with a part time job waitressing. It seriously confuses people but it works for us, the money is good and it's helping us get in a good place financially.
That said, I'm also concerned that your dh is doing something to bring in more money. There seems to be a real communication/expectations breakdown going on and I worry for you that it's going to be poisonous to your relationship in a way that could carry over once he's employed.
It is bootstrap time for your H. You are already contributing financially.
Now if your H was looking too and it was a joint thing, then go for it. Short of prostitution I'd say everything is on the table when you are trying to make an honest living.
Yes I would clean houses and the like but before me doing that my husband would be mowing some lawns on his free time. Fwiw my cleaning lady is retired and lives in a nicer house than me. She does it to get some fun money and doesn't tell her friends and family about for fear of being judged.
I cannot imagine the suckage of working a full time job and then being mocked for wanting to pick up a little extra money here and there when you clearly need it.
Your husband is on fucking crack. There is no reason he couldn't be doing odd jobs to bring in a bit more scratch while taking interviews. However, I'm going to go out on a limb and say he isn't actively job seeking, is he? Or even really passively.
H pulled this for a bit after his deployment. He's lucky he's alive. And now he works in a food processing plant despite the fact that his profession is electronics technician work. You gotta pay rent, yo.
As a former retail manager I'm glad you sucked it up working a job "beneath" you.
OP I would do any of those jobs, but 50 bucks for cleaning a house is not enough.
Your H may need a fact of life talk from you. Also, he will never know who he may meet or network with. It may open a door for him.
Hmmm, maybe my "" s didn't work. Theoretically, yes some thought it was "beneath" me. I obviously didn't and stated I enjoyed it.
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Sorry, I am probably being a touchy bitch. I've had employees who have had degrees I can only dream about. The attitude a few had kind of through me for a loop a few times. Again, I'm sorry.
Yes, I would do those jobs if I had to. And I am not certain my DH would, so I could see myself in the situation you are in. It's not like playing chicken with your DH is going to get the bills paid. IMO, you suck it up and do what you have to do. And you can resent the hell out of your DH while you do it, but the point is, someone has to and if he won't then it will have to be you.
Gotta do what you gotta do, but it is completely ludicrous for you to be working 2000 jobs while your H sits around feeling bad for himself.
FWIW, I used to work on-call bartending at a hotel and it's a pretty sweet PT gig. Evenings mostly and you really just stand around opening beers and pouring wine for a couple of hours and make tips. I didn't need any bartending experience.
How is this not a dealbreaker in your marriage? If someone is willing to sink the ship, I'm going to toss their ass overboard. And reel in the life-saving bootstrap.
Retail part-time is good for flexibility. I did that in college and beyond. Macy's, Penney's, that type of a thing. It's actually kind of fun, I think.
It would not be beneath me. That being said my DH has been unemployed for two years but he works all kinds off odd jobs mostly in the evenings so he can look for work during the day. If you are having to do this, it might be time for your DH to find some odd jobs too.
The only place I could see the argument about whether the job is fitting or "beneath" you (or your husband) is if you are weighing two job options for the same window of time. I would take less money for a job that kept up my professional skills over a higher paying job - especially if I was completely unemployed and had nothing professional to put on my resume. But if that isn't the issue, then take the work. I would also be careful about doing something menial in a place of business where I sought work. A firm is much less likely to hire me if they first met me emptying their trash cans at night. If your husband is afraid of how things will look, then he should take jobs in the next town over, not just sit on his ass whistling in denial.
Post by PinkSquirrel on Aug 31, 2012 0:04:10 GMT -5
I would definitely take the odd jobs. You need the money and you have to do what you have to do to get that money. Your H needs to suck up his pride and get some odd jobs of own and when you ask him to help his only questions should be what time and where.