My poor , sweet C.

[cleo29]

A kid threw up just as he got to school this morning and that triggered her anxiety. The teacher tried calling me, but I was out, so he had her write me a note and told her that he would try calling me again. So, I just spoke to him and I let him know that we are aware that she is having issues in this area and I told him people getting sick is one of her triggers.

He said that she just missed me and wanted to tell me she loves me. And then her note. It said that her feelings were interfering with her learning. (that is what she wrote) and that she just misses her mom.

He said she seemed to be perking up, but he wanted me to know. I told him to please tell her that I love her and will see her soon.

And, today there is an article on Slate that seems to be perfect timing.

www.slate.com/articles/life/the_kids/2016/03/how_to_help_a_child_who_worries_too_much.html

[mekia]

Aw, I'm sorry. She sounds a lot like me when I was younger. I would run away and scream/cry if I saw someone puke. I would get a stomach ache/diarrhea every Sunday night too. 

The note was sweet though <3

[elleblue]

Oh poor little darling. Hugs to both C and you.

[circa1978]

Poor pumpkin.

I was a very anxious child (and adult) and vomiting was a trigger for me. I thought I'd never, ever get over that but now calmly hold my kid's barf bowl with ease.

[panicked]

Mar 10, 2016 13:47:01 GMT -5 mekia said:

Aw, I'm sorry. She sounds a lot like me when I was younger. I would run away and scream/cry if I saw someone puke.

The note was sweet though <3

I still do. Okay, I don't run and scream but it absolutely triggers my anxiety. It always has. The good news is that LOTS of things used to trigger my anxiety and they don't anymore. OP, i promise, you both are going to get through this. I'll tell you, having understanding parents who were there for me went miles in my recovery. Hugs!

[mekia]

Mar 10, 2016 13:48:40 GMT -5 circa1978 said:

Poor pumpkin.

I was a very anxious child (and adult) and vomiting was a trigger for me. I thought I'd never, ever get over that but now calmly hold my kid's barf bowl with ease.

Same here. When DD was hospitalized, she threw up so much all over me few times. I had to change my clothes 3 times, but I never flinched. I was actually so damn proud of myself. 

[BaliHai]

Huge hugs for her and you. (heart)

[cleo29]

We are looking up some doctors since it is starting to get in the way of her living her life. Not wanting to go places because she fears getting sick or simply not wanting to leave our home or me. I don't want that for her. She loves school, but now fears it a bit because she doesn't want to get sick.

I have had anxiety for years and puke is a trigger for me too, among other things. I think this is partly why she does not sleep well at night. She wants to be with me, in my bed. So, we are going to get her some tools to help.

I have to say, both her teacher and me got a kick out of her saying it was interfering with her learning. She is six! lol

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Oh charlotte. It'll be ok. She sounds just like me. I was so proud of myself Saturday night when lucythrew up- ididnt freak out. Thanks, Zoloft!

[gretchenindisguise]

Aw, poor poodle.

And oddly, I was just reading that article!

[Tacocat]

Aw poor thing I hope you can find the help she needs. She sounds like such a sweet girl.

[friendz4eva]

I'm sorry you and your baby are going through this. You are a wonderful mother for recognizing it and getting her the help she needs.

[olegregg]

I'm sorry you guys are having a rough go. I went through the same anxiety as a kid, I even refused to go to school for a few weeks after a kid threw up in class and I got sick from it. You're doing a great job of handling it!

[Bernadine]

Aw, sweet girl.

[DotAndBuzz]

Poor kiddo.

It's no wonder that triggers her, after the year/months you've had at home. I could make myself literally sick with anxiety (I'd actually make myself puke from worry) as a kid, so I feel for her. N is an anxious kid too, and in kindergarten it got really bad. A few months of therapy was great for her (and me too), and helped her learn to cope and talk things out. As she matured, she is able to use those coping methods more effectively too.

((((hugs)))) to you both.

[littlemermaid]

Mar 10, 2016 13:54:38 GMT -5 cleo29 said:

We are looking up some doctors since it is starting to get in the way of her living her life. Not wanting to go places because she fears getting sick or simply not wanting to leave our home or me. I don't want that for her. She loves school, but now fears it a bit because she doesn't want to get sick.

I have had anxiety for years and puke is a trigger for me too, among other things. I think this is partly why she does not sleep well at night. She wants to be with me, in my bed. So, we are going to get her some tools to help.

I have to say, both her teacher and me got a kick out of her saying it was interfering with her learning. She is six! lol

Have you looked into Cognitive therapy for her?  Cognitive therapists specialize in anxiety.

[textbookcase]

Aw, poor gal. K is a highly anxious child and so was I (...and still am). I can commiserate!

[Deleted]

Aww poor kid. I hope her day went better than it started. Thanks for the article. That was interesting. I've struggled with anxiety my whole life and have been reflecting on my childhood recently. Hugs to your LO.

[killercupcake]

www.amazon.com/What-When-You-Worry-Much/dp/1591473144

I swear by that book.

Poor C.

[eb777888]

Mar 10, 2016 18:58:59 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

www.amazon.com/What-When-You-Worry-Much/dp/1591473144

I swear by that book.

Poor C.

We're using this workbook right now and have had a lot of success. We actually opened this after David's second panic attack this year and the biggest thing that helped was chapter 3 (or 4?) about "the plan" and what to plan for IF the worse happens.

I forgot who suggested it on here after my thread, but whoever suggested the worry box also helped a lot. I suffer with anxiety a lot but it's interesting. My anxiety can't be talked through the same as his. These techniques for children that would never work for me seem to be helping him a lot. 

[killercupcake]

Mar 10, 2016 19:14:49 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Mar 10, 2016 18:58:59 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

www.amazon.com/What-When-You-Worry-Much/dp/1591473144

I swear by that book.

Poor C.

We're using this workbook right now and have had a lot of success. We actually opened this after David's second panic attack this year and the biggest thing that helped was chapter 3 (or 4?) about "the plan" and what to plan for IF the worse happens.

I forgot who suggested it on here after my thread, but whoever suggested the worry box also helped a lot. I suffer with anxiety a lot but it's interesting. My anxiety can't be talked through the same as his. These techniques for children that would never work for me seem to be helping him a lot. 

I suggested the worry box too. 

I'm glad it's working! 

I really liked the worry monster activity as well. The whole book is great, really.

[eb777888]

Mar 10, 2016 19:16:41 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Mar 10, 2016 19:14:49 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

We're using this workbook right now and have had a lot of success. We actually opened this after David's second panic attack this year and the biggest thing that helped was chapter 3 (or 4?) about "the plan" and what to plan for IF the worse happens.

I forgot who suggested it on here after my thread, but whoever suggested the worry box also helped a lot. I suffer with anxiety a lot but it's interesting. My anxiety can't be talked through the same as his. These techniques for children that would never work for me seem to be helping him a lot. 

I suggested the worry box too. 

I'm glad it's working! 

I really liked the worry monster activity as well. The whole book is great, really.

Thank you. You were very helpful in that thread! It's a process, that's for sure.

[killercupcake]

Mar 10, 2016 19:19:19 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Mar 10, 2016 19:16:41 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

I suggested the worry box too. 

I'm glad it's working! 

I really liked the worry monster activity as well. The whole book is great, really.

Thank you. You were very helpful in that thread! It's a process, that's for sure.

You're very welcome. If you haven't yet, get his school counselor in on it too. Same for you cleo29. (If your schools have one, which I hope they do!) If the counselor has a heads up, they can maybe work with both C & D on coping skills. If nothing else, they'll be able to give you resources and refer you to someone else. 

[eb777888]

Mar 10, 2016 19:22:26 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Mar 10, 2016 19:19:19 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Thank you. You were very helpful in that thread! It's a process, that's for sure.

You're very welcome. If you haven't yet, get his school counselor in on it too. Same for you cleo29 . (If your schools have one, which I hope they do!) If the counselor has a heads up, they can maybe work with both C & D on coping skills. If nothing else, they'll be able to give you resources and refer you to someone else. 

He's at a brand new charter school that doesn't have a school counselor yet but if his anxiety doesn't improve over the next couple months we're going to get him into therapy.

[dd1204]

Mar 10, 2016 19:16:41 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Mar 10, 2016 19:14:49 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

We're using this workbook right now and have had a lot of success. We actually opened this after David's second panic attack this year and the biggest thing that helped was chapter 3 (or 4?) about "the plan" and what to plan for IF the worse happens.

I forgot who suggested it on here after my thread, but whoever suggested the worry box also helped a lot. I suffer with anxiety a lot but it's interesting. My anxiety can't be talked through the same as his. These techniques for children that would never work for me seem to be helping him a lot. 

I suggested the worry box too. 

I'm glad it's working! 

I really liked the worry monster activity as well. The whole book is great, really.

Would this book be good for a teen?

[killercupcake]

Mar 10, 2016 20:24:33 GMT -5 dd1204 said:

Mar 10, 2016 19:16:41 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

I suggested the worry box too. 

I'm glad it's working! 

I really liked the worry monster activity as well. The whole book is great, really.

Would this book be good for a teen?

Not really. It's a little young. I'm not at my computer right now, but I can look around later and see what is available for a teen. How old?

[dd1204]

Mar 10, 2016 20:43:52 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Mar 10, 2016 20:24:33 GMT -5 dd1204 said:

Would this book be good for a teen?

Not really. It's a little young. I'm not at my computer right now, but I can look around later and see what is available for a teen. How old?

She's 14.

[killercupcake]

Mar 14, 2016 20:45:05 GMT -5 dd1204 said:

Mar 10, 2016 20:43:52 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

Not really. It's a little young. I'm not at my computer right now, but I can look around later and see what is available for a teen. How old?

She's 14.

Mindfulness for Teen Anxiety: A Workbook for Overcoming Anxiety at Home, at School, and Everywhere Else (Teen Instant Help)

My Anxious Mind: A Teen's Guide to Managing Anxiety and Panic

The Anxiety Workbook for Teens: Activities to Help You Deal with Anxiety and Worry

[auntie]

DS carries GAD among his alphabet soup of dxs.

That article is so true. I come from a long line of anxious people, but DH's family make us look positively breezy. DH didn't have a chance.

cleo29, DS did a lot of CBT over the years to help him learn how to reframe his fears and discomfort. It's life changing stuff. My godchild went through a phase where she had a visceral fear of thunder storms. She did a 10 week program of CBT with a therapist and overcame it. She was also able to use the strategies she learned going forward as a teen and young adult.

[cleo29]

auntie, that is awesome! I am trying to get things set up for her. She is definitely extremely attached to me, which can hamper things.