Friday Randoms?

[FastHands]

Mar 11, 2016 12:08:13 GMT -5 lilac05 said:

FastHands , I feel like it takes forever to get all of the toothpaste out of the toothbrush at the end. It might just be in my head, though. Without the "shhhhhh" sound of the water, I feel less clean.

And your previous comment about the buildup is also true at their house. It's not awful, but it is a pain.

ooooh ok, I'm pickin up what you're puttin down. 
I think I need caffeine.

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I don't feel like starting a new thread. DH and I have very different thoughts on parenting. And I feel like he never supports me. He goes from doing nothing to laying down a heavy handed approach (ie "that's it, this off, this is gone, go to bed now) without any warning. And often makes things worse/upsets DD unnecessarily.

Like he's been saying we need to get rid of her soother. (She's 2.5). I agree but started with no soother going outside and telling her to take it out to talk.

He takes her outside and says nothing about it. So then I look like the bad guy. And says you can understand her with the soother. Not the point! Just tell her to take it out and say it again.

So today we pick her up and I tell her no soother until we get home. She freaks out and looks at him, he does nothing because "he doesn't want a scene in public". She gets the soother, we get home he yanks it out and tells her no more and starts a 30 min crying and sobbing fit. In the end she got it back to "hold" But not put in her mouth.

I'm pissed at him for not agreeing with me at daycare and then just yanking it at home where who cares now.

Hes pissed at me because "I'm the one always saying she should take it out to talk and who started the scene at the daycare"

[kirra]

I bought new crutches!

Lol and was pleasantly surprised. Thanks to the current Canadian/US exchange rate, they were $300USD less than when I looked at them the first time. Still insanely expensive, but better than I expected.

[CurlyQ284]

SD is pissed because DH won't allow her to drive 10 hours away with her friend for spring break when neither DH nor her mom has met friends parents.

She said our house was boring and now she's going to be stuck here for spring break with us. Now she's in the corner texting and refusing to talk to anyone.

Nice start to the weekend!

[pantsparty]

H just texted me asking what year we got married.

DTMFA!!!

[just]

Fitbit Alta will be here on the 17th!!!!!

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I've been a lurker/very, very occasional poster here for a while. Now that I'm a SAHM, I find myself here more and more often. So, I figure I should try to post more.

Someone, anyone please tell me that things will get easier. DD will be 12 weeks on Sunday, and I feel like I haven't had a a minute to breathe since she was born. I am exhausted, H and I fight constantly, and it has been just one thing after another. I just need a fucking break.

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Mar 11, 2016 21:35:17 GMT -5 @clevergirl said:

I've been a lurker/very, very occasional poster here for a while. Now that I'm a SAHM, I find myself here more and more often. So, I figure I should try to post more.

Someone, anyone please tell me that things will get easier. DD will be 12 weeks on Sunday, and I feel like I haven't had a a minute to breathe since she was born. I am exhausted, H and I fight constantly, and it has been just one thing after another. I just need a fucking break.

About 5-6 months things started to turn around for us.

We gave ourselves permission to say "this sucks, we're exhausted, I'm not grumpy with you." And it really helped

[nancybotwin]

Mar 11, 2016 21:35:17 GMT -5 @clevergirl said:

I've been a lurker/very, very occasional poster here for a while. Now that I'm a SAHM, I find myself here more and more often. So, I figure I should try to post more.

Someone, anyone please tell me that things will get easier. DD will be 12 weeks on Sunday, and I feel like I haven't had a a minute to breathe since she was born. I am exhausted, H and I fight constantly, and it has been just one thing after another. I just need a fucking break.

Totally normal. The first 12 weeks (hell, the first year) are ridiculously hard. You just don't realize how abnormal it all is while you're in it.

Around 12 weeks DH and I got into a fight because I was touched out and told him that once DS weaned, I was going to a hotel by myself to sleep and read magazines and starfish in the bed and he got legitimately angry that I didn't want him to come on this hypothetical weekend that was more than a year away so....yeah. It's not easy

[flamingeaux]

Mar 11, 2016 22:03:49 GMT -5 @randomcdn said:

Mar 11, 2016 21:35:17 GMT -5 @clevergirl said:

I've been a lurker/very, very occasional poster here for a while. Now that I'm a SAHM, I find myself here more and more often. So, I figure I should try to post more.

Someone, anyone please tell me that things will get easier. DD will be 12 weeks on Sunday, and I feel like I haven't had a a minute to breathe since she was born. I am exhausted, H and I fight constantly, and it has been just one thing after another. I just need a fucking break.

About 5-6 months things started to turn around for us.

We gave ourselves permission to say "this sucks, we're exhausted, I'm not grumpy with you." And it really helped

So much this, @clevergirl. Also, hugs! It will get easier. Are either/both of you getting some down time? Is there someone who can take DD for a few hours on his next day off? If so give yourselves some separate alone time and then meet each other for dinner. Screw the house work, and the million other things that you "should" be doing. Your lives have changed dramatically and you both deserve some time off to recharge. If a sitter isn't possible, each of you take a shift so the other person is completely off duty, for at least 3-4 hours, and then do take out or delivery for dinner.