Tomorrow is our 5th anniversary and we're celebrating today since H has to work tomorrow. My parents are picking up DS around noon, we're going to try a New Mexican food place, play Top Golf, check into the hotel we got married at, get a couples massage (my first professional massage!!!), and enjoy some of the evening activities.
The hotel has a dive-in movie where there's a giant movie screen at the pool so you can watch a movie from the pool and they have fire pits that they're roasting smores on this evening. I'm bring champagne and sparkling grape juice to enjoy in our room later. Super excited!!
MrsAggie your date sounds amazing!! Every single thing sounds so fun. I'd love that dive in movie experience.
We are pretty out of touch with our couple-ness these days because the end of a pregnancy is not a very romantic time. Lol. The good news is we have a lot more help around than when M was a newborn so I'm optimistic we can do better recovering from the distance than we did last time. We'll probably go on a short dinner date in about a month.
Post by wanderingenough on Mar 11, 2016 11:16:16 GMT -5
MrsAggie - your anniversary sounds AWESOME! Also, I love Top Golf. I wish we had one nearby. So fun.
Our anniversary was this past Monday but I was traveling. We both took off work next Friday for a day date, so I just need to figure out what we are going to do. We will basically have from about 9-3 to play.
H and I are doing better these days. We got a chance to hang out and take a walk together yesterday. We have been struggling for time to have sexy time these days so we are working on that....quickies! Ha!
DH & I are in a really good place right now...communicating well, enjoying some sexy time, and recognizing/appreciating what each other does. This has been a sore spot in the past when we both would feel like we were handling the load around the house when really we were both doing a lot, we just weren't seeing it that way.
Nothing special planned for the weekend, DH works tomorrow night and I work Sunday so boo. We'll be watching a lot of basketball I'm sure.
I would like to note that we've been on one other date this year and this will be the most fun date that we've been on since we were dating. We went on lots of fun dates back in college- a local winery, the blue bell factory followed by eating at a 50s diner on an air field, Hershey factory in PA (8 hour round trip for a day date). Then we got married and were like okay so make a mixed drink and watch Blacklist? Sounds great. Lol
Post by luv2rn4fun on Mar 11, 2016 12:53:05 GMT -5
We have had many ups and downs since C and are currently in a down. DH is super stressed about the house and the man is incapable of balance. He just wants to talk about that and work all the same (same conversation repeated several times). On top of that we haven't had a date in 8 months or sex in over 2 months (I have tried initiating a couple times and been turned down, which has me in a bad spot).
We are hoping to go out next month when we visit my parents so hopefully that will help. We really just need to get moved so we have more help and ability to get out as a couple...broken record on "we need to move".
I do appreciate how hard DH works, both at work and home. Work is kicking his butt lately and that has been hard on both of us but I have been more positive about it and trying to support him more even though it's hard being a solo parent most of the time.
DH and I are in an ok place. It's been getting better though. (We were in a funk since the new year.)
We are trying to spend more time apart. (I know that probably seems like the opposite of what we need but it's helping.) we are both trying to make an attempt to hang out with our friends and try not to be sitting in front of the tv every night.
We both find not being around each other as much every evening is helping us be closer. I think it's also nice that DH is making an effort to go out with friends the days that I work late. Like tonight I work until 10pm and he has plans with some friends to go for drinks. I will pick him up after work if he needs a ride home.
We are trying to plan a weekend away in May but we don't know if we will really have the money to do so. but we will probably make it work anyways.
Tomorrow is our 5th anniversary and we're celebrating today since H has to work tomorrow. My parents are picking up DS around noon, we're going to try a New Mexican food place, play Top Golf, check into the hotel we got married at, get a couples massage (my first professional massage!!!), and enjoy some of the evening activities.
The hotel has a dive-in movie where there's a giant movie screen at the pool so you can watch a movie from the pool and they have fire pits that they're roasting smores on this evening. I'm bring champagne and sparkling grape juice to enjoy in our room later. Super excited!!
I want to go there!!! Sounds amazing!! Happy anniversary!
DH is driving me crazy right now. His job stress is affecting our relationship. He makes good money so it would be difficult to find anything else local that is comparable. He wants to look elsewhere (out of state) for job opportunities but I am hesitant since our family is local and we spent so much time and money on this house.
He has also been flip/flopping on the job stuff so much and that is driving me extra crazy. He goes back and forth between wanting to apply elsewhere and staying with his company, which has been doing layoffs and isn't super stable right now anyway, and I'm having a hard time with the back and forth talk. I want stability. I also want him to be happy. I don't want him to keep talking about applying other places when he doesn't follow through. It's one of those "dude, shit or get off the pot" situations.
We don't have anything special planned anytime soon. We have talked about taking a family day trip sometime but don't have any place in mind. I should see what I can find. It has been beautiful here (60s, 70s) which is unheard of for this time of year. We should be taking more advantage of the beautiful weather.
Post by estrellita on Mar 11, 2016 14:05:07 GMT -5
Our 3rd wedding anniversary is coming up. No plans yet though! H did well with my birthday this year and actually got me something useful lol. I have to figure out what to get him for his on the 19th!
We've been doing fine. Not amazing but not bad. My meds aren't working like I feel they should so I've still been kinda cranky towards him. I'm still trying to figure out how to get him to help out more. He does do some things I don't really do (taking trash out and cleaning litter boxes) so I don't mind doing a few extra things, but he's just so messy sometimes and falls asleep on the couch watching a movie every night instead of doing dishes like he said he'd do. So I'm starting to just do things as I have the energy for them regardless of what he says. I guess if you want something done you do it yourself right? Haha
As I've alluded to, I haven't been doing awesome this week. It accumulated in a panic attack last night that lingered until this morning. What always amazes me is how DH handles them. If I tell him something solvable that is contributing to the general anxiety, he'll try and fix it. He'll go out and buy whatever thing might make me calm (usually food lol).
MrsAggie: Sounds like my H would love that place! Movies & s'mores are among his favourite things.
Date wise, we usually consider anytime we eat out instead of getting take out a date. I just realized we haven't used our movie passes we won yet. Maybe I'll see if he wants to go see a movie tonight.
Post by rockinrobyn on Mar 11, 2016 17:31:56 GMT -5
H and I are in a good place so far. He has all next week off for Spring Break so I am excited to have him home and all to myself. No date nights planned for a while.
I feel like H and I are in a really good place lately. I've been struggling, but he's been incredibly supportive (as always). He reminds me of things I've mentioned that I want to accomplish, but doesn't push if I say that I'm not ready to do them. Example: Every day when I get home from work he asks if I want to out into the backyard with my bow. If I say yes, he goes out there with me while I shoot. If I say no, he doesn't push me to do it anyway.
Post by christy082 on Mar 11, 2016 22:52:48 GMT -5
We're pretty good. Last week I got upset with him because after C goes to bed, he was going to the basement to work on his side business and leaving the dishes and picking up around the house for me. But since then he's made a real effort to help me before disappearing to work on business stuff.
Sunday my in laws are coming to watch C and we are going to look at a plot of land we found for sale in the city we want to end up in as well as a model home in a development in the same city. Trying to determine if we can afford to build a home there.
No dates planned this month.
We are hoping to get away for an overnight in May around our anniversary.
We are in a pretty good place. H has been really supportive during all of the IF stuff we have been dealing with, and has been totally on board and encouraging for IVF. I'd say it's an accomplishment that we still like each other given the fact that since Christmas we have barely done anything other than hang out at home together in an effort to save money, lol.
mac08 - I know exactly what you mean. I tend to feel a lot of guilt about the fact that H and I rarely go anywhere or do anything because I'm always feeling too sick to want to leave the house. I consider it an accomplishment that he's willing to stick around when I'm so boring.
I feel like an old lady. We are celebrating 10 years in July!
Other than a crabby day this weekend that had us sniping at each other all day, we are definitely in an up time. We are planning on buying a house in a few months, we're planning an anniversary trip, we're talking about taking DS to Disney for a few days this fall...it's just given us a lot to dream about together, which is good. We also are getting our physical relationship back. It was sort of nonexistent for a long time.
Post by ginkgoleaf on Mar 13, 2016 23:35:59 GMT -5
We'll have our 9 year wedding anniversary this June. Been together for 14 years now.
ETA: to answer the actual question, we're doing really well. DH is a big help when he's home. I'm trying not to be jealous of him that he gets to go to work.