Friday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

I have a first date tonight with the guy who grew up literally 20 minutes down the road from me (we now both live in a different state). I'm not sure that physically he's my type, but he's really funny/witty. He seems to be involved in some really giving-centered organizations, seems proactive within the community trying to make it a better place, and is a big proponent of equality, all of which are very attractive qualities I'm looking for in someone. So we'll see how it goes!

I slept really well last night. Not sure why, but I like it.

Anyone else LOVING season 4 of House of Cards? I think I have 4 episodes left.

[jojoandleo]

My XHSBF is apparently in town. My best friend (the girl I am currently living with) is having lunch with him today and his new girl friend. His new GF apparently worked at the same restaurant we ALLLLLLLL worked at in undergrad (she started after I left to bartend in an all female servers place). It's weird. He lives in some other state now and is just not on my radar, but apparently is still friends with a lot of people I still hang out with.

Anyway, my BFF was telling me about how he and his new GF met. They were "just friends" when she was married. Then she divorced and they talked every day and are now dating. He kind of has a reputation with his female friends. (It's one of the reason's we broke up. He insisted I was crazy for my jealousy over his friendship with one of my close girlfriends-he had other female friends I had no issue with, mind you. Anyway, when we broke up, he told that girlfriend he had been in love with her for a year. ^o) )  It's so weird, feels almost like nothing has changed.  LOL.

Flameful-I want to know what the new GF looks like, and whether I am hotter than her.  #priorities.

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I've come to the sad realization that my body hates alcohol. I think I'm going to have to stop drinking and give up my precious, precious wine. I think turning to edibles is actually a lot healthier for me anyways. It relieves so much anxiety and I get THE BEST sleep.

[Serenity9]

I know I'm not over here very often, but I have a weird random online dating question... Does "Chapstick" mean something on dating profiles? I've seen several guys' profiles list "chapstick" among their interests, or even first on their interests list. Are there people who are really that into chapstick, or is that some kind of slang reference that I'm not getting?

[glitzyglow]

Mar 11, 2016 11:30:50 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I've come to the sad realization that my body hates alcohol. I think I'm going to have to stop drinking and give up my precious, precious wine. I think turning to edibles is actually a lot healthier for me anyways. It relieves so much anxiety and I get THE BEST sleep.

I'm think something similar about dairy and my body. I normally only drink almond milk, so I don't have milk often. I had ice cream last night and within an hour immediately regretted my decision. Today my stomach feels hungover.

[glitzyglow]

So, I was looking at the IG and FB of the guy I'm going out with tonight. We have no FB friends in common, which is so odd considering how close we grew up to one another. On his Instagram, there is a frequent commenter whose name I immediately recognized. She was the long-term girlfriend of my ex-brother-in-law. It appears that her and my date are good friends. That's a little awkward. She knew me when I was married to her ex-boyfriend's brother.

Oh, little town life connections. Good to see you again.

[Linie]

I have met a new man somewhere in January and we have been seeing each other at least once a week since. While there were no real sparks at our first meeting, we get on really well and over time "feelings" started to grow. We got intimate last Sunday and it was very good.
He's really smart and funny, a little older, and has excellent taste in films, music and books. I've invited him and our mutual friend over for dinner tomorrow and I'm getting a bit nervous... I really want him to like me.
I know I get hooked really fast, and I don't want to get hurt this time. I'm trying to act a little detached, but there are definitely butterflies...

Wish me luck!

[Linie]

Mar 11, 2016 10:41:28 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I loved this season! Watched it all in one go last Saturday.

[jigsy]

Mar 11, 2016 11:30:50 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I've come to the sad realization that my body hates alcohol. I think I'm going to have to stop drinking and give up my precious, precious wine. I think turning to edibles is actually a lot healthier for me anyways. It relieves so much anxiety and I get THE BEST sleep.

I have had the same realization. It doesn't matter if it is one beer for 4, I wake up with a headache, stomach ache, overall shittiness...and for what - I pretty much never get drunk, or even buzzed. I like the taste of wine and beer, but I also like the taste of soda!

Here is my random...

Backstory - Right before I split with my XH, we moved into an apartment with a really good friend of mine (J) from my Flight Attendant training. Super sweet girl. And when I left, she stayed...she was on the lease, and financially, it was just a good set up. Plus with everyone flying, you rarely see each other. I was ok with this.

Now Story - 
I was hanging out with some other former flight attendant friends, I haven't seen them in nearly two years, so we were just catching up on what everyone from our class was doing. Here is the conversation:

FA1: Oh, J is hooking up with a pilot from ABC airlines, I guess they live together now.
FA2: Really, she told me she was living with two girls in X city.
Me: Huh, that is interesting. She is actually living with my XH (a pilot for ABC airline) and his friend in X city.
Them:

So I texted XH, he claims that they are not together, but they "have gone out to dinner, and had drinks, and sometimes he takes her to the airport", but then he got really defensive. 

I genuinely do not care. I'm over it, and frankly, I am not shocked because right before we split, he would make comments like "Why can't you work out like J does, why can't you eat like J does..." I told him if it isn't true, then J should be more careful who she talks to since it sounds like she has a bit of a reputation and Flight Attendants LOVE "galley gossip". He just responded that he knows how it looks, but they are just friends. 

I am relived that I actually don't care. 

Another random.

I think I was invited to a party my mistake. The husband sent evites, and while I know this woman, and really like her, we don't have a relationship where I would think to invite her to my b-day party...but if she does want me there, I'd be happy to attend. I know a few other guests, and I would love to see these people. But still, I feel like I was accidentally included on the email list. Lol.

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Mar 11, 2016 11:51:12 GMT -5 mommadukes said:

Mar 11, 2016 11:30:50 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

I've come to the sad realization that my body hates alcohol. I think I'm going to have to stop drinking and give up my precious, precious wine. I think turning to edibles is actually a lot healthier for me anyways. It relieves so much anxiety and I get THE BEST sleep.

for me it's opposite. I actually drink wine to help me lose weight. It's usually a glass a night. If I goes days without it, my weight actually goes up!

Oh it helps me lose weight because it's an appetite suppressant, but not sleeping and having a tummy ache just isn't healthy.

[bl]

I am jealous of you ladies that live in states where you can legally get edibles. I know it would help so much with my headaches and anxiety, but FL is just not there yet.

[Eureka1984]

I have 2 first dates back to back tonight.

I feel like this is something people judge nowadays and I don't know why. I mean it's not like I'm taking them home. And this is a casual first meeting.

The first one is coffee date and the other one is drinks at a bar. I decided to try that Bumble app and that's how I met them.

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Mar 11, 2016 13:22:36 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

I have 2 first dates back to back tonight.

I feel like this is something people judge nowadays and I don't know why. I mean it's not like I'm taking them home. And this is a casual first meeting.

The first one is coffee date and the other one is drinks at a bar. I decided to try that Bumble app and that's how I met them.

What? Who is judging? That's just stupid, you go with your back to back dates! Do you like the Bumble app? How does it differ from others out there?

[FormerlyRR]

Mar 11, 2016 11:31:42 GMT -5 Serenity9 said:

I know I'm not over here very often, but I have a weird random online dating question... Does "Chapstick" mean something on dating profiles? I've seen several guys' profiles list "chapstick" among their interests, or even first on their interests list. Are there people who are really that into chapstick, or is that some kind of slang reference that I'm not getting?

urban dictionary lists weed as a possible answer. 

[jojoandleo]

Mar 11, 2016 11:31:42 GMT -5 Serenity9 said:

I know I'm not over here very often, but I have a weird random online dating question... Does "Chapstick" mean something on dating profiles? I've seen several guys' profiles list "chapstick" among their interests, or even first on their interests list. Are there people who are really that into chapstick, or is that some kind of slang reference that I'm not getting?

I have heard before that a lot of women list chapstick as one of the things they can't live without. Maybe it is a reference to that? I don't know. I do love chapstick, though. Real chapstick, not whatever this may be slang for.

[Serenity9]

Huh... the mystery of chapstick... code word or oddly mundane thing to put on a dating profile...

[jigsy]

I guess if you are interested in one of the dudes who lists chapstick that would be a good opening message. And if you do do that, and he replies, please come back and share with the class. Lol.

[glitzyglow]

Mar 11, 2016 13:22:36 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

I have 2 first dates back to back tonight.

I feel like this is something people judge nowadays and I don't know why. I mean it's not like I'm taking them home. And this is a casual first meeting.

The first one is coffee date and the other one is drinks at a bar. I decided to try that Bumble app and that's how I met them.

Why do you feel like people are judging that? And who?

Even if you did sleep with them, oh well. Nothing wrong with bringing guys home! You do you, and everyone else can mind their own business.

[bl]

Serenity9 There's another urban dictionary definition for cherry chapstick, but that would definitely be a lot to put right on a dating profile. Please report back if you ever find out.

Eureka1984 Agreed with the others it shouldn't be judged, and to me is no big deal at all.

[baa1981]

I haven't seen chapstick listed before, but am interested in what it means too!

I'm wearing a jacket I wear frequently. Earlier I put my hand in the pocket and felt a coin. I assumed it was a random quarter but when I pulled it out, it was obvious it was foreign currency. It said Kingdom of Bahrain and on the back had 100 on it. I have never been to Bahrain and don't know anyone that has been to Bahrain. I'm very perplexed how this ended up in my jacket pocket!

I decided to look up the exchange rate. The internets says 1 Bahraini dinar = 2.65 USD. I'm a little excited thinking I have found $265. Then I came back to reality and started researching Bahrain currency closer. It's 100 fil which is like our dime. Basically I found a quarter, which is what I originally thought when I felt a coin in my pocket.

But I'm still wondering where the hell this came from and how it got in my pocket!!

[sweetchix]

3 of us went to a casual pizza place for lunch today. We get an hour lunch and at 45 minutes in our server came over to tell us it would be "Just 5 minutes more". We told her to put them in to-go containers and that we needed our bill as we had to get back to the office. They were not busy and none of us got anything extravagant so I'm not sure what the hold up was. She gave us 15% off, but I wish I would also have asked for our appetizer to be taken off.

DDs school is having their "Fun Fair" tonight. I really don't want to go and listen to kids scream and have them run into me in the hall, as is what usually happens at these things. But, I figure we can go for maybe an hour and then head home.

[Serenity9]

Mar 11, 2016 14:08:20 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I guess if you are interested in one of the dudes who lists chapstick that would be a good opening message. And if you do do that, and he replies, please come back and share with the class. Lol.

I did! It was on Bumble where women message first as a rule. He didn't respond.  ^o)  I'll never understand why people swipe right on people if they don't intend to respond to messages. 

[glitzyglow]

Mar 11, 2016 15:57:42 GMT -5 Serenity9 said:

Mar 11, 2016 14:08:20 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I guess if you are interested in one of the dudes who lists chapstick that would be a good opening message. And if you do do that, and he replies, please come back and share with the class. Lol.

I did! It was on Bumble where women message first as a rule. He didn't respond.   I'll never understand why people swipe right on people if they don't intend to respond to messages. 

I just said this exact same thing to my friend. Literally.

[bg]

Mar 11, 2016 16:24:28 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

Mar 11, 2016 15:57:42 GMT -5 Serenity9 said:

I did! It was on Bumble where women message first as a rule. He didn't respond.   I'll never understand why people swipe right on people if they don't intend to respond to messages. 

I just said this exact same thing to my friend. Literally.

It's too bad you can't see metrics on people. Like swipes right to how often they actually contact or respond to people or whatever. 

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jojoandleo, I read your post and at first i read it as ex h's (XHS) boyfriend (BF) and I was like....wait....did I miss something?   Then I went back and was like....OOOOHHH!!!!! duh.  LOL My brain is occupied with thoughts of packing and I can't focus!

[Eureka1984]

Mar 11, 2016 13:50:16 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Mar 11, 2016 13:22:36 GMT -5 Eureka1984 said:

I have 2 first dates back to back tonight.

I feel like this is something people judge nowadays and I don't know why. I mean it's not like I'm taking them home. And this is a casual first meeting.

The first one is coffee date and the other one is drinks at a bar. I decided to try that Bumble app and that's how I met them.

What? Who is judging? That's just stupid, you go with your back to back dates! Do you like the Bumble app? How does it differ from others out there?

The Bumble app is similar to tinder you can swipe right or left however girls have to make the first move to talk. It's a good app in that it takes away the whole tinder stigma of being a hookup site. So far there were plenty of men in my area. I would say try it!

[starburst604]

glitzyglow how was the date?

[jojoandleo]

Mar 11, 2016 22:26:01 GMT -5 @blueyes623 said:

jojoandleo, I read your post and at first i read it as ex h's (XHS) boyfriend (BF) and I was like....wait....did I miss something?   Then I went back and was like....OOOOHHH!!!!! duh.  LOL My brain is occupied with thoughts of packing and I can't focus!

BAHAHAHAHA! No. MH has never dated men. XFI did, though, so I can understand the confusion. But yeah, my high school boyfriend. We dated 4 1/2 years, so we had a shit ton of friends in common. i just didn't realize anyone else kept in touch with him when he moved. Lol.