Ackkkk! XH just popped up on OKC

[Serenity9]

I posted a random today about online dating, and that was prompted by the fact that I just signed up for OK Cupid; I had only been doing Tinder and other apps before. Today... the XH messaged me. 

He didn't say anything bad. He sent me a pretty long message full of compliments and politeness, and at the end said he would block me so that I feel comfortable being there. I did the same for him. I'm not going to respond to his message. In order to block him I had to go to his profile. I told myself I would go and immediately block it and not read his profile. But I ended up skimming it. I don't know why I wanted to do that. Every time he crops back up in my life, I end up with increased anxiety for about a week afterward. I probably made it worse by giving my brain more to mull over. 

I've heard so many horror stories about abusive exes who make their lives hell afterward, and he doesn't do that, and I'm very glad. But at the same time this "I'm such a nice, great guy... I don't know how anyone could ever have a problem with me" act does get under my skin. I hope he doesn't think I'm going to forget the hateful things he said and did and believe that this syrupy-sweet personality is the real him. 

No real point to this... just felt the need to get it out.

[Deleted]

I would have read the whoooole thing because I torture myself. Good for him on not being a dick about it. I hope your anxiety isn't too much. At least it's the weekend and hopefully you can have a few drinks to take the edge off.

[pinkdutchtulips]

If xh had one .. I'd read and HOWL w laughter

[alleinesein]

Mine pops up on occasion and I just block him. I just ignore him.

[bg]

I would definitely block too. After reading, of course.

[Deleted]

Hugs.  

[cuddlyevil]

I'm still a little sad that I never saw stbx's profile. I would have enjoyed the laugh.

[glitzyglow]

Ugh, his message pisses me off. I'm glad you blocked him without response. Good work!

[asoctoberfalls]

That would be hard. Glad he's blocked!!

[alexithymia]

Ugh. My xh is exactly the same way worth the overly nice interactions and playing innocent. Give me a break, douche. I'm not going to forget what an asshole you were.

[itsmyparty]

This is one of the many reasons I'm moving to a different state - I don't even want to play in stbxh's sandbox.

[cuddlyevil]

Mar 12, 2016 17:16:55 GMT -5 alexithymia said:

Ugh. My xh is exactly the same way worth the overly nice interactions and playing innocent. Give me a break, douche. I'm not going to forget what an asshole you were.

Mine gave me a lecture on internet safety and how different things are nowadays. Then tried to tell me who I should date.

Yeah, no.

[Mrs.Rad888]

XH and I don't live anywhere near each other, so even if we were on any dating sites, it's unlikely we'd see each other's profiles. However, his Facebook is wide open, and it just serves to confirm that I made the right choice in divorcing him. According to his newest XW, he's had another kid come out of the woodwork, and is currently seeing someone 21 years younger than him, who also happens to be the same age as the kid that was recently discovered.