Wish Me Luck!

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Good for you!! Let us know how it went! : )

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Sorry I didn't see this in time to wish you luck, lucybrown , but sounds like you didn't need luck! You did great! Out of curiosity, what are a couple of your favorite readings. Inquiring minds want to know...

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lucybrown, that was great! I don't know much about Al-anon, although I should check it out. My mom was an alcoholic, too, but she died when I was 30.

This part really touched my heart - But it is even more important to remember that establishing personal boundaries is not the same as building walls. Our goal is to heal ourselves and our relationships with other human beings, not to coldly distance ourselves, especially from the people who matter most to us. That seems to be the crux of it, right?

Thanks again for sharing your words and ideas!

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detachment was a godsend for me too ! i attended al-anon for nearly a year when dealing with the aftermath of xh's substance abuse relapse.

its hard to be able to take that necessary step back to reflect and analyze a situation when you're CONSTANTLY in a reactive state being in the thick of that awful roller coaster of being a loved one of an addict. i was a far happier person when i was AWAY from my now xh. it was only w/ detachment did i fully realize this.