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Mine are 11 years apart. That wasn't a smart idea either. In my mind two kids of any age sucks. I have a toddler and a teenager and while they pose different problems, they both suck. Oh and neither listen and they also fight.
This what scares me. Lol. I see what DS is like at 1.5 and thinking about what everyone around here says about 3 year olds and feeling like I may end up in the looney bin in 2 years.
Post by aussiecrush on Mar 14, 2016 15:40:11 GMT -5
5 is better. 6 is solidly good so when you get to 4 again you won't quite want to kill anyone. At 7 and turning 4 next week I feel like I have the upper hand again. Except at bath time. Fuck bath time.
Post by snipsnsnails on Mar 14, 2016 15:43:04 GMT -5
Have them close together, they said. Get it all done at once, they said. They'll all be in the same stage at roughly the same time, they said. Yeah, well, what they didn't tell me is that we all might go crazy and/or maim one another trying to get out of these "phases" in one piece!
I feel you. I have a 2 yo and a 4 yo too. My oldest is turning 13 this month and that's a fresh new hell full of hormones.
My oldest 2 are 21 months apart. The oldest just turned 13. I will have 2 teenage girls in the house in a few years. Things you don't think of when having kids so close together. It doesn't really get better, it just changes.
My brother and I are two years apart. I'm sure my mom (who didn't drive at the time) wanted to jump out a window at the 2&4 ages, but by the time we were in school we totally entertained each other, so hang in there. It should get better!
My 4 and 2 year old have already mastered the fine art of whaling on each other when the other one doesn’t do what they want. When I send them off to “play” together someone is generally crying or injured every 5-6 minutes or so. Since the little one thinks everything the big one does is amazing she copies everything. The big one has realized the usefulness of this and now runs a puppet regime where she tells 2yo “Go tell mommy and daddy you broke all the crayons”.
Post by jojoandleo on Mar 14, 2016 16:21:17 GMT -5
If it makes you feel better, my sister and I are just under 2 years apart and we are best friends. So, it sucks now, but you gave your kids a built in forever best friend/support system! All the pain and heartache seems funny to my mom, now. But she did beg my father to send her to a mental institution just to give herself a break when we were around that age...
Theo and Sofia are exactly 2 years apart (both May babies), and Theo and Ilya are 21 months apart. Actually, it hasn't been awful, but there were definitely times that i was like "wtf have I done?" And "wtf have I done? Again?!" Mostly when I had a 2 year old and a newborn.
I told my h that there is no way I'm having another newborn while we have a freshly 2 year old child. so we're waiting until 2017 to start trying again. Ilya would be just about 3 by the time we have another, and that's perfect.
I have one 3 year old and omg. One of us isn't going to make it. Three is, by infinite amounts, so much harder than two ever was. So much attitude, so much whining, so much emotion! We have decided to shelf the second kid idea until we make it through ages 3 and 4 :/
Post by beefcheeks on Mar 14, 2016 18:37:28 GMT -5
Mine are just over 2 years apart and there were some hard, hard days at those ages! My oldest is 6 now and things are way better, so hang in there...I'm sure it will be the case for you too! :-)
My just turned 5 and almost 3 year old played together in the living room with very little intervention for two hours (!!) while I read my book (!!) yesterday. When it's good, it's very good. There have definitely been a few rough patches along the way, though. I think playing together really ramped up considerably for us around 2.25 or 2.5.