I got floss stuck in my teeth this morning...like couldn't pull it out because it broke off. Who does that? I mean eventually I got it out...like 2 hours later...but still.
In over this week and it hasn't even started yet. I'm soooo tired and I don't have energy for all of the things I know are waiting for me when I get to the office.
I thought it was Wednesday from the time I got up until a few min ago. I was so confused how St Paddy's Day was tomorrow but it's only the 15th.. but H's birthday is Sat... yup. Brain no worky today! This week is already long and I have a headache. Again. Is it bed time yet?
Post by HoneySpider on Mar 15, 2016 8:06:08 GMT -5
((bk1)) I think the fact that he suggested it might be a positive - it means he wants to talk to you/figure out what's going on. It's better than shutting down and just ignoring the situation, right?
((bk1 )) I think the fact that he suggested it might be a positive - it means he wants to talk to you/figure out what's going on. It's better than shutting down and just ignoring the situation, right?
This.
So many ((hugs)) bk1. Sorry you guys are struggling but I really think it's awesome your DH wants to work through these things with you. It shows he cares enough to put the effort in. We have our issues and going to counseling would really help...but DH sees it as a last resort whereas I tend to see it as preventative. We saw someone our first year of marriage and she was happy we were there...a lot of times couples brush things off for years and it's so much harder to get back on track. Praying you guys continue to talk and get through this. I'm here if you ever need to talk.
Sorry you are going through a rough patch bk1, but as others have said, I think it's a great sign of how much he cares about improving your relationship that he would suggest counseling.
suzv I always find myself in the same cycle. Naps are so hard to resist for me from like 4:30-5:30.
anyastroud sorry you had such a rough morning, but I'm glad things are looking up after some sleep!
H and I are in a rut lately. I understand he is under a lot of stress lately but he needs to not take it out on me. I actually asked him this morning if he even liked me anymore how I have been treated at times.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Mar 15, 2016 13:05:27 GMT -5
((Hugs)) @emtmissy. DH can be the same way (and in am guilty too, especially with lack of sleep) and it's not fun to be around I have asked my DH the same time before. I hope things improve for you guys soon! He is so lucky to have such a loving and caring wife who continues to do so much to support him through this rough time.
After our landlord replaced our defective smoke detector I thought the issues were over. However, it has become clear that this brand of smoke detector HATES our toaster oven. It wouldn't bother me if 1) the old one hadn't taken to beeping every 10 minutes & 2) our detector wasn't connected to the basement tenant's detector (whenever we set it off, hers goes off and vice versa).
katespade : What does New Hire Tuesday entail? Besides stress, obviously!
I'm sorry bk1 . I agree with PPs have said. I hope you have time soon to talk about what the concerns are and what he's hoping the two of you will get out of it. Going to counselling wouldn't mean either of you failed just that the two of you want to improve the way your communicate.
That really sucks @emtmissy . I hope things become less stressful and you two have the opportunity to talk through this soon. It sounds like you've been very caring and patient with him, please make sure to care for yourself as well.
Sorry your day had a rough start anyastroud . I'm glad you two got to talk it out afterwards!
He blind-sided me with it because it was before 7 this morning and I hadn't even had coffee yet. I'm not against it if it's something he wants to do. I think we both just need to be nicer to each other, actually listen to each other, and maybe put a bit more effort into appreciating each other. We'll talk more about everything I'm sure.
((@emtmissy)) I did write you a pm back the other day. (I don't know if you got it)
Can you maybe try marriage counseling? It may help you figure out what is going on communication wise. I also think him seeing a counselor on his own maybe helpful.
My mom decided to tell me today that we are parenting wrong and it's our fault when M acts up because we never discipline. Then moments later she was telling me that my H is too hard on M. Which is it mother dearest? We can't simultaneously be too strict and not discipline. Grr.
I'm especially sensitive to this because I strongly disagree with how I was raised (spanked from baby age onward for any infraction including accidents) and am consciously making different choices she disagrees with.
So months ago when things were pretty rough for me, I came up with the solution of having DS's nanny coming at 1pm when I work 2 in a row. I was just so exhausted that I felt unsafe at work and getting a solid 8 hours of sleep on my second day really helped fix the problem.
Well DS's nanny got some tax job and said she couldn't come early on Tuesday or Thursday. I was pretty annoyed because those are usually always my 2nd days and she had a work commitment and never discussed it with me ahead of time, just told me. So my mom was bending over backwards helping getting through this period because tax season is short, right? So on Sunday I verify she's coming early on Wednesday and she says no, she has a graphic design gig. What? First I've heard of this. This explains why she couldn't relieve my mom at 3:30 last week. I implore further and she tells me it's a full-time thing that she's hoping will become permanent and it's not worth it to her to forgo it for one day a week and HOPEFULLY she'll still make it here by 6 pm (her normal time). Um, wtf? You have a work commitment and basically just told me you don't give a damn about my family after over a year. I'm thinking about posting on care.com. I'm just so done and it's starting to get busy at work so I need to be rested and on my game. SO PISSED.
I just got caught not listening to DH. He said the all important play-in games are tonight to which I enthusiastically responded YUP! He said how do you know that? And I said Oh I thought we were talking about super Tuesday.
Moral of the story: don't gbcn and talk to your H.
@opal - It's new hire orientation day. It's not so bad, it just means that I don't accomplish much of anything else and I end up with a sore throat from so much talking. Haha.