Wednesday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

I know this is unpopular, but I love the time change. Last night I felt like I was so much more productive after work. Ever since the time change I've felt amazing. I need a winter home, ideally in Puerto Rico.

My hair looks insane today. Whatever, I'm calling it "messy chic" lol.

I have a work dinner tomorrow night...on St. Patrick's Day! It's way out in the country, too. I'm going to be on extra alert driving home since I'm sure someone will decide to drive after drinking.

[jojoandleo]

I am really craving a taco bell Cheesy Gordita Crunch right now. No idea why.

[housewife]

My anxiety is at a level 9 today.

Does anyone else feel like you have to finish ALL THE THINGS before you can go on vacation? Obviously, I need to tie up lose ends at work & pack. But I also feel like I can't leave without finishing every last bit of laundry, changing the sheets, scrubbing the bathroom, etc. Is this just me or is this a thing everyone does?

[bg]

I had to deal with jet lag and then the time change on top of that. That combined with staying in a house with a two week old baby, my sleep has been all screwed up.

housewife I like coming back to a clean/neat place when I get back from vacation/being away so I do that too!

[doglove]

I like the additional light in the evenings too.

I've decided to stop dating because of all the bad luck I've had. I need a break, it's too exhausting sifting through what's out there so I deleted all my stuff. I think I'll give the guy I saw last weekend one more date this weekend, but even then I am kind of not feeling that one.

[doglove]

Mar 16, 2016 11:16:11 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 16, 2016 11:08:28 GMT -5 doglove said:

I like the additional light in the evenings too.

I've decided to stop dating because of all the bad luck I've had. I need a break, it's too exhausting sifting through what's out there so I deleted all my stuff. I think I'll give the guy I saw last weekend one more date this weekend, but even then I am kind of not feeling that one.

I feel you. I go in waves. I've had some shit luck lately. Hugs.

That's what I've heard so I'm glad I'm not a weirdo for needing to give up for a little while. I am just so shocked at all the insecure men, the amount of men who are literally just out of a relationship or the men who want to bash their exes non-stop on the first date. No, just no. 

[jigsy]

I picked a hell of a time to start going to work earlier with the DST switch. Now I am not only adjusting to waking up earlier, but I am waking up and getting ready when it is still dark out, which before DST, that wasn't the case. Mr.Jiggles is having a hard time adjusting too...I have to drag him out of bed to go outside and it takes him a little longer to do his business...hopefully he will adjust, his sad little sleep face kills me in the morning.

With all the bummer dating news I have been hearing (both IRL friends and on here) I feel like I need to seek out someone who has successfully found someone recently...except I can't, because those stories don't exist right now. Lol.

I kid.


Mostly.

[doglove]

Mar 16, 2016 11:32:47 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I picked a hell of a time to start going to work earlier with the DST switch. Now I am not only adjusting to waking up earlier, but I am waking up and getting ready when it is still dark out, which before DST, that wasn't the case. Mr.Jiggles is having a hard time adjusting too...I have to drag him out of bed to go outside and it takes him a little longer to do his business...hopefully he will adjust, his sad little sleep face kills me in the morning.

With all the bummer dating news I have been hearing (both IRL friends and on here) I feel like I need to seek out someone who has successfully found someone recently...except I can't, because those stories don't exist right now. Lol.

I kid.


Mostly.

I know right? I do have a friend who recently married someone they found, but I feel like that's the exception and not the norm. I literally sent out between 100-150 messages on match during my three month subscription and only five returned my messages. FIVE. And I ended up meeting three of them in person. I don't even understand why no one returns messages - especially because I like to do everything that everyone else likes to do and I don't think I'm unattractive. That was an extremely frustrating experience for me. 

[doglove]

Mar 16, 2016 11:47:28 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 16, 2016 11:40:43 GMT -5 doglove said:

I know right? I do have a friend who recently married someone they found, but I feel like that's the exception and not the norm. I literally sent out between 100-150 messages on match during my three month subscription and only five returned my messages. FIVE. And I ended up meeting three of them in person. I don't even understand why no one returns messages - especially because I like to do everything that everyone else likes to do and I don't think I'm unattractive. That was an extremely frustrating experience for me. 

This is exactly my experience as well.

Listen - I know I am cute. Sure, I am not hot. I'm not a 10, especially in LA. But I am cute, put together, funny. I am messaging men that I would consider to be equals or a step down... and nothin'. It's not like I'm messaging super hot doctors. lol. 

I think with online dating in a lot of ways, people are always looking for the new and shiny and better and then very few people end up connecting with each other.

Right - thanks for putting my experience exactly in words. And it's frustrating because apparently no one can live up to these people's expectations. I have often thought, maybe people want something so out of reach so they don't actually ever have to fully invest in someone that may be a great catch. Blah! 

One dude said he was single for 12 years. TWELVE YEARS. Waiting for the "perfect" person that God sent to just come along. My response was like KOKO dude because apparently this approach is working for you. 

[glitzyglow]

Mar 16, 2016 11:52:53 GMT -5 doglove said:

Mar 16, 2016 11:47:28 GMT -5 mp said:

This is exactly my experience as well.

Listen - I know I am cute. Sure, I am not hot. I'm not a 10, especially in LA. But I am cute, put together, funny. I am messaging men that I would consider to be equals or a step down... and nothin'. It's not like I'm messaging super hot doctors. lol. 

I think with online dating in a lot of ways, people are always looking for the new and shiny and better and then very few people end up connecting with each other.

Right - thanks for putting my experience exactly in words. And it's frustrating because apparently no one can live up to these people's expectations. I have often thought, maybe people want something so out of reach so they don't actually ever have to fully invest in someone that may be a great catch. Blah! 

One dude said he was single for 12 years. TWELVE YEARS. Waiting for the "perfect" person that God sent to just come along. My response was like KOKO dude because apparently this approach is working for you. 

Another chime in for how frustrating it all is. I don't understand it. I'm back on all the apps, but I don't hold a lot of weight that they'll be very helpful.

[doglove]

I hear you glitzyglow!

[formerlyak]

mp doglove jigsy May be time to switch your dating site. If I am remembering correctly, you are all early to mid 30s? I was 34 when I divorced and started online dating in Los Angeles. I found what you are describing on match for sure. I hated it. I had better luck finding more established, ready for a relationship, not just looking for a great headshot in a profile guys on eharmony (and got a deal where I paid for one month and got six free, so it ended up being cheaper than match). Tinder, OKC and the like weren't really happening yet at that time.

[Deleted]

In a flight from Atlanta to DC, then out to hit the town. Gah! The whirlwind begins! I feel everyone else on the dating stuff. I'm trying to just do more things IRL (not with the intention of dating) but focusing my energy on connecting with people in person rather than on social or an app. At least it gives me fun stuff to occupy my time. I'm in no way hopeful I will find someone to date.

[doglove]

Mar 16, 2016 13:49:54 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 16, 2016 13:31:21 GMT -5 formerlyak said:

mp doglove jigsy May be time to switch your dating site. If I am remembering correctly, you are all early to mid 30s? I was 34 when I divorced and started online dating in Los Angeles. I found what you are describing on match for sure. I hated it. I had better luck finding more established, ready for a relationship, not just looking for a great headshot in a profile guys on eharmony (and got a deal where I paid for one month and got six free, so it ended up being cheaper than match). Tinder, OKC and the like weren't really happening yet at that time.

I tried eHarmony previously, and no one I was interested in was interested back in me. It couldnt hurt to try again if I find a good deal.

If you find a deal, keep me posted. The $$$ down plus reviews I've read that state it's almost impossible to cancel before they recharge your card have kept me from trying them. I've also heard there's not much control on eharmony about who your matches are and location proximity? IDk if that's true since I have no experience with it. 

[formerlyak]

On eharmony, I think it all depends on what perimeters you set and where you are located. I found most of my matches to be quite good and when I'd want to mix it up a bit, I'd slightly change my age requirements or location requirements and get more matches. Most were within 30 minutes of me; and my DH was less than a mile from me!

[sweetchix]

I've thought about unhiding my profile on POF, but I've gone on from time to time since I hid it to just browse and it's still all the same people. I tried Bumble about a week ago but then deleted my profile once I realized that only *I* could make the first move in conversation. Sometimes I'm ok with that, but I didn't like that it was ALL on me.

[sweetchix]

Mar 16, 2016 14:43:02 GMT -5 mp said:

Just booked a work trip to Amsterdam next month. I will get almost 2 days to myself, which will be nice!

Have you been there before? I was there in '97 and loved it. I would love to go back.

[doriswe]

Mar 16, 2016 13:57:06 GMT -5 doglove said:

Mar 16, 2016 13:49:54 GMT -5 mp said:

I tried eHarmony previously, and no one I was interested in was interested back in me. It couldnt hurt to try again if I find a good deal.

If you find a deal, keep me posted. The $$$ down plus reviews I've read that state it's almost impossible to cancel before they recharge your card have kept me from trying them. I've also heard there's not much control on eharmony about who your matches are and location proximity? IDk if that's true since I have no experience with it. 

I just got one that gave you 3 months for $17.95. I figured I've spent $20 on other random things, so why not? Most of the people I've been matched with are multiple states away and out of my target criteria (no, I do not want to meet a 50 year old in North Dakota).  I've had exactly zero communication on there in the 2 months I've been on it.

[doriswe]

Mar 16, 2016 15:57:54 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 16, 2016 15:54:07 GMT -5 doriswe said:

I just got one that gave you 3 months for $17.95. I figured I've spent $20 on other random things, so why not? Most of the people I've been matched with are multiple states away and out of my target criteria (no, I do not want to meet a 50 year old in North Dakota).  I've had exactly zero communication on there in the 2 months I've been on it.

I hear ND is lovely in the winter.

lol...you make a valid point! Maybe I could get into a little human trafficking while I'm there?!?

omg...I should send you a screen shot of this dude I saw on Tinder! He really knew how to sell himself

[Deleted]

doriswe, long time no see!! Hi!

[jigsy]

I just looked at my Tinder profile...people who I was chatting with over the summer are still there...and sending me messages. LOL.





There are so many great single-person gifs.

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Mar 16, 2016 10:27:44 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I am really craving a taco bell Cheesy Gordita Crunch right now. No idea why.

fuck ya. I've been craving taco hell but I couldn't figure out what I'd want. Plus our taco B is next to an In and out. Life choices like those are hard yo... 

[pandora]

I am so over coughing constantly and peeing my f'n pants. I just woke up to coughing and peed my pjs, then got up to go to the bathroom only to puke up my dinner. I'm so not happy right now and can't go back to sleep. I will delete but I had to let this out, grrrrrr!

[3dogdays]

So many feelings today. I went to the doctor this morning and was diagnosed with bronchitis and the flu. Wonderful. My brother is getting married on Friday and my daughter and I are supposed to be traveling first thing. One more thing on my plate.

It was my stbx's night with our daughter. He's supposed to bring her home by 7. At 7, I called to find out where he was and he was still at his shop working. Of course, that's all he ever did for the last year and a half. So I went to pick her up because she needed to go to bed and guess who's there. The new girl. Pissed me off. You want to move on, fine. Don't involve our daughter. And seriously? You can't take 20 mins to bring your daughter home so she can go to bed?

I'm really starting to wonder who he is anymore.

[redredwine]

I've been on the road in Asia for almost three weeks and am seeing the light at the end of the table...so ready to come home! I honestly had a great trip (it was for work) and it was great focusing on the part of work I enjoy and not going to meeting after meeting back home.

My director recommended me for a new position (would be promotion) and it's not an area I thought I wanted to work in, but hey...when you're director says "their director is expecting to hear from you", it's now looking pretty cool! We'll see how it goes. I don't even have an interview yet, but looking promising.

[doglove]

Mar 16, 2016 15:54:07 GMT -5 doriswe said:

Mar 16, 2016 13:57:06 GMT -5 doglove said:

If you find a deal, keep me posted. The $$$ down plus reviews I've read that state it's almost impossible to cancel before they recharge your card have kept me from trying them. I've also heard there's not much control on eharmony about who your matches are and location proximity? IDk if that's true since I have no experience with it. 

I just got one that gave you 3 months for $17.95. I figured I've spent $20 on other random things, so why not? Most of the people I've been matched with are multiple states away and out of my target criteria (no, I do not want to meet a 50 year old in North Dakota).  I've had exactly zero communication on there in the 2 months I've been on it.

That's exactly what I've heard - only from someone who was living in metro DC!