# of hook-ups that = relationship?

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I think it's possible. I think you just have to have clear communication and make sure that you both start off on the same page and that you stay on the same page.

[Deleted]

Sure. Most men I've met want this. Just don't make future plans or have an exclusivity talk

[1confused1]

Could it be done? Sure. Could *I* do it? No.

[redredwine]

You can do anything you want - there's no rule that really "defines" a relationship ,especially rules with #'s.

I did this in my early 20's with a guy. I guess it was a FWB, but it was really more than that? ultimately I got too attached and it got messy and didn't end well, but we did it for 6 months, then we both moved away (we were living abroad) Then again for another year or so when he moved near me.
I mean, I guess I did this late on, too, as I dated a guy for a few months and we weren't exclusive...though I wanted to be. I just was OK with not being that way because I enjoyed his company, so I compromised what I wanted and that was fine. It faded away and I wasn't hurt.

It's all about what you both agree on. I don't think it's fair to lead a person on that you have no intention to be serious with but they want to be, etc. so the good old 'communication is key' applies here, too.

[TR]

I think you (general you) can have a months-long non-exclusive relationship as long as both people are clear on the expectations.

Could I do it? No. I can do FWB for awhile, but if I have actual feelings for someone then I couldn't.

[bl]

I guess to me this falls into friends with benefits territory. I like you enough to continue to hang out and sleep with you, but not enough to see myself being serious with you. If I don't like you enough to want to be around you often and hang out then to me that isn't FWB because where is the friends part. If I like you more than a friend and want something more serious with you than it needs to be mutual and moving towards that or it needs to end because I can't do FWB with someone I have romantic feelings for or I will not be okay emotionally.

[brooke77]

Interesting. I think for me personally it's a combination of numbers and frequency. I might start feeling more serious about a guy I've hooked up with 10 times over a month than 10 times over a year and a half.

[llh0211]

I feel like I'm kind of in this boat right now. I've been casually dating a guy for about 4-5 months. We see each other once a week. Sometimes once every couple weeks. We go on dates. We have great conversation. We have sex. We're both dating others. There's never talk of the future other than we have to check out xyz restaurant sometime! I enjoy the time we spend together, but I definitely don't see a serious relationship with him. He's 12 years older than me, and I think that contributes to why it works and why I don't see anything more with him.