What's Up? & Easter Plans

[cgpm]

What's everyone got going on these days?  Did you do anything fun this past weekend?

What's on tap for next weekend?  Any Easter plans?

[cgpm]

We spent last weekend relaxing and running errands. I got a pedicure and some shopping time with my mom and aunt. DS was being cute as ever "talking" to us. It's pretty cute.

We are hosting Easter for 14 people at our house. DS will be the only kid so no egg hunt or anything. I'm doing ham, green beans, carrot cake, etc. I'm more just sad that because DS has a milk and soy intolerance I can't enjoy any of my favorite candy this year. Easter is seriously my favorite holiday in terms of candy.

scm1011 Any updates??? Been thinking of you!

[scm1011]

Hugs, RockNVoll. I thought of you this morning when I heard the horrible news. Its also so scary. I hope you're able to come up with alternative travel plans.

cgpm , things are good! I had my first ultrasound yesterday and we were able to see the heartbeat Next ultrasound is end of next week and if all goes well I graduate to a normal OB!

Easter is at my mother's. We had tentatively planned to tell my parents and my sister's kids then, but I'm rethinking that. My sister (correctly) pointed out that there is a 0% chance that my mother will keep the news secret, no matter how much I stress the point, and I'm not sure I'm ready for all 30+ family members that are coming for dessert to know. I'll only be 7 weeks, so its a bit early. The next time I'll see everyone is at a cousin's wedding in late May though and I don't want to make that event about my news. We'll see.

[vtdiamond]

So glad to hear your appointment went well yesterday scm1011!

I'm heading down to CT to be with my parents for Easter weekend. DH is starting his new job on Thursday so will be working like crazy the next few weeks.
We're taking the kids to an Easter Egg Hunt on Saturday and then will do church and out for lunch on Easter.

[cgpm]

RockNVoll, I'm just glad you weren't there at the time, though it sucks to have to shuffle plans.

scm1011, Yay! So glad it was good news. And I'm sorry your mom can't keep a secret. That would be hard for me because I'm really close to my mom and I would want to tell her right away (and we did). I gave her permission to discuss it with my dad (obviously) and her sister (who is her best friend) so she would have people to talk to about it, without letting the whole family know. It was actually my MIL who had a harder time keeping it in, which surprised me.

[scm1011]

Mar 22, 2016 11:40:13 GMT -5 cgpm said:

RockNVoll , I'm just glad you weren't there at the time, though it sucks to have to shuffle plans.

scm1011 , Yay! So glad it was good news. And I'm sorry your mom can't keep a secret. That would be hard for me because I'm really close to my mom and I would want to tell her right away (and we did). I gave her permission to discuss it with my dad (obviously) and her sister (who is her best friend) so she would have people to talk to about it, without letting the whole family know. It was actually my MIL who had a harder time keeping it in, which surprised me.

I'm not close to my mom and honestly would be fine waiting months to tell her, but I'm DYING to tell my nieces (9 & 11), and to a lesser extent, my Dad. Honestly my mom is BEC with me and I don't want to give her the pleasure of spreading the word. So we'll see, I'm still mulling it over.

[cgpm]

Mar 22, 2016 11:55:46 GMT -5 scm1011 said:

Mar 22, 2016 11:40:13 GMT -5 cgpm said:

RockNVoll , I'm just glad you weren't there at the time, though it sucks to have to shuffle plans.

scm1011 , Yay! So glad it was good news. And I'm sorry your mom can't keep a secret. That would be hard for me because I'm really close to my mom and I would want to tell her right away (and we did). I gave her permission to discuss it with my dad (obviously) and her sister (who is her best friend) so she would have people to talk to about it, without letting the whole family know. It was actually my MIL who had a harder time keeping it in, which surprised me.

I'm not close to my mom and honestly would be fine waiting months to tell her, but I'm DYING to tell my nieces (9 & 11), and to a lesser extent, my Dad. Honestly my mom is BEC with me and I don't want to give her the pleasure of spreading the word. So we'll see, I'm still mulling it over.

Then I probably wouldn't tell her either.  My MIL promised to let DH tell his aunts and uncles and she and FIL did not keep that promise, so I get what you mean about wanting to be the one to tell people.  I'm super close with my mom so we come from very different viewpoints on this topic.  Hugs.

[pinkroses]

RockNVoll, I'm glad you weren't there yet!  I hope you're able to get another trip figured out.

scm1011, congratulations!  I think I remember us having similar mom relationships (aka difficult).  We told my parents at 7w5d, which was way earlier than I had intended, but we saw the HB on an ultrasound and my H was just dying to tell everyone.  We told our immediate families and made it clear to my mom that the only people she could talk about it with were them, and we would let her know once it was okay to tell other people.  She actually shocked me by keeping the secret. She was too scared to make me mad, after finding out she was FINALLY getting a grandchild.  She didn't want to alienate me :-p  I still had extreme anxiety through all of 1st tri that something would go wrong, and we would have to tell everyone about a m/c.  I don't know, I guess all of that is just to say I get it, and do whatever makes you most comfortable and happy.

[bostonmichelle]

RockNVoll I'm so glad you weren't there. I hope you figure out something else to do with your vacation time.

scm1011 yay!! So happy for you and the ultrasound! I would absolutely wait to tell your mom in this situation. I would just call her between now and the wedding and tell her unless you wanted to tell her in person.

We moved last weekend into our new house and started unpacking. This weekend we will be building built in bookshelves in a den/office space and doing some other small projects and trying to unpack the rest of our stuff. We wanted to rip up carpets and lay pergo but we couldn't find enough pergo in our area to do it so we will do that Memorial Day Weekend instead.

[scm1011]

Thanks for sharing, pinkroses. I'm glad it all worked out in your case!

[drloretta]

RockNVoll, I was wondering if you had Belgium plans after I heard the news. I'm glad you're safe.

scm1011, congrats and good luck with your family.

Last weekend was busy. DD had dance class and got fitted for her rehearsal costume. Sunday we walked with her in a St Patrick's Day parade.

This coming week/weekend has a lot going on. DH has practice tonight. I'm singing tomorrow through Sunday. DH is making Easter dinner And I need to figure out a birthday present for my dad

[elfinia7]

Things are good on my end. My trip to Iceland with les was amazing! It feels totally surreal now being back, like was I really just there? And after having a passport for 8 years, I finally got some stamps in it! lol

My house sold without issue. I've moved into a new apartment on my own which I'm loving. My new couch just arrived Monday. I have a lot unpacked but still have things to do/get and decorating too.

I'm going home to my parents house for Easter this weekend which will be nice as I haven't seen them since they helped me move to my storage unit back in February on that frigid day.

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Hugs, RockNVoll. I hope you guys are able to figure something else out.
scm1011, I'm glad the ultrasound went smoothly. As for announcing, I would do whatever you think will cause you the least amount of stress. For me, if I wasn't sure my mom could keep her mouth shut, I would wait. They are going to be delighted no matter when you tell them, but you can't take it back, you know? I'm sure you'll do what's best, and this is an excellent time to invoke the "my uterus, my rules" mantra with your husband. Good luck!

[liveintheville]

We just celebrated Purim yesterday and Easter hunt Saturday. 14 people over for Easter dinner.
RockNVoll sorry about your Belgium trip
@scm1101 I didn't tell my parents the first time until a long time. And with L they didn't find out until they were out and I had morning sickness so they figured it out.

We also told them C's name was going to be Mordecai up until he was born. We're evil.

[scm1011]

Update: I told my parents (because I REALLY wanted to tell my nieces), and my mom immediately launched in to how she is going to watch the baby 2 days a week (“I’ll just sleep at your house on Sunday and Monday nights!”), and when I gently told her thanks, but that wasn’t realistic for a few reasons (mostly that’d I’d trust my child with squirrels over her, never mind that I’d rather be homeless than have her live with me 2.5 days a week) she sulked for the remainder of the day. So, she remains consistent in her total self-involvement.

My nieces were thrilled at least, and beyond an initial "great, now I need to redo my will" from my Dad he seemed decently happy for us.

[5kcandlesinthewind]

Hugs scm1011 . I'm sorry she turned such a happy thing into something all about her. I'm glad your nieces are excited about their cousin-to-be - focus on that, and fuck everyone else who can't see past their own nose to be excited for you. There are SO MANY people who are delighted for you and your husband - including basically an entire forum who are rooting for you. 

[scm1011]

Mar 28, 2016 10:09:01 GMT -5 5kcandlesinthewind said:

Hugs scm1011 . I'm sorry she turned such a happy thing into something all about her. I'm glad your nieces are excited about their cousin-to-be - focus on that, and fuck everyone else who can't see past their own nose to be excited for you. There are SO MANY people who are delighted for you and your husband - including basically an entire forum who are rooting for you. 

Thanks so much (heart)

[pinkroses]

scm1011, I'm sorry your mom's reaction was less than ideal. Good for you for setting up boundaries ASAP. My mom also offered to babysit for me, but she doesn't drive and lives 30 minutes away from me, never mind her being physically incapable of caring for an infant. Feel free to PM me if you want to chat. I'm glad you were able to share the happy news with your nieces, and that they're excited about their cousin!

[scm1011]

Thanks, pinkroses, I appreciate it. My mother is essentially physically incapable as well (she has a host of diabetes and obesity-related issues, plus she works part time in a homeless shelter and is constantly picking up bronchitis/strep/colds). Basically even if I did trust her she'd be the least reliable babysitter ever.

[scm1011]

thanks, RockNVoll (heart)

Where did you guys end up traveling after the aborted Brussels trip??

[Awkward]

scm1011, Ugh, I'm sorry your mom could only react in a way that made it about her.

Your mother's reaction is pretty close to how my MIL is going to react when we're ready for kids. She's already talked about taking any future grandkids for 2 weeks in the summer. Lady, you literally have 18 cats, 12 dogs, and mobility issues. No.

[liveintheville]

scm1011 if it's any consolation when we told my FIL his reply was he wasn't ready to be a grandfather.

And to reiterate the rest of us are THRILLED for you!

[bostonmichelle]

scm1011 sorry your mom didn't have the best reaction. I'm glad your nieces are excited though. I cannot wait to see you this summer and hopefully meet your little one in December when I come back again.

[scm1011]

Mar 28, 2016 15:01:47 GMT -5 Awkward said:

scm1011 , Ugh, I'm sorry your mom could only react in a way that made it about her.

Your mother's reaction is pretty close to how my MIL is going to react when we're ready for kids. She's already talked about taking any future grandkids for 2 weeks in the summer. Lady, you literally have 18 cats, 12 dogs, and mobility issues. No.

 Good gravy.

Thanks for the love everyone; I'm so thankful for you all (heart)  

[les]

Mar 23, 2016 11:12:37 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

elfinia7 and les , I'd love some sort of trip report if you guys are up for writing it!

Sorry for the super delayed response! I've been a zombie lately with my rotating work schedule. 

Iceland was amazing! I definitely recommend it for anyone who likes the outdoors as a vacation destination. Highlights of the trip were glacier hiking, horseback riding, hot springs, geysers, and waterfalls. The food was also unexpectedly delicious. We had lots of seafood and lamb, which are their primary protein sources. 

[drloretta]

scm1011, sorry it didn't go as well as you hoped, but at least you were prepared. We had the opposite issue--MIL has similar mobility issues, but when she did visit she stated "I don't change diapers" and refused to go upstairs with DD for any reason. it's gotten somewhat better as she's gotten older. It's just never fun for the reality to clash with what you're hoping for.

As the others have said, we're all over this, so we can cover the excitement aspect no problem.

[les]

Mar 31, 2016 16:42:15 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Mar 31, 2016 12:48:21 GMT -5 les said:

Sorry for the super delayed response! I've been a zombie lately with my rotating work schedule. 

Iceland was amazing! I definitely recommend it for anyone who likes the outdoors as a vacation destination. Highlights of the trip were glacier hiking, horseback riding, hot springs, geysers, and waterfalls. The food was also unexpectedly delicious. We had lots of seafood and lamb, which are their primary protein sources. 

I miss you around here, hope you're doing well overall.  Is there a light at the end of the tunnel for this brutal schedule or will it be like this for a while?

So glad you had a great Iceland trip!  And I'm excited to hear about the delicious food!

I miss you too! I'm great, just not doing a great job of keeping up with the rest of the world since my work/sleep schedule is so erratic. I don't expect that to change soon, but I might ask to go per diem this fall so I can reduce my hours and choose which shifts I work.

[les]

Apr 4, 2016 8:07:59 GMT -5 RockNVoll said:

Apr 4, 2016 7:57:37 GMT -5 les said:

I miss you too! I'm great, just not doing a great job of keeping up with the rest of the world since my work/sleep schedule is so erratic. I don't expect that to change soon, but I might ask to go per diem this fall so I can reduce my hours and choose which shifts I work.

So glad to hear you're doing well.  I can't imagine having such an unpredictable schedule; the Type A in me would go nuts.  I hope you figure out a plan that works for you and lets you have more predictable, regular free time.

At some point I need to hear more about your bf too

Thanks! I'm hopeful that once I become a nurse practitioner I'll have a much more normal schedule.

My BF is great! We just hit the six-month mark and I'm really happy. I should be meeting his family sometime this summer. Let's catch up more in private soon!