Post by VeryViolet on Mar 27, 2016 19:47:41 GMT -5
I am having a hard time answering because I feel like I have been more than buzzed but not wasted in front of my kid. I think I just don't want to select the drunk option because it would make me feel like a bad mom.
Also, I cannot imagine how paranoid I would be if I was stoned in front of my kid. I would probably just die on the spot. "I think he is looking at me weird, he knows, it is up...did he just say brownie?!?!?! He is thinking about a pot brownie because he is two and knows I am high" Then my head would explode. I don't react well to pot in my 30s. LOL
I've always been functional around DS- which means I've been buzzed but not drunk. I'm old and honestly, if I know Ihave to wake up the next morning and have to parent, I'm always cautious of how much I drink.
I actually don't drink when I have DDs, even if we're home. I think it's due to the fact that I'm old and don't recover as well as I used to and I don't want to deal with being a parent while nursing a hangover.
I've always been functional around DS- which means I've been buzzed but not drunk. I'm old and honestly, if I know Ihave to wake up the next morning and have to parent, I'm always cautious of how much I drink.
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
To answer the poll, no kids, but my dog has seen me drunk a LOT.
LOL same! She gets confused sometimes if I come home and lay down on the floor to cuddle her while I'm drunk.
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
Really? I wouldn't even have 1 drink and drive. We do Uber,Lyft, or ride bikes if we go out. I absolutely would have my teenager pick me up if she didn't have plans. I am a long way off from having a child old enough to drive, but I think it's setting a good example to not get behind the wheel after having alcohol.
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
Really? I wouldn't even have 1 drink and drive. We do Uber,Lyft, or ride bikes if we go out. I absolutely would have my teenager pick me up if she didn't have plans. I am a long way off from having a child old enough to drive, but I think it's setting a good example to not get behind the wheel after having alcohol.
I got piss drunk in grad school, and I had to ride my bike back to my apartment (Lincoln Park to Uptown for the Chicago folks), and I'm lucky to be alive. That was a huge mistake, especially without a helmet.
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
My parents used me as DD when I got my license until I turned 21 basically. I have a lot of things I don't think my parents did the way I would want to do (particularly related to alcohol) but this doesn't even crack the top 10. My parents without question always would come pick me up so I had a safe way home. I think seeing that your parents make safe decisions about drinking and driving isn't a bad thing.
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
This is so odd, as I think we were allowed to be volunteer Safe Ride drivers at that age. I'm pretty sure late high school and college age young adults know that their parents drink. I'd see the above as appropriate transparency in modeling preferable behavior.
Once in awhile, sure. But my 16 yo niece has to drive my sister home and put her drunk ass to bed once a week or so. That is not definitely not modeling preferable behavior.
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
I mean, yeah people shouldn't use their children to drive them around in their drunken escapades but there's quite a spectrum between teetotaler and "I taught my kid to drive solely for the purpose of carting my drunk ass around."
Another no kids person. But my mom taught me to get her a beer from the fridge when I was about 2/3. So...alcohol is definitely a member of the family.
I don't have children, but I remember my mom getting drunk once at what was at the time a very fancy 6 course dinner. She was just extra silly. I am, in fact, not scarred for life, and what I remember most was dad driving because "mom drank a lot of wine" and stopping to get her water at the gas station. That in and of itself was a good lesson.
As an adult, I've seen my mom drunk several times. I'm usually tipsy, too, and we have a lot of fun together (usually playing board games---W.I.L.D.)
I don't have kids, but I do have several acquaintances who rely on their 17-20 y.o. 'children' to be the DD for them and their friends every weekend under the statement that the children own it to them.
I judge them.
I don't really go around saying "I wouldn't do that if I had kids" , but it would be a sad shameful day for me when I had to call my 19 y.o to come get my ass at the bar.
Oh, shit. I totally forgot about this. When I was 19, I was home from college and went out for Mexican food with my parents and their friends. I was the DD. The four of them ordered 3 pitchers of margaritas (so, not a ton of alcohol per person, but enough.) I drove my mom's SUV home with my mom and dad in the back seat taxi-style. They were both tipsy, and when I pulled into the driveway, my dad teased, "Take it around the block once more, baby! I'm trying to get to second base with your mom!"
I'd like to say that I'm super grossed out, but, at this point (and even a little then) I was happy they still liked each other so much (and that they didn't actually make out in the back seat!) Now every weekend? That'd be an entirely different story...
Post by AHappierHour on Mar 27, 2016 21:37:37 GMT -5
Yes they have seen me drunk ( not fallen down drunk ) at big family events or special occasions.
My bunco group will use the teenagers to drop off/pickup up and we each pay them $5 bucks. Sometimes DS1 has made $30. We aren't wasted and or out late.
Post by lilmissladybug on Mar 28, 2016 0:23:41 GMT -5
Yes, puking & falling down the stairs drunk both in the same night. Not my finest moment, and it's been a long time since I've been that drunk. I've been tipsy around them many times though.
Post by rupertpenny on Mar 28, 2016 1:00:10 GMT -5
B has probably seen me drunk before and I don't care. This really just does not seem like a big deal to me.*
*i feel like I have to add disclaimers like she's never seen me falling down or throwing up, blah blah blah. I also think I probably have a different definition of drunk than a lot of people here.
Just a bit buzzed, I think 2 glasses of wine is the most I've had. If I'm around the kids the kids are generally underfoot and following me around like puppy dogs, and I wouldn't trust myself to be around them with any real amount of alcohol in my system. Dh was drunk around them once. It was a stupid (kind of dangerous) error. He'd been painting the basement for several hours and had a few beers.... And forgot to open any windows. So he was kind of a high/drunken mess.