any shared account memberships after divorce?

[Deleted]

A thread on another board got me thinking...

Do you still have access or does your X to any accounts or memberships that could easily be blocked?

I control the Netflix account and the Costco account.  I know X still uses them.  I could easily block him.  He'd be really irritated but probably too lazy to set up his own accounts.

I can't think of anything I use that he could block me from.

[cuddlyevil]

Nope. We did share a sam's club membership but I got my own after we moved out.

[bg]

No. It actually made me feel pretty good to open all of my own accounts/memberships.

[pinkdutchtulips]

No ... I got my own accts

Eta - even when we were married we rarely shared anything. Utilities were all in his name, phones were on separate plans, Netflix was in my name .. the only thing we shared was car insurance but when he relapsed a 3rd time, I dropped him. Sharing accts would have been an effing nightmare - no thank you !

[sweetchix]

No. But for some reason my email address is set up for a grocery store savings card in his name. I' pretty sure it's not the active one he uses.

[housewife]

I use his Netflix and gave him the info for my Hulu.

[thedutchgirl]

No. That wouldn't work for us.

[jenstar]

I still have a Costco card for our joint account.. He doesn't use it really, which I know because I've paid the membership fee two years in a row and last time it was pretty overdue.. I was stupid though, I should have just set up my own new account the last time since now he'll prob want to put his new gf on there now..

We also had a video store membership but they're closing down now so that saves me changing it

[dancelnow]

Our plan for now is to share Costco and Sam's and we each renew one. I haven't cut him off Netflix yet or cell phone plan. We have joint kid expenses so I just put them on that list. Haven't figured out how to do audible or digital movie accounts. Oh yeah, and Amazon prime. Yup, still share a lot.

[Deleted]

I moved out of the house and 1.5 hours later my car insurance company called to tell me I had been kicked off my husband's car insurance. He also closed our joint account around the same time. He wouldn't sign over my phone line to me so I ported it over to a different cellphone company and then switched it back 34 hours later but in my name. He was just a controlling A hole because he then had to pay cancellation fees on the phone plan instead of me assuming the contract. Idiot.
So in short, no we share nothing. I cleared off all devices on hulu and changed the password on netflix. I want nothing to do with him.

[Deleted]

I'd never continue to share something after a breakup/divorce.  I mean Costco until it expired, whatever, that's fine--then renew alone.  But cellphone or netflix and the like...no way!!!

[TR]

We had some things combined throughout our one year separation, but nothing after the divorce.

[Linie]

My STBXH granted me online access to one of his bank accounts years ago (we had separate finances) and he doesn't remember this. I will not do anything with this, but at least it allowed me to check a payment to me last week.

[somersault72]

We were still on the same car insurance until this month. We've been divorced 5 years. He gave me money for his part and I paid the bill.

[esdreturns]

I let my Ex use my Netflix. Really, only the kids watch it when they are with him.

[doglove]

No shared anything.

[sacattack]

I have his netflix account and showtime. The kids mostly use netflix - I watch showtime. :-)

[riverpestie]

Nothing is shared with my X husband, but I did get a call a couple of months ago for him and I told them I haven't spoken to the man since 2007. They seemed shocked, as was I. Who were they and why did they still have us "linked" together. Once I told them we were divorced, they hung up.

[doriswe]

The first almost year after the divorce I had to log into XH's account to pay the mortgage. The mortgage and his credit card were at the same place. So every month I could see how he was using his credit card to pay for luxurious things for his girlfriend. In a few months time, he racked up almost $10,000 worth of credit card debt wining and dining her!

[Jillaroo]

I'm still on my ex's Costco. I was planning to get my own when it expired, but then he renewed it. He doesn't mind and I don't care if he could somehow had access to my purchase history there. I get a lot of stuff there for DD, so I think that is why he wants to have me on his account.

But if he doesn't renew at some point or decides that he wants me off it wouldn't be an issue.

[FormerlyRR]

Apr 10, 2016 18:33:03 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

No. It's $9.99/mo, not worth seeing what any ex is watching after we break up.

In that vein, I took my extra Amazon Fire Stick to my BF's house, and keep getting the video recommendations "based on my viewing history" and it's so funny. He watches war stuff, and his kids watch Bubble Guppies, cartoons, Lego things and downloaded a few kid games to play. I die laughing every time I get the email.  

[jigsy]

I took great pleasure in changing the password to my Netflix...In reality it probably wasn't a big deal, but he would never deal with that sort of thing, so it made me feel smug that he wouldn't be able to watch pawn stars unexpectedly. LOL.

[GilliC]

Yes! He had crazy platinum status for his local cinema account, so if I used his account number, I didn't have to pay extra for premium seats and got a discount at the concession stand! It was a win-win, because as long as I was using his account, he got points for my purchases, which helped him continue to qualify him for platinum status. I didn't really care about redeeming the points, since I don't go to the movies that often. Technically, my answer is "not any more," because he moved out of the country last summer, so his account is back to basic level, and I finally opened my own.

I got my own Spotify account right after I moved out. I still had a few iPhone apps from his account, but eventually he changed his password and I couldn't update them anymore, so I've repurchased the ones I really wanted to keep.

Bank accounts on the other hand? I cannot get my name off them, because it requires him to do paperwork. I still get Bank of America statements, even though I wrote up a letter stating that I would like it to be closed and the money transferred to him, because he can't be bothered to go close the account. Someday this is going to screw me.

[Deleted]

Apr 12, 2016 16:55:35 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I took great pleasure in changing the password to my Netflix...In reality it probably wasn't a big deal, but he would never deal with that sort of thing, so it made me feel smug that he wouldn't be able to watch pawn stars unexpectedly. LOL.

This is so me.   I might be really tempted if I see he's all engrossed in some series.  He's so clueless he probably assumes it's part of his cable package or something.

[moreace01]

Apr 10, 2016 14:43:37 GMT -5 housewife said:

I use his Netflix and gave him the info for my Hulu.

Funny. We do the same. 

[jellymankelly]

He has my Netflix log-in, I think, but I don't think he uses it. My kids are already logged in on their iPads when they get to his place, and I don't know that he'd use the Netflix on his own. I also shared my Prime shipping benefits with him when the kids gave him an Amazon gift card for his birthday a few years ago. He still has the benefit, but I don't know if he uses it.