Thursday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

I found out last night through my sister that my dad (who a little over a year ago had blood clots with pulmonary embolism) became light-headed in the middle of the night while using the restroom and on his way back to bed he passed out! He hit his head and shoulder during the fall, and his shoulder seems really hurt. And for some reason, HE DIDN'T CALL THE DOCTOR NOR WAS HE EXAMINED BY A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. OMG. He had a major medical scare not that long ago and he doesn't see the need to let his doctor know about this? I sent him a text early this morning saying he better call and make an appointment asap or else I was going to do it for him. And naturally, my mother offered one of her morphine patches as a solution to his shoulder pain. NO MOM. My parents are going to be the death of me. As I do my best to keep them healthy and alive, they are going to kill me from stress!

I have to run tonight and make dinner so I have lunch for the rest of the week, but I feel exhausted and all I can think about is going home to sleep.

[stephreloaded]

Apr 14, 2016 10:35:53 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I found out last night through my sister that my dad (who a little over a year ago had blood clots with pulmonary embolism) became light-headed in the middle of the night while using the restroom and on his way back to bed he passed out! He hit his head and shoulder during the fall, and his shoulder seems really hurt. And for some reason, HE DIDN'T CALL THE DOCTOR NOR WAS HE EXAMINED BY A MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL. OMG. He had a major medical scare not that long ago and he doesn't see the need to let his doctor know about this? I sent him a text early this morning saying he better call and make an appointment asap or else I was going to do it for him. And naturally, my mother offered one of her morphine patches as a solution to his shoulder pain. NO MOM. My parents are going to be the death of me. As I do my best to keep them healthy and alive, they are going to kill me from stress!

I have to run tonight and make dinner so I have lunch for the rest of the week, but I feel exhausted and all I can think about is going home to sleep.

I hope your dad gets better!! That is really scary. 

[stephreloaded]

I feel like this is my random lately but I feel tired. Work is crazy, school is crazy so I feel like I have no energy AT ALL. I have a project to do for Saturday and I just keep changing my mind on the product that I need to use.

I am also being the worst mom in the world. DD has had to stay at my parents several days this week so I can make my deadlines and whenever I am with her, I am too tired to interact with her.

On the positive side, I had my performance evaluation yesterday and it went very well!

[1confused1]

Apr 14, 2016 16:28:47 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

I feel like this is my random lately but I feel tired. Work is crazy, school is crazy so I feel like I have no energy AT ALL. 

I could have written this same exact thing.  I don't know what my issue is.

[3dogdays]

I haven't posted much lately but I'm really struggling to stay positive thru this divorce.

It feels like my ex is getting "everything" he wants. No reasponsibilties, new girlfriend who's the 'love of his life', vacations etc, while I'm in a new apartment, taking care of my daughter 24/7, working, upset, depressed, angry and alone.

he's doing all the stuff I wanted and asked of him for he new girl- spending time with her, taking her out, not working 24/7, taking days off work, affection, gifts, etc. everytime I asked for that he always had an excuse. Now I realize he just didn't want to do it for me and that hurts. Why wasn't I good enough?

Everyone tells me he an ass or something along those lines, I'll find someone new, I'll be better off in the long run, it takes time, etc. I know all of that but damn it I want something now.

[bg]

Apr 14, 2016 19:07:05 GMT -5 3dogdays said:

I haven't posted much lately but I'm really struggling to stay positive thru this divorce.

It feels like my ex is getting "everything" he wants. No reasponsibilties, new girlfriend who's the 'love of his life', vacations etc, while I'm in a new apartment, taking care of my daughter 24/7, working, upset, depressed, angry and alone.

he's doing all the stuff I wanted and asked of him for he new girl- spending time with her, taking her out, not working 24/7, taking days off work, affection, gifts, etc. everytime I asked for that he always had an excuse. Now I realize he just didn't want to do it for me and that hurts. Why wasn't I good enough?

Everyone tells me he an ass or something along those lines, I'll find someone new, I'll be better off in the long run, it takes time, etc. I know all of that but damn it I want something now.

I'm still in this place/headspace a decent amount of the time too, minus the daughter. Are you journaling? I find it helpful sometimes just to get it all out. Also, focusing on the fact that I'm getting through this the healthy way helps a bit too. But I totally hear you on the 'wanting something now' thing!!!

[liubot]

I'm exhausted. About 10 of us from school volunteered to do updo's at a pre-prom event for under privledged high school students. We did over 300 clients in 6 hours. It was so fun but exhausting! I'm pretty much set to sleep well tonight.

[alleinesein]

Im irrationally irked about a message I got on POF. I sent a very basic "hi, how are you" type message to someone and the response I got back was "thanks for the interest but its not mutual". Um...a grown ass adult (38) sent that as a reply. Is it that hard to just, I don't know, not respond to someone who you aren't interested in?!?! I really wish there were less douchebags in the dating pool out here.

[sweetchix]

Apr 15, 2016 0:31:26 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Im irrationally irked about a message I got on POF. I sent a very basic "hi, how are you" type message to someone and the response I got back was "thanks for the interest but its not mutual". Um...a grown ass adult (38) sent that as a reply. Is it that hard to just, I don't know, not respond to someone who you aren't interested in?!?! I really wish there were less douchebags in the dating pool out here.

Maybe he thought sending that message was better than no message at all? There was a time when I tried to reply to every message, even if I wasn't interested in them, to not be rude. But, that ended fast and I started just ignoring and deleting those.

[Deleted]

I'm with sweetchix his message doesn't sound that douchey just that he tries to reply. I did the same thing at first.

[TR]

Apr 14, 2016 19:07:05 GMT -5 3dogdays said:

he's doing all the stuff I wanted and asked of him for he new girl- spending time with her, taking her out, not working 24/7, taking days off work, affection, gifts, etc. everytime I asked for that he always had an excuse. Now I realize he just didn't want to do it for me and that hurts. Why wasn't I good enough?

Remember that this is a new relationship, I bet he did those things for you at first, too. It has nothing to do with you not being good enough. I'm sorry you're hurting.

[TR]

Apr 15, 2016 0:31:26 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Im irrationally irked about a message I got on POF. I sent a very basic "hi, how are you" type message to someone and the response I got back was "thanks for the interest but its not mutual". Um...a grown ass adult (38) sent that as a reply. Is it that hard to just, I don't know, not respond to someone who you aren't interested in?!?! I really wish there were less douchebags in the dating pool out here.

That's not douchey at all, that was a very neutral response. I'd rather have that than no response at all.

[bl]

@3dogdays I was in your exact shoes after separating with my ex. She was getting this new amazing version of him I had begged him to be for years, and it felt so unfair. They were also brand new, and new relationship are when you put your best foot forward and it feels all new and shiny. We had 10 years of baggage, so I had to stop comparing, but I understand what you are feeling and I am sorry you're going through it.

alleinesein I agree I don't think that was douchey, sadly there is nothing a guy can do that will please everyone. Many will not appreciate that response, while others will think ignoring is rude too.

[cuddlyevil]

Apr 15, 2016 7:59:08 GMT -5 TR said:

Apr 15, 2016 0:31:26 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Im irrationally irked about a message I got on POF. I sent a very basic "hi, how are you" type message to someone and the response I got back was "thanks for the interest but its not mutual". Um...a grown ass adult (38) sent that as a reply. Is it that hard to just, I don't know, not respond to someone who you aren't interested in?!?! I really wish there were less douchebags in the dating pool out here.

That's not douchey at all, that was a very neutral response. I'd rather have that than no response at all.

*sits next to TR*

I'd rather receive a "thanks, but no thanks" than no reply at all. 

[doglove]

Apr 15, 2016 7:59:08 GMT -5 TR said:

Apr 15, 2016 0:31:26 GMT -5 alleinesein said:

Im irrationally irked about a message I got on POF. I sent a very basic "hi, how are you" type message to someone and the response I got back was "thanks for the interest but its not mutual". Um...a grown ass adult (38) sent that as a reply. Is it that hard to just, I don't know, not respond to someone who you aren't interested in?!?! I really wish there were less douchebags in the dating pool out here.

That's not douchey at all, that was a very neutral response. I'd rather have that than no response at all.

Ditto. I get really frustrated sending out a gazillion messages and getting NO response. Did you get it? Are you not interested? Have you already found someone? Whatever the case, I can handle it, but I think no response is douchey. 

[FormerlyRR]

Apr 15, 2016 8:44:31 GMT -5 cuddlyevil said:

Apr 15, 2016 7:59:08 GMT -5 TR said:

That's not douchey at all, that was a very neutral response. I'd rather have that than no response at all.

*sits next to TR *

I'd rather receive a "thanks, but no thanks" than no reply at all. 

My answer every time I wasn't interested was "thanks for the interest, but I don't think we are a match" and I rarely got any flak over it. A few thanked me for responding, but mostly they just left me alone. 
Funny tho, TL was one of the ones I panned. His response was equally polite, somewhat lengthy, intriguing, and caught my attention. 

[arielroux]

About a month or so ago, I was weaned off my anxiety meds. I had started taking them a few years ago during a really awful time at work where I was having panic attacks from stress, and exH and I were having a lot of issues at home. Well, I'm in a different job now, and no longer with exH so I wanted to see if maybe I didn't need the meds anymore.

Ugh, I think I need them. For the past couple weeks I think my anxiety has been manifesting itself as anger. I'm constantly angry, crying a lot, extremely stressed out. And the thing that I hate is that I don't know if it's because I'm just going through a really stressful time at work (which I am), or if it's because I need the medication. I'm fine when I'm at home as far as the anger goes...I do the crying at home. I'm completely fine when I'm with my friends, or with BF. It's at work that I honestly feel like I'm going to hulk smash everyone and everything.

I set up an appointment with a new counselor (I didn't like the style of my last one, and this new one came highly recommended by a family member in the field), and I cannot wait to get in for that appointment next week. I'd love to stay off the meds if I can, but I'm just not sure that's possible. I'm disappointed and frustrated right now.

[alleinesein]

I'm in the don't respond if you aren't interested camp. I get so very few responses back and the majority of the ones I get are negative so I would prefer that guys just delete and move on if they aren't interested. I hate seeing the message notification only to open it up and see a rejection; I get enough of that shit on a daily basis in my job search.

[jenstar]

I dunno, I feel like I would rather have no reply either, but that's also because I don't reply to people who I'm not interested in.. Maybe I'm just rude ?

XH asked me this morning if we could trade some weekends for weeknights coming up because they have so much to organize to sell his girlfriends house across town now that she's moved in with him and she doesn't get any time off blah blah.. I would help except I have to move in less than a month and I need my weekends to organize that..

I honestly think his girlfriend can't be that bright.. Apart from getting knocked up in record time she's also ok with rehoming one of her dogs and selling her house and moving over an house away for someone she's known all of 5 mins.. It's good though, xh needs someone not too smart who's happy with a nice car and the odd nice holiday (with the worlds worst traveller!) but doesn't need anything else from a partner..

[statlerwaldorf]

Apr 14, 2016 19:07:05 GMT -5 3dogdays said:

I haven't posted much lately but I'm really struggling to stay positive thru this divorce.

It feels like my ex is getting "everything" he wants. No reasponsibilties, new girlfriend who's the 'love of his life', vacations etc, while I'm in a new apartment, taking care of my daughter 24/7, working, upset, depressed, angry and alone.

he's doing all the stuff I wanted and asked of him for he new girl- spending time with her, taking her out, not working 24/7, taking days off work, affection, gifts, etc. everytime I asked for that he always had an excuse. Now I realize he just didn't want to do it for me and that hurts. Why wasn't I good enough?

Everyone tells me he an ass or something along those lines, I'll find someone new, I'll be better off in the long run, it takes time, etc. I know all of that but damn it I want something now.

It is so hard. My ex moved straight from our house to his mistress' dad's house. I was a SAHM and she makes a lot of money. With her income and no bills since they are living with her dad rent free, he is able to go on vacations and expensive dinners and everything else we really didn't have the money to do.

It gets better. It's a brand new relationship and no relationship stays all sunshine and rainbows for long. Plus you never know what's going on behind closed doors. My ex was abusive, but would post on Facebook about how I was the love of his life and that kind of stupid stuff.