Because it's been slow-WWYD

[jojoandleo]

Soooo, remember the obnoxious girl who is friends with MH that CRIED when H told her he was moving to, ya know, LIVE WITH HIS WIFE!?! So, we haven't seen her since then because, why would we? Well, it's MH's best friend's birthday this weekend and she is invited, too. She is "maybe" coming.  If she does come, would you ignore her?  Talk to her about the issue?  Just play nice and pretend there is no issue as it's someone's birthday?

[1confused1]

I vote ignore her and enjoy the party.

[jojoandleo]

Apr 21, 2016 15:47:45 GMT -5 1confused1 said:

I vote ignore her and enjoy the party.

This is my plan. Like, if she approaches me (which I doubt she will because she is a pansy), just be polite, but get away ASAP. Like, "Oh, I'm sorry, I have to take this pretend phone call from the president."

[glitzyglow]

I would play nice.

Although, if you watch New Girl, I've always thought about how satisfying it would be to purposefully get someone's name wrong just to be spiteful like Jess did in Season 1 when they go to the wedding. "Carol Lee? Cara Lou? Coraline?" (Caroline was the girl's name, lol). Like you see this girl, let's say Jessica...you say, "Oh, hey Jenna! How are you?" and then later, "Don't you agree Jennica?" I would never nor do I encourage you to do it, but it brings satisfaction thinking about it. (devil)

[jojoandleo]

Apr 21, 2016 16:23:58 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I would play nice.

Although, if you watch New Girl, I've always thought about how satisfying it would be to purposefully get someone's name wrong just to be spiteful like Jess did in Season 1 when they go to the wedding. "Carol Lee? Cara Lou? Coraline?" (Caroline was the girl's name, lol). Like you see this girl, let's say Jessica...you say, "Oh, hey Jenna! How are you?" and then later, "Don't you agree Jennica?" I would never nor do I encourage you to do it, but it brings satisfaction thinking about it. (devil)

Reasons I am a terrible person: I always think up "jellyfish" comments for people I have to play nice with but dislike. Like, "Oh, wow! You changed your hair! I would never have the nerve to be so...creative." "I love how you just don't care how you look in public!  That must be so freeing!"  I'd never do it, because I'm not going to tear down my fellow woman, but, ummm, I do think about it because <--- bitch.

[Deleted]

I want more backstory. Just because. Obviously she was crushing on your H.

[jojoandleo]

Apr 21, 2016 17:27:48 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I want more backstory. Just because. Obviously she was crushing on your H.

She and MH have been friends for years, and I never really had a problem with her. She wasn't my cup of tea, but she was fine to hang with socially. (She's one of those girls who talks about how "bro" she is and has more guys friends because she "isn't girly-which, ugh, WTF is girly?  Girly is whatever you want it to be.)  Anyway, she has a boyfriend, and he HATES MH.  And it's not really on MH.  Like, she would come to him about problems and he would loan her money or some other shit, and the BF got pissed saying MH needed to ask HIM before loaning money.  Which, weird.  But the real problem was her coming to MH BEFORE her BF.  This made me head tilt a bit, but, meh.  Sometimes I go to my friends first. (EDIT: I feel I should add MH always told me all this and talked to me before loaning money, so, like I said, not really a problem with MH.  He wasn't doing anything behind anyone's back or trying to step on toes.  He didn't even know the BF didn't know.)

It all really started when I got a job in a city 2 hours away from where we lived (ALLLLLL discussed with MH and how much $$ to move and all this shit-caused a super strain on my marriage which almost led to separation, but we had a long talk and have come around stronger than ever).  Well, shortly after that happened, I made my FB profile pic a pic of me and one of my BFFs (who happens to be male AND GAY).  He is hugging me from behind and I am in a weird stance.  Anyway, she went to MH at a dinner with a bunch of other people (that I was not at) all, "Why is Jojo's picture a pic of another guy humping her?"  Then apparently they all talked about me and how "weird" it was, implying something nefarious.  It really hurt my feelings and was the start of my disliking her.

So MH and I had the come to Jesus talk, and we confirm a date for finally having him move up here and were doing great.  Keep in mind, I moved here in September and this was February?  March?  So about 6 months of living apart.  So, we went to her birthday party.  Well, he mentions to her BF (who again, HATES MH) about us moving.  We thought nothing of it, because, well, why WOULDN'T he move?  It didn't seem like something that needed an announcement.  Well, BF RUNS to the girl to tell her about the move.  Girl starts CRYING.  She tells him he can't move.  He can't leave her.  She CAN'T BELIEVE HE IS DOING THIS TO HER.  It really upset me because, why wouldn't she be HAPPY his marriage is working out and he is moving to be WITH HIS WIFE!?!  I have been living here 6 months!  Why would she think he wasn't moving?  He had already quit his job (which she knew), we had already had a realtor come look at the house (which she knew), soooo, WHAT?

To ME, this all just showed what a non-entity I am to her.  Like, she just thought he was never going to live with his wife?  We would divorce?  I laid into MH too, asking what he had said to her to make her think this, but he honestly was baffled.  Anyway, we left when this happened and haven't talked to her since.  LOL.

[jigsy]

Kick her teeth in.

[Deleted]

People can be so bizarre. Truly.

[jojoandleo]

Apr 21, 2016 17:52:54 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

People can be so bizarre. Truly.

It was seriously bizarre. I don't know if she was crushing on MH, or if she just really craves male attention and was sad she was losing his. It actually was good for my marriage, though. Because when it happened and I was all, "nope, I am not okay with that. I feel uncomfortable" he immediately was like, "Alright, let's go." When I explained why it made me uncomfy he understood, took my side, and was pretty awesome. So, whatever. I don't care if they stay friends, because I trust MH, but I feel she owes me an apology for telling MH he can't move to live with his wife. I'll probably never get one, so I am going to just move on. BUT, she is BEC to me right now.

[jojoandleo]

Apr 21, 2016 17:49:09 GMT -5 jigsy said:

Kick her teeth in.

I only have one good leg! Maybe I'll just carve "bitch" into her car, instead. 

She really is just BEC to me right now.  I'll probably get over it.  Sometime in the next 5 years.  Give or take.

[sparkythelawyer]

Apr 21, 2016 17:41:09 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Apr 21, 2016 17:27:48 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I want more backstory. Just because. Obviously she was crushing on your H.

To ME, this all just showed what a non-entity I am to her how much she wants to hump my husband..  

FTFY

[Linie]

Apr 21, 2016 16:23:58 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I would play nice.

Although, if you watch New Girl, I've always thought about how satisfying it would be to purposefully get someone's name wrong just to be spiteful like Jess did in Season 1 when they go to the wedding. "Carol Lee? Cara Lou? Coraline?" (Caroline was the girl's name, lol). Like you see this girl, let's say Jessica...you say, "Oh, hey Jenna! How are you?" and then later, "Don't you agree Jennica?" I would never nor do I encourage you to do it, but it brings satisfaction thinking about it. (devil)

This is a know (dirty) negotiation trick: always address your opponent with a wrong name: it makes them crazy and exclusively focused on this so that they are ready to sign the worst deals! Works like a charm (yes, I'm evil)...

As for the OP, I would try to be the light of the party and only smile to her. Best revenge is success.

Good luck!

[stephreloaded]

Even if she didn't have a crush on your husband, I imagine she is a very shitty friend. Instead of focusing on the benefits this will bring to him, she is crying because this will affect HER. That is really narcissistic. If I were your husband, I would drop her.

[cuddlyevil]

Honestly? I wouldn't go out of my way to interact with her, but if we crossed paths I would say hello and keep moving.

[fernweh]

I would ignore her. If she initiates contact first, play nice as it is someone else's birthday.

[mommadukes]

ignore - but holy hell on the backstory. must have missed that before. she sounds like a nut job

[jojoandleo]

Apr 22, 2016 9:33:22 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

Even if she didn't have a crush on your husband, I imagine she is a very shitty friend. Instead of focusing on the benefits this will bring to him, she is crying because this will affect HER. That is really narcissistic. If I were your husband, I would drop her.

He hasn't talked to her since that happened. They are in the same group of friends (veterans who do a lot of charity work), so I am sure he will at least stay friendly with her, but, yeah. It definitely opened his eyes to why she annoyed me.

mommadukes yeah.  It's weird as fuck.  There are some really crazy people in this group, but MH is a wounded veteran and loves the charity work, so, whatever.  He's moving away soon anyway.  Can find a new veterans group here, hopefully without as many issues.

[jojoandleo]

Oh, and I think my plan is to ignore. Be polite, but evasive if she approaches me.

[Mrs.Rad888]

Apr 21, 2016 16:23:58 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

I would play nice.

Although, if you watch New Girl, I've always thought about how satisfying it would be to purposefully get someone's name wrong just to be spiteful like Jess did in Season 1 when they go to the wedding. "Carol Lee? Cara Lou? Coraline?" (Caroline was the girl's name, lol). Like you see this girl, let's say Jessica...you say, "Oh, hey Jenna! How are you?" and then later, "Don't you agree Jennica?" I would never nor do I encourage you to do it, but it brings satisfaction thinking about it. (devil)

This remind me of a joke I read. 
As anyone who has watched or read Harry Potter knows, Dumbledore is always calling Voldemort by his birth name, Tom Riddle. If he really wanted to get under Voldemort's skin, he should have called him Tim Riddle. How scary could Voldemort have been, yelling "It's TOM Riddle! Wait, no, it's Voldemort!"

[sparkythelawyer]

Apr 22, 2016 13:42:09 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oh, and I think my plan is to ignore. Be polite, but evasive if she approaches me.

So how was the party?

[jojoandleo]

Apr 25, 2016 12:46:57 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

Apr 22, 2016 13:42:09 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Oh, and I think my plan is to ignore. Be polite, but evasive if she approaches me.

So how was the party?

It was a blast!  We drank beer and played minigolf.  I drank too much and MH had to play DD.

She didn't come because of her recent surgery.  I have no idea what that surgery was for, just that she has been posting on FB (including pic of her in hospital bed) about surgery and never saying what it was for. 

[sparkythelawyer]

Apr 25, 2016 12:51:33 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Apr 25, 2016 12:46:57 GMT -5 sparkythelawyer said:

So how was the party?

It was a blast!  We drank beer and played minigolf.  I drank too much and MH had to play DD.

She didn't come because of her recent surgery.  I have no idea what that surgery was for, just that she has been posting on FB (including pic of her in hospital bed) about surgery and never saying what it was for. 

She was probably hoping your husband would run to her aid or something :-)