Another eharmony question

[doglove]

So I bit the bullet and signed up over the weekend, I just can't deal with the free apps anymore and match was getting me no where. I figured I'd at least try it. 

Some dudes are cute and share similar interests, other dudes are just not physically attractive at all (am I being shallow??). So my question is when they start the back and forth questions, what do you do? Do you answer and go through the motions? There's not really an option of I don't think there's any attraction here.

Any other helpful hints are appreciated if you have anything else to add. 

[formerlyak]

If I remember correctly, if you aren't interested in someone you can "close" the match or something like that. Then you won't get the questions from them.

Remember pictures only show so much. I met a few who I was totally attracted to in the photos and then in person, not at all. It can go the other way, too. They look ok in the pictures, and then are super attractive when you start talking and meet. If their profile seems interesting, do the questions to see if they are worth meeting.

[jojoandleo]

Physical attraction just IS a part of dating. If you are nice and funny and I like being around you, you are my FRIEND. If all that and I want to fuck you, THEN you are relationship material. I had this guy try and argue with me once that looks should NEVER matter when you are dating (although, keep in mind this guy was really saying WOMEN shouldn't care, because he is always talking about wanting to date these really attractive girls) and I was like, sorry not sorry. Attraction is a part of dating. Blame biology, bro.

[redredwine]

one tip I've learned with eharmony as I did it two rounds: you have to rate yourself pretty high (as in, Yah, I look fucking amazing! I'm confident!) and you'll get paired with cuter guys. I remember round one where I rated myself how I really felt and got paired with "good on paper" (but not attractive). Round 2, I was like "I'm AMAZING!" and I got more attractive people. No models or anything, lol, but at least people who I felt like I was more attracted to. Super superficial, but hey, we're a looks based society.

I'm with mp - if I can't dig their photos, I'm likely not going to have magical attraction to them later. Physical attraction is important, let's face it. Luckily we have have different people we find attractive and the world goes around.

That being said, they can still be duds in person.
The question rounds are just a way to go through the motions. I didn't mind the open ended questions, I like making sure a person can form coherant sentences and also answer in a way that would compliment me, etc.

[bl]

When they would match me with guys who had something that I just couldn't get beyond in either their profile or their looks I would just do the equivalent of un-matching with them (I can't remember the exact terminology on eharm), but it makes it so your profile doesn't even show up to them. If I did get questions from someone that I am not interested in I just don't answer them. I don't think it is shallow as long as you aren't only okay with like a perfect 9 or 10.

[bl]

redredwine That is a good suggestion on how you rate yourself. I think I rated myself as pretty darn decent, but not amazing and I was not impressed with what I got paired with at.all, it was the worst of any site I used.

[doglove]

Apr 26, 2016 13:16:07 GMT -5 bl said:

When they would match me with guys who had something that I just couldn't get beyond in either their profile or their looks I would just do the equivalent of un-matching with them (I can't remember the exact terminology on eharm), but it makes it so your profile doesn't even show up to them. If I did get questions from someone that I am not interested in I just don't answer them. I don't think it is shallow as long as you aren't only okay with like a perfect 9 or 10.

I think you have to block them. And then you have to choose the option yourself to not be shown people who have blocked you - it seems kind of messed up. I haven't really looked into it though. 

[moreace01]

Apr 26, 2016 13:20:57 GMT -5 bl said:

redredwine That is a good suggestion on how you rate yourself. I think I rated myself as pretty darn decent, but not amazing and I was not impressed with what I got paired with at.all, it was the worst of any site I used.

Exactly this. And there's no way to change your rating later.