Terrific Tuesday

[bg]

Last night I found out I was legally single again as of late last week! After more than two years, I'm excited the divorce is final! So far I've just felt happiness/relief. I'm wondering if sadness will come soon as well.

I also have an interview today. I hope if there is sadness today it waits until after the interview!!

What good things are going on with you today?

[glitzyglow]

I'm leaving for NYC tomorrow!!!

I am a little stressed about getting everything ready to go tonight, but that's just a normal part of my nerves before any trip.

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That's awesome bg! I never felt any sadness, just relief. Good luck on your job interview!!!

I've been constantly exhausted lately. I think it's do to not really eating well and having a totally erratic sleep schedule. I'm hoping that today I can get back on track with all of that and feel better!

[bl]

bg yay! I am with pdx in that I never felt sadness, by the time it was final I had processed all the emotions and was just happy to be done with it.

glitzyglow yay for NYC, can't wait to hear about it.

Bf flies in tomorrow at 11:30 and vacation officially starts!!!

[Deleted]

Shit keeps piling on, but I just had the best Vietnamese so I'm just trying to focus on the positive. Jesus be a fast 10 days of these antibiotics so I can get back to drinking.

[doglove]

I guess it depends on the person bg. When I heard the news I was legally divorced, I felt a lot of relief. When I received the official papers in the mail, I cried over them.

[doglove]

I have a pretty decent match on eharmony. We're onto the email/communicate part and I like him a lot already. I'm trying not to get my hopes up since we haven't met in person. I know that will make/break it. Blah.

[jojoandleo]

My sister had a baby yesterday! I am exhausted because I couldn't sleep Sunday night, then spent 6 hours at the hospital watching my nephew while my sister had a baby, then drove 5 1/2 hours to my husband last night, and 2 hours this morning into work. I need a nap. But I am super happy for my sister! And I was the first person in our family (besides my sister and her H) to hold the baby! She was soooo cute! I will admit, it made me have a touch of baby fever. When I held her and she stopped crying, I felt like a superhero in that moment. LOL.

[brooke77]

I feel like I'm doing pretty well with saving money lately. It has been difficult adjusting my spending habits and living on a budget, but I think I'm finally getting the hang of it. I'm starting to rebuild my savings and I'm really proud of myself!

[Linie]

My STBXH agreed to sign the divorce papers on 24 May. We won't be divorced before August I guess, and we still need to sell the house but at least it's a first step!

[itsmyparty]

My stbxh and I have agreed on a settlement, now we just need the lawyers to get the wording right (we've had to make several rounds of edits on both sides). It's good news, a relief...but man, it's hitting me now that this is almost done. My marriage is almost done. I've been wanting this for more than a year, but now that it's almost done, I'm sad. Damn these emotions!

I'm distracting myself by applying for jobs like crazy. So many jobs out there in my field, but I'm sure there's lots of well qualified applicants, too. It's tough when I'm new in town and don't have contacts. But I know something will come through!

[jigsy]

I am atill waiting to hear back from the job I interviewed with last week. I emailed a brief follow-up/thank you, and received a response that was appreciative, yet non-committal/still reviewing our options/blah blah. Which is fine, but come on! I am PERFECT! HIRE ME!


I am also looking for a new apartment, maybe people want to weigh in based on limited details, lol.

Apartment One -
1 Bed/1 Bath, apartment in 20 something unit building. about 600sq ft., first floor, units above and on both sides
Walk Score 79 (just to give you an idea of city-ness)
Basic finishes, carpet - think builder basic from the 90's. Clean, nice, but nothing special.
According to google - 33 minutes to current office, 15 minutes to potential new office (fingers crossed!)

Apartment Two
2bed/1.5 bath, Condo in a 10 unit building, about 850 sqft, side by side units (middle), no one above
Walk score - 45
Recently renovated with higher end finishes. Wood floors, nice tile backsplash, etc.
According to google - 45 minutes to current office, 29 minutes to new potential office 

Google estimates are based on traffic, which is generally when I would be driving to work, lol. I won't get closer than apartment one, so those travel times are really the minimum I would get. Apartment one has the perk of having a current friend renting another unit, so neighbor I already know who would be happy to walk/care for Jiggles when I am out.

ETA: Rent is the same for both units.

[stephreloaded]

I am fighting with my brother. He has an awful marriage and his wife is the devil. We can't stand her but are always polite to her. This has distanced us from him and I was resentful a few years back but now I have come to terms with it. My brother is now complaining about how I am a bad sister and don't care about him after all he has done for me. I told him, you want to have a relationship with me? Do not bring her every single time you come visit because it gets annoying. Now I'm the shitty person in the equation.

[TR]

May 3, 2016 13:07:55 GMT -5 jigsy said:

I am also looking for a new apartment, maybe people want to weigh in based on limited details, lol.

Apartment One -
1 Bed/1 Bath, apartment in 20 something unit building. about 600sq ft., first floor, units above and on both sides
Walk Score 79 (just to give you an idea of city-ness)
Basic finishes, carpet - think builder basic from the 90's. Clean, nice, but nothing special.
According to google - 33 minutes to current office, 15 minutes to potential new office (fingers crossed!)

Apartment Two
2bed/1.5 bath, Condo in a 10 unit building, about 850 sqft, side by side units (middle), no one above
Walk score - 45
Recently renovated with higher end finishes. Wood floors, nice tile backsplash, etc.
According to google - 45 minutes to current office, 29 minutes to new potential office 

Google estimates are based on traffic, which is generally when I would be driving to work, lol. I won't get closer than apartment one, so those travel times are really the minimum I would get. Apartment one has the perk of having a current friend renting another unit, so neighbor I already know who would be happy to walk/care for Jiggles when I am out.

ETA: Rent is the same for both units.

Ooooooh that is TOUGH. I'd probably go with #1 because I hate longer commutes, am not too worried about finishes if I'm renting, and the walkability and the Jiggles sitter would be a big plus. The only thing tempting about the second one is the no one above you. And obv. a second bedroom, but only if you have frequent oot guests.

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jigsy I'm a fan of space, so I'd go with Apt. 2. However, being single with a dog ... I'd take the apt. with the most fun within walking distance.

[doglove]

I'd go with number one jigsy because I also hate commutes.

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jigsy I'd go with one because of walkscore and built in baby sitter. I would LOVE to have a 2nd bedroom but not at the expense of a less walkable neighborhood.

[calle28]

jigsy - Apt 1! Shorter commute, friend/dog walker.

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May 3, 2016 15:14:30 GMT -5 @32flavors said:

I've really enjoyed texting with a guy lately.

Life's short.  Give it a try.  You have nothing to lose.

[bl]

jigsy I absolutely love having space and updated furnishings, but I would give those up for shorter commutes and the built in babysitter for sure.

@32flavors if he can meet you sometime in the near future I would give it a shot. I wouldn't want to wait months, but if between your schedules and his willingness to come down you can make it work it can't hurt much.

[glitzyglow]

jigsy, I would pick apartment A. I have a friend that lives down the street who has been awesome in caring for my cat while I'm away...I'm so thankful for her willingness and it's made my life that much easier! I'm also very jealous of all my friends in the city who can walk to cool places from their homes (I cannot, except for a gas station, lol). And as someone who drives 45 minutes to work, the shorter commute time is very appealing. I spend almost 2 hours a day 5x a week just in my car. I used to live 15 minutes from my old job and I loved that commute. My evenings felt luxurious with all that time!

[lemons]

I'd lean towards #2 because it's been my experience that you hear neighbors less in condos compared to apartments and I'd like a 2nd bedroom for an office/guest room

[jigsy]

Thanks for the opinions...you are all probably right that I should stick with the more city-esque place. I just get distracted by pretty tile and wood floors and multiple levels and two parking spaces and such.

All things I definitely do not need. Especially since it is just Mr.Jiggles and I. And I can't be too mad at the carpet, because I have a roomba, so it's not like it really adds much work for me, lol.

But I am still seeing apt #2 (I've only seen pics) though I might be even less thrilled with the area based on the google street views I just looked up, lol.

[lemons]

Nothing too exciting for me. Getting late H's headstone ordered so it can be placed by the 1-year anniversary. I just have a few more decisions to make and then they start sending me designs based on the very rough draft I sent them today. Work has been crazy busy with 2 upcoming deployments.

[jojoandleo]

My sister had a seizure today. Yes, the one who gave birth yesterday. They think it was eclampsia. When she first came to, she didn't even know her birthday or who my mom was. . She's doing better know and remembers everyone, so we are hopeful she will be fine. They did a head CT, but don't have results yet. They have her on anti-seizure meds and said if she doesn't have another one in 24 hours, she is in the clear. I got to talk to her for a bit and she asked if I was coming back. I couldn't. I'm 7 hour away. I feel so helpless and small. I just want to hug my sister.

[bg]

OMG jojoandleo that's so scary! Healthy thoughts to her! I hope all remains well and she's in the clear.

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jojoandleo, big hugs! I hope it was just an eclampsia issue and nothing more.

[glitzyglow]

jojoandleo that is terrifying. I'm glad she's doing better. Hopefully the worst is past.

[bl]

jojoandleo Oh wow, how scary! Lots of thoughts her way that she is in the clear now and continues to recover well.

[sweetchix]

jojoandleo- how scary. I'm glad she's doing better and hope she continues to do so.

jigsy- as much as I'd like to say apt 2, those commute times are killing me. I'd have to go with 1.

bg- how was the interview? What was the most difficult question they asked? I ask because of my interview this Friday.