Really sounds like you just want someone to tell you it's ok to say no. It's your house, it's ok. But, it might cost you the friendship, which you sound like you don't care about anyway.
I did clarify about the stuff, she will be getting a storage unit. She is a very new friend, who I have only known about 2 months. There are some things I have seen that makes me not want to pursue the relationship, but right now we are new friends.
Well, you see, this would have been helpful to know upfront! I don't think I'd let someone I've only known for 2 months stay w/ me for 2 weeks. That's asking a LOT of someone you pretty much JUST met.
Agree.
People.
Please state all salient facts in your initial post.
If I knew she already had the lease signed and everything lined up and a couple weeks wouldn't turn into anything longer. I would let her, assuming I had a guest room for her and I wouldn't be triping over an air matress on the living room floor or something.
What "stuff" makes you not want to pursue the friendship? How did you meet her--Is this someone that you have to see/work with?
I'd probably just say "I talked to my husband and we don't think it's a good idea. He works odd hours and really struggles to get sleep. Having someone else here would be really hard on him. If it was only for a few nights it wouldn't be a big deal, but 2 weeks is too long. Have you asked either landlord about moving in 2 weeks earlier/later?"
Well now that you say you have known her for 2 months I would say no. And tell her what is posted above. 2 months is not a friend in my book, that is an acquaintance.
I did clarify about the stuff, she will be getting a storage unit. She is a very new friend, who I have only known about 2 months. There are some things I have seen that makes me not want to pursue the relationship, but right now we are new friends.
Well, you see, this would have been helpful to know upfront! I don't think I'd let someone I've only known for 2 months stay w/ me for 2 weeks. That's asking a LOT of someone you pretty much JUST met.
Well, now that I see you have only known her a couple months I would probably say no. And recommend an extended stay hotel for her.
Post by MadamePresident on May 17, 2012 16:07:11 GMT -5
2 months is a really short amount of time, unless you just connected really well and spend a lot of time together talking on the phone, etc.
My DH and I just offered to let a not close friend (but someone we have spent quality time with) stay with us for a few weeks. He just graduated college and got a job in our city at my DH's company. We said he would have to have a place by June when we were going on vacation. Fortunately, he was able to find an apartment pretty quick, so he didn't take us up on the offer, but I like to help my friends when I can.
Two weeks is, like, nothing. If I were her I would be pissed, but would realize that the two of you aren't really that close after all. It sounds like you don't want to pursue the friendship anyway, so problem solved.
I can't imagine saying no honestly. I would feel too bad. We had DH's 2nd cousin that he had met once living with us for a month when he moved the area. (He didn't know anyone else).
It was an inconvenience but really not that big of a deal.
Okay, now we need to know why you may no longer want to be friends with her. What is she like? What has she done?
Nothing too big, just small annoying things. For example, she always brags about how much she drinks and drives. This is not something I want my friends to do be doing and bragging about. She is also extremely desperate, and asks me to hook her up with 'cute single guys' LITERALLY once a day.
Um, never mind I wouldn't want to be friends with her either.
I did clarify about the stuff, she will be getting a storage unit. She is a very new friend, who I have only known about 2 months. There are some things I have seen that makes me not want to pursue the relationship, but right now we are new friends.
This is a totally different situation than your OP.
I would absolutely let a friend stay with me for 2 weeks. Even a "not close" friend. Yeah, it would be annoying but I would think of what I'd want someone to do if I were in her shoes, and I'd want someone to offer me a free place to stay rather than spending hundreds on saying in a hotel.
But if there are "things" that make you think you don't even like this person, then it is really a whole other story. In that case I'd say no.
i did this with my BFF of 12 years. Supposed to be 2 weeks...6 months later my engagment ring went missing and i had them arrested and kicked out of my house bc they wouldnt leave. Ruined my friendship. Luckily they gave me my Ering back. I will NEVER again let anyone stay at my house (unless its a vacation type deal)