Hello

[Dory1988]

Hi, I'm getting a divorce and LemonLover suggested I hop on over here. We were just going different places in our lives and aren't right for each other anymore (if we ever were). I still maintain contact and a casual friendship with him since we still have a lot of mutual friends but, basically I'm just trying to do me and figure out who I am right now. It's pretty exciting honestly. I hope to find some good advice and guidance and just people to talk to on his board.

[Deleted]

What has been your favorite thing to do since separating?

Mine was being "allowed" to go to a yoga studio to practice. And eating cereal for dinner.

[1confused1]

Welcome!

[sweetchix]

Hi and welcome. The SO group is very supportive and full of great advice.

[Dory1988]

I've been painting, eating a lot healthier, and going to the gym a lot more. They're all my favorite things to do so far. All things I didn't have time for or he didn't want to do.

[jojoandleo]

I feel like people are so much better at breakups than me. I drank copiously, fucked inappropriate men, and ate chocolate cake 4 times a day. None of this eating healthier and going to the gym stuff!

In other words, WELCOME! I can certainly give great advice on what NOT to do. I am also a huge fan of therapy because I LOVE talking about myself.

[Dory1988]

May 6, 2016 13:18:15 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I feel like people are so much better at breakups than me. I drank copiously, fucked inappropriate men, and ate chocolate cake 4 times a day. None of this eating healthier and going to the gym stuff!

In other words, WELCOME! I can certainly give great advice on what NOT to do. I am also a huge fan of therapy because I LOVE talking about myself.

Don't get me wrong I had a few weeks where I was a total shit show. I drank a lot and couldn't eat at all. I couldn't adult at all. Then I got tasked for a deployment (ended up getting cancelled) but that was like a wake up that I needed to get my crap together.

[bg]

Welcome! I'm glad you're enjoying finding yourself again. That is definitely a good part of starting over.

[jojoandleo]

May 6, 2016 13:40:48 GMT -5 Dory1988 said:

May 6, 2016 13:18:15 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I feel like people are so much better at breakups than me. I drank copiously, fucked inappropriate men, and ate chocolate cake 4 times a day. None of this eating healthier and going to the gym stuff!

In other words, WELCOME! I can certainly give great advice on what NOT to do. I am also a huge fan of therapy because I LOVE talking about myself.

Don't get me wrong I had a few weeks where I was a total shit show. I drank a lot and couldn't eat at all. I couldn't adult at all. Then I got tasked for a deployment (ended up getting cancelled) but that was like a wake up that I needed to get my crap together.

It took me gaining 20lbs and none of my clothes fitting to change my habits.  Then I joined a gym and was told that according to that thing they use to pinch/measure your fat, I would be considered obese.    I never went back, and in fact, haven't been a real gym since then.  Instead, I changed my eating habits and started ballroom dancing/Piyo. 

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May 6, 2016 13:53:17 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

May 6, 2016 13:40:48 GMT -5 Dory1988 said:

Don't get me wrong I had a few weeks where I was a total shit show. I drank a lot and couldn't eat at all. I couldn't adult at all. Then I got tasked for a deployment (ended up getting cancelled) but that was like a wake up that I needed to get my crap together.

It took me gaining 20lbs and none of my clothes fitting to change my habits.  Then I joined a gym and was told that according to that thing they use to pinch/measure your fat, I would be considered obese.    I never went back, and in fact, haven't been a real gym since then.  Instead, I changed my eating habits and started ballroom dancing/Piyo. 

uhhh fuck them. 

[brooke77]

Hi! A lot of what you wrote sounds similar to how I felt/feel. It's exciting to not have life planned all out for you.

What new things are you planning on trying?

[Dory1988]

May 6, 2016 14:13:14 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

Hi! A lot of what you wrote sounds similar to how I felt/feel. It's exciting to not have life planned all out for you.

What new things are you planning on trying?

I actually joined an outdoors group locally. They do camping, kyaking, hiking, etc. I've been working during most of the events so far but there's one at the end of May I'm planning to participate in.

[Deleted]

Welcome!  It's great to be able to find your own identity again!  

[cuddlyevil]

I started meeting up with old friends and ladies from gbcn.

I also started getting back into things that I loved before I got married.

Through work, I was connected to a choir and am now a proud member of the largest young professionals choral group in the country. I am on good terms with my ex too, but it was refreshing to get back out and explore my city. I have made awesome friends and discovered amazing restaurants and hang out spots.

I feel like me.

[asoctoberfalls]

Welcome!

[katieido]

Getting divorced is like recalibration of your life. It can feel really scary and unclear what will happen next. .. but with time, you'll find yourself again. That's what I have to believe.

[glynn]

Welcome!!!

[thedutchgirl]

Welcome!

[pandora]

Welcome! Great group on here with big hearts and tons of wisdom.