Hi and questions

[momof2ms]

Hi, I'm new here . I've been reading the board for a bit and I have a couple questions.

Are there any book you'd recommend for going through the divorce process? It seems like I could really use a thorough checklist of things to make sure we include in our divorce agreement and also when it's best to do what and in what order.

Anyone deal with a STBXH who is unable to pay for their own place big enough to accommodate the kids? Mine has considerable debt from gambling issues and realistically is probably looking at a 1 bedroom apartment at the most.

Lastly, I've seen it mentioned often about documenting certain events or behaviors- are there any guidelines for what things that would be and to what detail? It makes me feel petty to do that for so many little things but it makes sense to me in terms of explaining patterns.

[abcdefu]

Welcome momof2ms,

I'm sorry you have found yourself here. This is not legal advice. I am not sure what state you are in, but if your husband has a gambling problem, and he used marital funds to feed his habit, you may want to document that, such as credit card advances, withdraws from ATMs in the casinos, etc.

If your husband is unable to obtain a suitable residence, sometimes the court will not allow overnight visitation until he can secure a proper residence. It also depends the ages and gender of your children. If you have two small sons, your ex can sleep on the couch and the children can share the bedroom. KWIM.

[acr]

Ds has never had his own room at xh's. They'd share a bed for a while and when xh stays with his girlfriend, my son seems to sleep on the floor or share a bed with one of her kids. Honestly I just figure it will work out over time. Ds doesn't complain about it and eventually he'll want his own space and ask for it. It sucks, but I pick my battles. He comes home tired, that's for sure.

[momof2ms]

May 14, 2016 15:38:08 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Welcome momof2ms,

I'm sorry you have found yourself here. This is not legal advice. I am not sure what state you are in, but if your husband has a gambling problem, and he used marital funds to feed his habit, you may want to document that, such as credit card advances, withdraws from ATMs in the casinos, etc.

If your husband is unable to obtain a suitable residence, sometimes the court will not allow overnight visitation until he can secure a proper residence. It also depends the ages and gender of your children. If you have two small sons, your ex can sleep on the couch and the children can share the bedroom. KWIM.

Thanks! When you say marital funds, do you mean from a joint account? We each get a allowance to use for personal needs but there are also times where he will rack up the credit card and then ask for help in paying it down.

[dancelnow]

May 17, 2016 16:29:04 GMT -5 momof2ms said:

May 14, 2016 15:38:08 GMT -5 abcdefu said:

Welcome momof2ms,

I'm sorry you have found yourself here. This is not legal advice. I am not sure what state you are in, but if your husband has a gambling problem, and he used marital funds to feed his habit, you may want to document that, such as credit card advances, withdraws from ATMs in the casinos, etc.

If your husband is unable to obtain a suitable residence, sometimes the court will not allow overnight visitation until he can secure a proper residence. It also depends the ages and gender of your children. If you have two small sons, your ex can sleep on the couch and the children can share the bedroom. KWIM.

Thanks! When you say marital funds, do you mean from a joint account? We each get a allowance to use for personal needs but there are also times where he will rack up the credit card and then ask for help in paying it down.

That depends on your state, but in my state even if you did separate accounts, it's all considered joint property for purposes of divorce.