Wednesday Randoms

[glitzyglow]

I think I've moved beyond sinus issues into having a cold. I would love to go home and rest/sleep, but most of my coworkers are out-of-town and there is no one to cover my job if I leave. My job isn't overly taxing, but it would feel great to just sleep this cold away.

I'm thinking about joining Tinder again. I haven't been on it since March after that terrible, awful date. I'm just bored and when I'm not active on the online stuff, I feel like there's no chance of meeting someone, where as when I'm active I feel like there's a sliver of hope.

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I'm on coffee meets bagels and I'm out of bagels in less than a week. I assume I need to tweak my profile. I only see new people on the "discover" portion.

[glitzyglow]

May 18, 2016 11:44:17 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I'm on coffee meets bagels and I'm out of bagels in less than a week. I assume I need to tweak my profile. I only see new people on the "discover" portion.

I had very little luck on CMB and ran out of Bagels fairly quickly, too. I don't think it has the popularity that others have, so not a lot of people use it.

[bg]

I'm working through dissertation revisions and I'm finding new fun ways to procrastinate in between making changes. I never wear a ton of makeup but this morning I decided to put on eye makeup. There's no reason for me to wear any makeup today. I'm volunteering this afternoon so I guess at least it'll go to some use.

[TR]

I posted this in my Wednesday Random thread on ML, but it's SO related so:

I'm so pissed about a phone call with my mom last night. We were talking about my moving in with my BF and she was just really condescending and dismissive AND took the opportunity to throw something in my face that I said awhile ago in a weird context and I had to get off the phone before I literally cussed her out. I don't think we'll be speaking for a few days and I'm reminded AGAIN that I can't share personal things with her because then she takes it as an invitation to comment like it's her business. Hopefully this time I learn for good. It's easy to slip back into old habits.

I feel like this is a time she should be happy for me, but a) it's my second time around and I honestly think she thinks that makes it all less special (she's mentioned how OF COURSE we wouldn't do a big wedding and OF COURSE I don't need a diamond engagement ring {I don't even WANT a big wedding or a diamond engagement ring, but if I did I could fucking have one!}) and b) she's pissed we're probably moving so she can't be happy for anything involving the relationship.

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May 18, 2016 11:48:01 GMT -5 glitzyglow said:

May 18, 2016 11:44:17 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

I'm on coffee meets bagels and I'm out of bagels in less than a week. I assume I need to tweak my profile. I only see new people on the "discover" portion.

I had very little luck on CMB and ran out of Bagels fairly quickly, too. I don't think it has the popularity that others have, so not a lot of people use it.

I'm actually seeing a lot of dentists and doctors. I'm wondering if having only an associates is bringing my dating game down! Lol

[glitzyglow]

@lemonlover, mine has lots of musicians, unfortunately. Music City problems!

[glitzyglow]

Sorry TR that she's not being supportive or acting happy for you. That's hard and not at all fair to you.

[brooke77]

TR - That sucks! Moving in together is exciting! I don't understand why having had a past relationship/marriage makes this relationship less special. Try not to let it bother you.

I should be getting divorced tomorrow (which will be finalized in 120 days) if all goes well. My ex and I are filing the papers with the judge at the courthouse! We are doing this all on our own without lawyers so I'm praying all our papers are in order. FINALLY!!!!

[sweetchix]

glitzyglow, @lemonlover, tell me about this CMB? You run out of bagels???

[sweetchix]

I have to finish cleaning my house tonight as well as finish the laundry. My sister, brother, and his gf are coming up tomorrow as a surprise for my mom's bday. My brother and his gf will likely stay with me for a night or 2. If not, well, at least the house is clean, right?

[sweetchix]

May 18, 2016 15:22:08 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

TR - That sucks! Moving in together is exciting! I don't understand why having had a past relationship/marriage makes this relationship less special. Try not to let it bother you.

I should be getting divorced tomorrow (which will be finalized in 120 days) if all goes well. My ex and I are filing the papers with the judge at the courthouse! We are doing this all on our own without lawyers so I'm praying all our papers are in order. FINALLY!!!!

I'm liking this not only because you're divorce will be over in 120 days. Mine took a year, but I'm not sure if it would have been quicker had XH not dragged his feet about everything!!!

Also, because you had 666 likes.

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May 18, 2016 15:55:32 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

glitzyglow , @lemonlover , tell me about this CMB? You run out of bagels???

It's a dating app and they present you with bagels (men) that match your criteria every day. I haven't had new bagels in days. There's a second area in the app where you can view bagels that don't totally fit your criteria (discovery mode). It usually is JUST out of the age range or out of my area (I think I did 25 mile radius) and some in my discovery are almost 50 miles away. Eff off CMB. 50 miles could take hours to drive where I live! 

[brooke77]

May 18, 2016 15:59:06 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

May 18, 2016 15:22:08 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

TR - That sucks! Moving in together is exciting! I don't understand why having had a past relationship/marriage makes this relationship less special. Try not to let it bother you.

I should be getting divorced tomorrow (which will be finalized in 120 days) if all goes well. My ex and I are filing the papers with the judge at the courthouse! We are doing this all on our own without lawyers so I'm praying all our papers are in order. FINALLY!!!!

I'm liking this not only because you're divorce will be over in 120 days. Mine took a year, but I'm not sure if it would have been quicker had XH not dragged his feet about everything!!!

Also, because you had 666 likes.

Ha! Thanks! It has taken us almost a year to even agree on the paperwork (we separated last June).  We have no kids, had completely separate finances, and made pretty similar salaries.  Except for the house, which we only bought a few years ago, there was NO reason for him to completely stall this process.  I'm praying all goes well tomorrow and in 120 days (ugh more waiting!) I'll finally, finally, finally be done!

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May 18, 2016 16:23:45 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

May 18, 2016 15:59:06 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I'm liking this not only because you're divorce will be over in 120 days. Mine took a year, but I'm not sure if it would have been quicker had XH not dragged his feet about everything!!!

Also, because you had 666 likes.

Ha! Thanks! It has taken us almost a year to even agree on the paperwork (we separated last June).  We have no kids, had completely separate finances, and made pretty similar salaries.  Except for the house, which we only bought a few years ago, there was NO reason for him to completely stall this process.  I'm praying all goes well tomorrow and in 120 days (ugh more waiting!) I'll finally, finally, finally be done!

Who knows what goes through their brains. My XH actually said "I still want to divorce you but I think we should start dating each other again"

WTF. No. I know some people reconcile and get back together after divorce but just no... I felt so relieved with my divorce. 

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The online dating thing is so frustrating, think I need to sign off for a while. But then, like OP said, it makes me feel like I'm completely removing myself from any sliver of hope. I hate that I'm so focused on "finding someone" - how do I stop?! I need a hobby or 2 or 3.

[itsmyparty]

I had coffee with a guy I met from OLD over the weekend. It was nice, the hour flew by, and we've been texting heavily since. We're making plans to get together again next week. At first I was really uncomfortable with the idea of going on a date of any kind with a man since the divorce is not yet final. But then I said to myself, "Self, you've been neglected for far too long as it is, and you don't deserve more isolation just because your husband in another state (and the legal process) has been tying things up."

Also texting with another guy from OLD that is in a similar situation to me and it's really more of a sexual connection, I think. I'm really tempted to pursue it just for fun.

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May 18, 2016 17:07:40 GMT -5 @blushnbashful said:

The online dating thing is so frustrating, think I need to sign off for a while. But then, like OP said, it makes me feel like I'm completely removing myself from any sliver of hope. I hate that I'm so focused on "finding someone" - how do I stop?! I need a hobby or 2 or 3.

I do yoga classes and read. These are not social hobbies  

I feel like meeting someone in "the wild" would be unlikely for me because of my job and habits. Plus I'm a homebody and I do not sit at bars alone. When my friend and I go out, people think we are a couple. I call her my cock blocker. 

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It's my birthday! I have a press conference tomorrow but in the meantime...

[sweetchix]

May 18, 2016 18:39:37 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

It's my birthday! I have a press conference tomorrow but in the meantime...

Hapot birthday!

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Happy Birthday @pdx18!!!! Hope it's a great one!!!

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TR, I'm sorry that your mom made you feel that way.  I can relate because my mom also makes my life difficult at times that should be happy. Hugs.  Good luck with the move!!

[alleinesein]

@pdx18 Happy Birthday!

I walked to Vons because I wanted something sweet and I ended up with a pint of ice cream, cinnamon rolls and 2 packages of cookies. I couldn't decide what I wanted so I got everything that sounded good!

[Linie]

May 18, 2016 16:23:45 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

May 18, 2016 15:59:06 GMT -5 sweetchix said:

I'm liking this not only because you're divorce will be over in 120 days. Mine took a year, but I'm not sure if it would have been quicker had XH not dragged his feet about everything!!!

Also, because you had 666 likes.

Ha! Thanks! It has taken us almost a year to even agree on the paperwork (we separated last June).  We have no kids, had completely separate finances, and made pretty similar salaries.  Except for the house, which we only bought a few years ago, there was NO reason for him to completely stall this process.  I'm praying all goes well tomorrow and in 120 days (ugh more waiting!) I'll finally, finally, finally be done!

Good luck! I have set a meeting with the notary on May 24 to sign the papers. Hoping that STBXH will have the 1 paper he needs to bring and that all goes smoothly....

[stephreloaded]

May 18, 2016 18:39:37 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

It's my birthday! I have a press conference tomorrow but in the meantime...

Happy Belated birthday!!! I hope you had an amazing day.