Why XH, why? (re:$)

[sweetchix]

Oh XH, why do you always need to be an ass when it comes to $ We get along fine with everything else, but money really brings his assholeness out.

So my spousal support ended in April. When that happened, child support was supposed to go up to make up some of the difference. As long as we agree to an amount, we can just do it ouselves. I originally thought having it go up $25/week would be fine, and told him that, but then I added something like "unless your gross went up significantly because I didn't want to get screwed out of support I should be getting" and I asked him to provide a pic of his 2015 tax return to prove what his gross was. He flipped out on me. Saying he's the one getting screwed because he's already paying me x amount in child support plus half the after school care that *I* need, plus gas and etc, etc. He's not even paying the full amount that he should be paying. I told him that he needs to stop thinking that the money he's paying me is for me to spend on shits and giggles. It is for me to provide the necessities for our children and to provide for them as best as is possible.

I don't understand why he doesn't get it. But, he was an ass about money when we were married, which is part of the reason we divorced, so I guess I should have expected this. Ugh!!!! 

ETA: feel free to add your X rants as well.

[Deleted]

...If you're the one needing the after-school care then obviously he has the ability to watch the kids after school? k. Whatever dude. He's an asswipe.

Does your state have a calculator to use for CS? If not, can you take him to court and ask for him to pay legal fees if he's not paying what he's supposed to be and won't agree to the proper increase?


I don't talk to my XH. No need. I haven't heard from him since late 2012. Miracles do happen.

[sweetchix]

May 25, 2016 23:31:50 GMT -5 @lemonlover said:

...If you're the one needing the after-school care then obviously he has the ability to watch the kids after school? k. Whatever dude. He's an asswipe.

Does your state have a calculator to use for CS? If not, can you take him to court and ask for him to pay legal fees if he's not paying what he's supposed to be and won't agree to the proper increase?


I don't talk to my XH. No need. I haven't heard from him since late 2012. Miracles do happen.

Yes. He has a "flexible" work schedule so he can pick them up after school. I don't so I need the after school care. Our agreement states that childcare costs needed due to a parent needing it while at work, in school... Would be split 50/50. I had to take him to court over this because he refused to pay. Then, he had the balls to tell the judge he wanted me to reimburse him for gas and mileage because he had to drive them to and from school on his days. Sorry dude, that is your responsibility as a parent. You chose to keep the house 10 miles away. You agreed for them to go to this school district, the best public school district in our area. Deal with it. That was basically what the judge told him. Oh. And he represented himself at that hearing.

Also, because we share 50/50 custody, the amount he would have to pay was reduced. It's spelled out in our agreement. But, way back when, my attorney just said "how about $150/week" and that was it. I tried calculating to see what it really worked out to be with the reduction and he really should have been paying about $15 more/week. But now, because I mentioned increasing it by $25, he said that implies that I feel that is an appropriate increase. Well yeah, as long as his pay didn't go up significantly. If he got a large increase, my support should reflect that. He doesn't get that.

[stephreloaded]

That is really annoying. Is there anyway that you can get an administrative review with a CS enforcement office?

I shouldn't be giving any advice though. DD's dad is also like this with money. We got out CS order back in 2010 and I have been a chicken and haven't requested a review. I'm sure he makes more but I do as well.

[glynn]

With my olders kids Dad we stayed in court until they got out of school. I had to fight for every penny and medical bill to be paid..... So far DD2's Dad is complied but June will be the first month he actually has to pay me CS so we will see. He has paid all the medical stuff which is a lot.

[Deleted]

I hate when my brother bitches about child support. "I don't want to pay HER more". I told him to shut up because he's paying for his kids, not his ex-wife. It's a child support trickle down and makes me laugh because my brother's wife gets child support from her son's dad. My brother pays his CS for his to kids to his XW. The XW is married to a guy with two kids and he pays CS for his two kids.

I have a weird curiosity as to what the amounts are and if they could skip the middleman and just have my brother's stepson's dad pay my brother's ex-wife's husband's ex-wife child support since that's where it's going.

[1confused1]

You know I feel your pain. Hope he pulls his head out of his ass!

[FormerlyRR]

May 26, 2016 8:20:28 GMT -5 stephreloaded said:

That is really annoying. Is there anyway that you can get an administrative review with a CS enforcement office?

Yes, go through the state for this. Have them request a review and then have it all paid through them.